Awhile ago, someone made a post listing communities targeted at women. All of the communities are now dead, since the poster listed only kbin.social communities and kbin.social went down. I did continue a community listed there at !otomegames@ani.social, but I do not know about if the other communities have been recreated on other instances. However, the reason I bring this up is because I think it might be useful to have a similar post here. Grow the Fediverse and all that.
And of course, !otomegames@ani.social, active, run by me (games about romancing dudes, aimed at women, community also currently allows amare games which are romance games aimed at a more diverse audience due to how they can overlap and how tiny Fedi is for otome and amare)
I also submit some communities for interests traditionally considered feminine, though I realize not all women would participate in these and other genders participate too. All are active unless mentioned otherwise.
!otomeisekai@lemmy.world (manga genre aimed at women where someone gets transported from the real world into that of a stereotypical otome game—not actually a great representation of otome games, we don't have villainesses trying to get in the way of your romance usually and we aren't always in medieval fantasy settings, but still enjoyable to this otome player. Very dead, might gain some activity soon)
If women post about these things here I highly encourage them to crosspost to the hobby community too. I am definitely not the only woman who isn't following this community. I don't plan to engage here aside from these two comments. (Nothing against you or other women, I don't hold "there is no patriarchy" beliefs, but this community does allow discussion on more depressing topics than I want to engage with on my online funtime, such as patriarchy and probably sexism.) I hope this proves a fruitful and fun place for the women who do subscribe to the community :) good luck!