Dragon Rider banned from a bunch of communities

good thing it wasn’t (source: i was the third party recipient of those shared DMs; they were fully irrelevant to admin/mod action, abusive or otherwise)

It's private in the sense that the DMs were made between 2 people. They are public in the sense that the admins of the instance(s) can read the DMs. Just like admins of any server can read anything that's not encrypted at source.

since the text is too small to be readable, nobody can tell; but in any case, privacy matters regardless of the classification. If drag cared they could've asked Ada beforehand if it would be okay.

But I guess courtesy is a one-way to drag.

It ultimately isn't surprising. Drag has been very sus from the beginning, drag exhibited a lot of behaviors that made me leery. Though at the time I didn't say anything since it was only a hunch and most people were just voicing transphobic complaints about pronouns.

That's your opinion, but many people do not agree with you. I myself would be pissed if you shared our DM convo without asking me first, or even letting me know you were going to. I can see why Ada would and why she did what she did, it's disrespectful and adversarial.

Single party consent, as I myself put my foot in yesterday, is by far not the norm.

But also there was always the chance that they’re just someone on a journey or with things to sort out.

I can agree with this, but the part that's missing is that sometimes what someone needs to hear on their journey is "My person you are OUT OF YOUR MIND right now, please come back to your fucking senses and knock this shit off because we care about you."

If Drag was trolling, the troll was exposing how shallow non-binary acceptance is for your average "progressive."

"Not feeding the troll" in that case is treating their request with a minimal level of respect, and that was simply too much inconvenience for 90% of Lemmy.world and a very potent reminder of why trans and enby folks need their own spaces.

Including some people in this thread with an axe to grind and no self awareness to stop it.

I personally don’t think they were a troll but I am also not sure I agree with banning people for not remembering or wanting to use their unusual pronouns.

But I am not well-educated on the topic of neopronouns so if someone feels like educating me or suggesting some readings I am open to it.

DragonRider's pronouns are "Drag" not "they", just because someone is a dick doesn't mean you don't respect pronouns. Gender isn't a reward for good behavior.

Drag is just someone with an unusual gender, bot has no qualms with that. Perhaps you should use Tumblr if you wanna see more people with out-there gender identities, the trans Tumblr community is part of the reason bot still uses that site

Blahaj said you have to respect everyone's pronouns, even if you think they are trolling, because it's not up for debate and you don't get to set conditions before you start calling someone by the right appelations. Fair enough.

A user figured out that meant they could identify as a dragon, tell everyone their pronouns were "drag," and get people banned from blahaj for not saying "drag," or trying to tell this person that drag weren't actually a dragon. Blahaj, in the mode of overly well-intentioned leftists throughout all history, bought into it hard and obediently virtue-signaled by banning anyone who pointed out that drag was taking the piss. Presumably, drag laughed dragself out of dragr chair every time it happened. Drag also tended to display other fun behavior like encouraging other users to commit suicide, if I remember right.

Apparently, blahaj has finally figured it out. I eagerly await whatever overcorrection or other type of continuingly-counterproductive drama is going to ensue now. Presumably, some new user will emerge with some other type of bizarre edge case in the "official correct morality" that everyone is required to agree on, to instigate everyone to get into slap fights over.

I can’t remember the exact details but I believe at least a few people were banned for suggesting that drag was a troll and refusing to use their preferred neopronouns.

Drag can't control how drag's friends talk. If drag were writing their posts for them, drag would be a lot more careful. Unfortunately, drag doesn't use disguised alts, and drag's friends write their own comments themselves. And drag is friends with other queer neurodivergent people who have personalities and values similar to drag's.

Hey, it's not sexual harassment, and you're transphobic for saying calling out his bad behavior! Also, he's just being quirky when he suggested people kill themselves!

Wow don’t share your DMs with us! Ban Snowpix for revealing the content of DMs.

Or creating hateful communities to personally harass and target you. It's already happened to me twice.

I read that in their voice.

?????

No drag doesn't. Drag has never done that.

Maybe, I wrote this because lemmy.zip geoblocks the UK so I had to use my VPN to see the image.

Demigodrick (zip admin) reached out on matrix to say they were adding pictrs to their geoblock bypass, so now pictures from zip are viewable from the UK.

And when those alts call themselves “drag” what do you think will happen?

They and I had a talk about that. I asked what their neo-pronouns would be if they followed the three basic courtesy rules, and they responded saying I could stick to they/them. They and anyone else are free to correct me if I relapse into he/him.

That's really weird, because this is what Leni's comment looks like on drag's screen:

How would anyone know it's them?

They gave me permission to use they/them.