4d ago

2meirl4irl

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Reminder for everyone that feels like this; you can at least try to change things for yourself. You can try to get a different job, you can try finding a new place to live, you can try a new hobby, try something at least (maybe not drugs though, that's a start for a rough life). Maybe you don't succeed now, but by not trying you will definitely be stuck where you are.
Make some plans, dream about stuff, don't just lie down and let the orphan crushing machine grind you to pieces. Unless you want to, that is
- This kind of advice is incredibly infantilizing. Do you think people aren't trying? Have you considered that people don't have the opportunity to make those changes due to the material circumstances they are being forced into due to systemic forces beyond their immediate control?
  Blaming the individual for being crushed under the weight of systemic violence is such a reductive position to argue from.
  
  The reality is that even if you are stuck and there's nothing you can do, the only thing keeping you alive might just be the belief that things can still change. To survive in this shitty world one sometimes needs to hear they can infact at least try to affect the world around them, or what else? That there's no hope and it's better to just suffer? I'm not saying anyone is at fault for not having the strenght to fight it, or responsible for their troubles because they can't solve them - maybe they can't, like I personally can't. Giving up just changes nothing at all
- Depending on your boss, telling your boss could be a good idea. That advice is only good if you trust and like your boss. Otherwise it's the quickest way to the unemployment line.
  
  I'm still haunted by the coincidence that I was fired days after finally admitting to my mentor that I was feeling burned out for months.
  I say "coincidence" because other stuff was happening at the same time and my mentor wasn't in the same office as me or my supervisor. But I remember, at the end of one week, he told me to reach out to my supervisor and talk to them about maybe getting some extra time off to reset, and, the start of the next week, I got called into the office and let go.
  
  One nice thing about my job is my boss gets it. He can't do anything about it and is in basically the same boat but he understands how I'm overloaded and going to miss deadlines because I don't have enough bandwidth to do everything that we're asked for. As long as I keep him updated on the status of things and prioritize them properly we're good.

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