Being treated pretty much the same after a revelation can be confusing.
It’s actually a fairly common situation with parents who are allies. When the parents just shrug and carry on, the children often end up coming out multiple times.
They have built up this huge monster in their heads. And when they just get treated the same as before, it breaks their entire preconception about what coming out would be. So they tend to go “oh, my parents didn’t understand me”, so they come out again. Then “they didn’t believe me”, so they come out again. Then “they must think I was joking”, so they come out again.
Meanwhile the parents are like “buddy we checked your browser history when you were like 12, because you were an idiot child on the internet and we wanted to be sure you were staying safe. We’ve known longer than you have. You can chill.”
I know that feel.
It's weird, all that weight off your shoulders but nothing is different other than that reduction in anxiety.
It was only partly a joke.
And it was your heart on the line. He really fucked it up this time didn't he my dear, didn't he my dear?
We should make this a more common thing. You don't know what to say? Just recommend a song you enjoyed recently. Just maybe think about it for a second before hand.
Though, I don't know, maybe someone recommending Long Live The Queen after Grandma passes would work out?
Haha! Not sure I'd call it that, but I have listened to it an inordinate number of times in the past few days and am responsible for more than a few views of Blastbeat Felafel.
I’d handle that situation the same way I handle compliments, say thank you and pretend like nothing happened, just stare blankly at the person and move on to the first unrelated thing that comes to mind.
I responded the same way each time.
"Oh, let me update your contact entry in my phone real quick."
Being treated pretty much the same after a revelation can be confusing.
It’s actually a fairly common situation with parents who are allies. When the parents just shrug and carry on, the children often end up coming out multiple times.
They have built up this huge monster in their heads. And when they just get treated the same as before, it breaks their entire preconception about what coming out would be. So they tend to go “oh, my parents didn’t understand me”, so they come out again. Then “they didn’t believe me”, so they come out again. Then “they must think I was joking”, so they come out again.
Meanwhile the parents are like “buddy we checked your browser history when you were like 12, because you were an idiot child on the internet and we wanted to be sure you were staying safe. We’ve known longer than you have. You can chill.”
I know that feel.
It's weird, all that weight off your shoulders but nothing is different other than that reduction in anxiety.
It was only partly a joke.