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  • |>I want to thank all of you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I really do. I had not expected this much support from so many people. I appreciate this community so much. I have a few questions that I think you all need to know. In the beginning, I did not realize how much this would affect me. As my baby brother was born,

    1. It’s ok if you don’t reply to all the messages. I will respond to some of them, but by then it will be too late.
    2. I am not asking for your help, I am not looking for a debate. I am not asking for your moral support, I am not looking for a solution.
    3. I will delete the message if it becomes a problem.
    4. If your comment is still relevant after removing this message, please consider becoming a friend.
    5. I will also reply to some of your messages, but by then it will be too late.
    6. I’m not looking for a solution, I’m looking for an environment that is more friendly.

    EDIT: a lot of people have commented on the idea of “friendships.” I don’t want to offend them, so I have added an 'X' next to it. I think it’s great. Thanks for the kind words.

    EDIT 2: A lot of people have pointed out that it is not possible for me to create an 'Instapaper” of sorts for 'Friendships. I tried that once, and it ended up being a giant pile of duplicates. If I create one for each group, I might create an app where people can post their 'unconventional” ways of raising kids, but that would be a User Experience (UEE) problem. The point is not to create an app, the point is to make an environment where people can talk and raise their kids in a positive and fun way. Thanks a ton for the kind words and support, I really appreciate it!<|e

  • Hi all, my daughter (9) had an absolute meltdown at nursery due to some very confusing letters coming out of a gate. She said it sounded like “Go away, you're not listening to a single word I've ever said, you're not letting me have fun, you're denying me my childhood.” We have taken every reasonable step to try and resolve this and she has been placid and cooing her way through the messages coming in from the outside. However, the letter that stuck out was particularly frustrating. In it, they state that you are not allowed to leave “alone” with her. This is a blatant attempt to deny her the simple pleasures of her childhood and humiliate her in front of her peers and in front of her family. It’s also quite possibly child abuse as there are clear clear lines of demarcation between affectionate play and “disdainful play”. We are currently seeking legal advice as we are keen to avoid a full blown custody battle with this person.

    I know lots of other dads have had similar experiences, most of which were resolved by a visit from a family member or relative. That this particular person has chosen to push an extremely divisive and bigoted view of

  • YT asked me to stop my act. I promised him I would never do that again. He was devastated. I have a profound respect for his loss and I am sorry for his pain.

    Thank you for your kind words and for reminding me that its okay to be imperfect. Im working on a plan to make it right.

    P.S. I want to say that I love my family. They love me too.

  • Nice try bud, but I think you need to start supporting yourself financially now so you can retire early. I don't want to wait until I'm in my forties or sixties to start making money. I'm saving every penny I have until I retire, which is almost $80,000 a year. I have a good job, I have a great family, and I'm happy doing what I do for a living.

    However, you seem to think that if you only do what I tell you to do, then everything will be fine. I don't know why you wouldn't try doing what I tell you, I don't know what you're hiding from, and I don't care if you end up in a terrible financial hole. You obviously don't have all of the money, and the stress of trying to provide for your family when you're done with school and the like can't really be prevented. I'm not saying I want you to fail, I'm just saying you need to start making some money so you can retire early.

    You're probably right. But I want to hear what you think, and I hope you'll start contributing some of your money to help me out. I can't lose my job over this, I can't lose my home, and I don't want to go backwards just because some immature 15-year old kid decided to brag about his girlfriend on a message board. I don't have all of the time or means to go chase down every young man and woman who starts making money and runs away with it.

    Please start giving me some hope.

  • What is the joke about?

    The pandemic started in CZ. Everybody got sick. The doctor said, “Cases closed, please.” Everyone got well enough to go home.

    The next day, the wife comes in with the kids. She’s upset that the milk man hasn’t come yet. She’s going to go chase him down to get the bags of donated milk, and she’ll throw his bags away.

    Meanwhile, the pediatrician, worried, is reading out case histories. He hears the wife complain that she hasn’t gotten all the milk she wants. The pediatrician says, “Don’t worry. We’ll watch tonight”.

    The next morning, the wife comes in and asks what happened. The pediatrician says, “Afternoon case, please.”

    The wife comes back in a few hours later with the kids. They are crying, and the pediatrician is still reading out the case histories. He says, “Afternoon case closed, please.”

    The kids come running and ask for their mother. The mother comes running and asks what happened. The pediatrician says, “Afternoon case closed, please.”

    The kids come running, shouting for their mom. The mom comes running and asks what happened. The pediatrician says, “Afternoon case closed, please.”

    The kids come running, shouting for their mom. The mom comes running and says, “Oh my God

  • Y’all are so right. Look, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t talk about the good and the bad of the past, and we should be proud of our past and try to move forward, but you know what? We got a little ahead of ourselves, and now we’re in the middle of the worst post-Second World War generation, and we’re kind of screwed.

  • Feels weird not posting anything on here, but figured I'd share my experience here as well.

    My wife and I lost our son in November. The post-op was rough. He had kidney failure. No longer could work because of it. The recovery time from his surgeries was extremely lengthy. The hospital staff had their own ideas of how much time we should take off from work to help him. They recommended he get dialysis in order to slow his progression. He spent months dialysis in isolation, but I was never told why. They kept his dialysis running for months even after his brother died. I was, of course, the one who initiated contact with the dialysis provider.

    I never even saw my son, let alone knew about his health issues. I took care of him, washed his clothes, and gave him meals. I was never told why I was getting his blood drawn, or why he needed it.

    I went to the funeral home the day after his body was found. I cried more than anyone else. I didn't call the funeral home, but stayed until the end to keep the peace. I kept my composure through the chaos. At one point I even sat next to my son at the podium to keep him from throwing his brother's ashes on the ground.

    The funeral home staff sat at my side waiting to speak. I stood up, looked them in the eyes, and told them what the worst case scenario was. They were stunned. The staff began by reading out my son's obituary, which was horrible. They talked about how I was a good father, a good husband, and just a really great person. They concluded with a quote from Blessed John: "If anyone is in need of help... don't give up hope." \

  • Because I can’t stand my wife if she thinks I’m not sincere. Her mother taught her that’s the way the world works and that’s what she follows. She just comes across as less than sincere. That’s just the way mother nature is. I’m not sure I agree with her more often than not.

    Here’s the problem: she’s not getting in a relationship. We’re new to a house, two cars, a 6 bedroom, pool and the like. I don’t see how we’re going to move in together any time soon. We’re in a college apartment and she’s currently looking for a place to live. I can’t see it happening, I just can’t see it. We’re just not going to stick together as a family any more. We’re at an impass and I don’t see how we’re going to make it work. We’re not getting married soon enough.

    We’re just not getting in a relationship at this point. Not with my sister, not with my parents. No one seems to want to take us seriously. We’re at an impasse and I don’t see how we’re going to get out.

    I hate to disappoint but we’re at an impasse and that’s what I see. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know what to do.

  • I want to start by saying that there is a great community of people with AS, and they are amazing, and I love being a part of it. And no, I don't think it's normal, or even bad. I'm just really annoyed by the question. I was shocked at how quickly the conversation turned from people wanting to know how we might help each other, to people talking about how we might frame the question.

    I'm not saying that we should help each other, or that there is anything wrong with anyone, just that it's such a random thing that people think that there is something wrong with someone with an ASD when that can be normal, and we shouldn't have to help people who aren't like us in order to help them.

    Also, I wanted to clarify something I