(Fixed post) update of what happened with my girlfriend and me discussing with them
Emma (16) keeps harassing my GF (18), and accusing her of SA. This is pissing me off so much as her boyfriend.
Emma sounds very unstable, WTF??
...except for when they ate lunch and Alex touched her thigh.
Am I correct in assuming the thigh touch (whether it did or didn't happen) is what Emma is calling SA and saying Alex "molested" Clare by doing? Because if so, that really seems like a reach. I mean sure, if the touch was on the inner, upper thigh, that's not on. But if it was a friendly touch on the mid-thigh in a like "hold up, I have something silly to say" kind of way then that's just, normal friendliness? So even if it did happen, if it was the latter, I'd be really concerned that Emma had convinced Clare it was something it wasn't.
I personally am not fond of Alex because of her disability...
The fact that she said this, then in the same message said she thought you should break up with her is just so messed up. It's like she truly believed everyone else is as hateful as her and so said the quiet part out loud? Not that it changes how ableist this is, but I'm curious what the nature of Alex's disability is, if you're up for sharing OP.
I think Clare handled things really well, and Emma's reaction at the end is pretty telling honestly. I also just wanted to ask, what's the relevancy to c/lesbians? Is it because whatever didn't happen between Clare and Alex would have been sapphic? Or do you identify as a he/him lesbian OP?
Edit: Oh! I think I saw Alex's post about this elsewhere on Lemmy? I remember Emma saying she has Autism. Then when Alex said he has ADHD, Emma called him the R slur. Is that the disability she's referencing above? Seems super messed up to hate on someone else for being neurodivergent when you are. What a bloody unpleasant person, I hope y'all are able to keep away from her now.
Alex is genderfluid and sapphic (bi)
Also, I didn’t know where else to put this. Alex says she never touched her thigh and that Emma says she’s weird even for touching someone’s shoulder. Emma also humps people (not joking) but is mean to Alex and thinks she’s gross even if she touches their shoulder.
The disability is in fact ADHD
Yeah I really just think Emma's bad news. Rules for thee, but not for me kind of stuff. I'd strongly suggest the both of you stay away from her. She seems like she's seeking out attention, and will manipulate others to get it.
That's so messed up about the disability stuff. I think the issue for her is that it takes attention from her honestly. That's the only thing that makes sense, because I just can't understand not liking someone for being neurodivergent when she is as well. That's coming from someone with Autism and ADHD as well.
oh damn. this is terrible.
Took the links from your post and added line breaks to make it clear in which order to read them.