Reminds me of comedian, James Acaster saying that dating is just learning more about a person and slowly realizing that you don’t like them as much as you hoped you would.
“I should have warned you, some of the jokes are sad.”
Here’s the issue.
The nice guys you’re talking about, the “real nice guys” don’t care about advantages and disadvantages of being nice because they aren’t being nice in order to gain something from others… cause that’s not actually being nice.
They aren’t being nice and then getting upset that their kindness isn’t being noticed when dating or that they get upset when their kindness is taken advantage of.
They are nice because they believe being decent to others is the best way to live and treat others, even if it’s sometimes taken advantage of by others. They find more in the act of being nice itself, than what they may benefit from it or even what possible negative results may come from it from other people taking advantage.
The second you said “when it gives you a disadvantage while dating” you’ve already crossed the line into r/niceguys.
You’re trying to give kindness a value that can be traded or points and essentially stating it deserves something in return.
Don’t be nice to gain something from others. That isn’t being nice. That’s being manipulative.
Be nice knowing you aren’t going to gain anything in return, but still choose to be nice anyway.
As for helping others.. it sounds weird when you put the two topics together. Helping people that are being abused.. and dating.
I don’t want to make assumptions, but talking about both of these things together makes it sound more like your main focus is dating, but kind of using “helping others” as a guise.
It’s one thing to want to help abuse victims, but it’s another if you’re essentially saying that you want to help them out of their abusive relationship and into a relationship with you.
That doesn’t sound like the goal is to actually help them. It sounds like “come date me because I’m a nice guy and will treat you better”. Then getting frustrated that the don’t, because you “deserve” the relationship because your a ‘nice guy’ and it’s an afterthought that it may so happen to benefit them too.
Maybe I’m reading into it wrong. This is a complex conversation over a couple paragraphs, so.. kind of hard to gauge accuracy over what is being said.
You think there is democracy in the US?
Our votes don’t even matter because politicians purposefully draw the districts to favor the outcome they want (gerrymandering) and it’s completely legal because the people in charge of making the laws are the same people that are in control and want to stay in control.
The US is soft despotism.
Giant corporations literally buy the laws they want at the expense of the people, because politicians like money and are happy to sign away bills for a large bribe gift of a million dollars.
The people aren’t in control and haven’t been anywhere close to in control for nearly a century.
What was illegal for President Warren G Harding in the 1920’s (giving all his under qualified buddies cabinet positions, so they could all make huge deals with government contracts) is now just the norm and completely legal.
Nah, it would have been way better (especially for literally everyone else) if they didn’t play at all.
Instead all the greediest people are realizing they can do this and they get all the things they want (so does Trump, along with more power) and it’s only at the expense of the entire American population (and the rest of the world too).
Fuck Cook.
It isn’t clever. It’s literally greed. It’s not even that other people haven’t thought to do this, it’s that you have to be a total piece of shit to do this.
Eventually someone is going to get the idea that hospitals should start installing chips and screens into the skin of newborns and it either displays ads or it only cost $150k to have it removed.
Thanks for having your baby at our hospital. The ads help pay for our CEO’s 4th mansion.
It doesn’t affect me.
That being said “policing” is a hyperbole.
Obviously no one is forcing people to swear, they are just giving them shit when they censor themselves.
Those people can still choose to censor themselves even when someone tells them it’s ok to swear.
It’s no more policing than OP ‘policing’ people to not ‘police’ him.
People have opinions. You can’t request others to not have their opinions if you’re going to share yours.
The article states that he was tracking the animal with the intent to kill it and then says it suddenly charged him, as if it was so super random and out of the blue.
Then you realize that you’ve been only paying attention to yourself repeating this in your head and have been mindlessly nodding and saying “yeah” for the last 3 minutes to the other person and have no idea what they are talking about now.
Alright, I’ve looked through the overwhelming amount of responses telling me to end things with him and I’m so grateful for all the support, but I’ve decided that I’m going to stay with him and we’re going to get pregnant asap 😜.
I’ve realized that I just can’t live without him (even if that means it comes with the occasional black eye).
I’ll always forgive him. He is my brother after all.
To be fair, most of the posts that people are commenting to break up on are like “Hey, so my significant other stabbed me in the stomach last week and as I was sitting in the hospital, I realized that it just made me feel disrespected, ya know?
This of course all happened after he told my parents he owns me and they can’t see me ever again and he threw my cat out of a 4 story window.
What should I do guys?”
“You don’t need to mine,
you don’t need to tunnel for
or root out anything.
Your vast soul,
that seabed on which
the ocean of you rests,
holds every part of you,
holds you like coral to a reef.”
Reminds me of comedian, James Acaster saying that dating is just learning more about a person and slowly realizing that you don’t like them as much as you hoped you would.
“I should have warned you, some of the jokes are sad.”