1y ago

Where do you think this instance is going and where would you like it to go?

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What I miss is normal nudes, the subreddit. The place for unposed nudes to show different body types, anybody, no boners and no advertising for your paid site; with a "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all unless poster asked specifically for critique" comment policy.
Also nakedprogress. I miss the nonsexual nudes sites I guess.
Other than that, I don't think what else I want is possible, all NSFW sites are just guy driven with nearly everything for men's taste. That I don't think can be adjusted if the audience is overwhelmingly male.l, it's not a problem with lemmynsfw, just a state of the world thing.
I think it's going OK overall, growing slowly and organically seems the way to go.
- I really miss the normalnudes community too and the nakedprogress communities were always so supportive.
  Other than that, I don't think what else I want is possible
  Out of curiosity, what exactly are you looking for if you don't mind me asking?
  
  Oh, just a space more balanced between men and women. I wouldn't have any idea how to draw in more women, really have no idea even if my own preferences are typical.
  
  Just so I'm clear in interpreting what you're saying, are you implying that there is too much male content or that you would like to see a better 50/50 balance?
  
  I think it's mostly just because lemmy in general is more filled with men, and men are the market for most all of the pro sex world, so almost all the content is made specifically to appeal to men, and some of it incidentally appeals to women (or some of us) but not on purpose.
  
  Unfortunately that's most of the porn world in general and not a Lemmy specific issue I'm afraid 🫤 The smaller, techier community certainly skews that a bit further too.
  As a bi man I know what appeals to me, but having women come around even if it's just to leer isn't ever a bad thing and would probably be healthy for this place. Do you have any specific kind of content that appeals to you that you wish you could find?
  
  You mean appeals like a turn-on? Back in the days of print magazines, we used to have a porn addled friend who worked at a sex shop, had an enormous collection and would bring us boxes of porn, and every time he showed up, he'd say "And Forums, for the ladies!" I think he was pretty spot on. I do enjoy nudes, all genders, but more in a happy or interested way not usually much of a turn on? Except for the ones with implied power play, man in charge, or the 2 bi men 1 woman ones, those are hot. But mostly stories are where it's at.
  
  Yeah, I was mostly asking what kind of things work for you since you're right about most posts being male focused. That's good to keep in mind and I appreciate you sharing.
  There is !erotica@lemmynsfw.com that sees posts semi-regularly if you weren't already aware. I don't know that there's enough to hold you over if you're persistently lascivious, but it's better than nothing.

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