[Meta] Are people on Lemmy not interesting by fashion discussions, or is this community not visible enough?

I'll echo others that I didn't know it existed before this post. On a quick scroll through it seems the posts are overly focused on suits which isn't the part of mens fashion I've been questioning. Honestly I have so much fun dressing my daughter up for the day and picking everyday clothing for my wife that I want to improve my own dress, but honestly I struggle to find ways to make my own everyday dressing more fun

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I second this. I also didn’t know this community existed and am very much not focused on suits. The days when I’m on a job site, I’m appropriately dressed, composite toe boots, high vis vest, hard hat, etc. on the days I work from home or on the weekends I look absolutely homeless. I wouldn’t mind some fashion discussion around everyday wear. “Street Wear” or “Drip” as the kids say.

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- !streetwear@lemmy.world
  
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I find the fashion hobby expensive and unfulfilling for myself personally. I can tell if my wife looks good but not myself or anyone else really

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Pretty sure I saw a guide on here recently that was showing all the general styles(formal, casual, business casual, etc) and literally every one was a suit of some kind. I blocked the sub after that. Yet my client still let's this sub into my all feed. If I could block y'all again I would.

Shits hard enough without a bunch of pretentious "you need to dress like this to be a real man" bullshit. These communities are never about helping people match colors or find good fit, it's all about some elitist idea of how a man should dress in a suit to look better than everyone else. It's just ego and waste.

If you told me this was a James Bond cosplay community, I'd 100% believe you.

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Just scrolled through and one of the posts is about pocket square folds... ok.

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The two main groups on Lemmy are communists and programmers. These groups don't seem to into fashion. I could be wrong, though.

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There’s also the group of discontented Reddit exiles navigating this foreign yet intriguing realm.

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I'm a 6"6 geek who'd love go shopping clothes, shoes, but yeah size is an obstacle here :-/

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I personally just didn't know about this community until this post, I think one of Lemmy's issue is discovery of new communities, the weekly trending post helps a bit, but I wish we had a better directory of communities like how sub.rehab did

I liked browsing the R counterpart for inspiration but otherwise I'm not too much into fashion, I'm still wearing shirts from high school

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I typically think of this subreddit/community as something not for me, but I took a look just now at what you personally are doing with it.

First off, the content is more general, in a good way, than I expected. It's not just all expensive, more formal, traditional office clothes.

Second, the comments really show off the bad side of Lemmy. If you aren't interested in the content, move on and don't crap all over for people that would be interested. You're trashing a place you don't like and leaving negative comments there forever instead of leaving the place as you found it. That's bad manners IMO. Anyone new coming to the community is going to think it's always a negative space. The people that do this are probably the same ones who complain about overactive moderation and can't understand why they get banned or blocked so often.

I feel Blaze would be right in clearing up some of this stuff. I think a lot of you have mods nervous to do their jobs, and it's allowing Lemmy to become worse. In a fashion group, there's plenty of room for discussion and debate, but coming in, saying why are you wasting time on stuff I don't care about over and over, and then moving on isn't constructive and should be removed if you aren't adding to conversation. No one in any community cares about those types of comments.

Third, I'm not interested in "fashion" as it is typically thought of. I don't care about looking trendy. I'm a large person, and feel most clothing isn't made for me. I'm also hot year round, and layers and accessories typically make it feel even worse. Buuuut, one thing I think you could look into is being the place for something that typically annoys many other people about a different set of communities!

The Buy It For Life groups get a lot of questions about things like "what are some BIFL pants/socks/shoes" and the same people chime in every time "clothes are wear items, not BIFL!". Perhaps you can be the place for those conversations. Stuff that looks decent, but also holds up and is a more timeless look, not fast fashion or trendy throwaway clothing.

Those are my immediate thoughts. I'll have to sub and check out the place more. As usual, I think you're doing good work, but honestly without some more ~~aggressive~~ assertive moderation, I can't imagine much growth due to toxicity.

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I am quite fashionable, and I do sometimes dress in male clothing.

But this community shares a name with a Reddit community that I found abrasive and mildly toxic, so I've been ignoring it.

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Would you prefer if it had another name? Which one would you suggest?

None of the Reddit mods are here (actually, the only one mod seems to be gone)

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- Just knowing it's not a direct plant from Reddit is enough for me to give it another try.
  
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- yes. Mod hasn't been here in a year. Make a new community with less baggage on a different instance.
  
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The only fashion on lemmy is about high socks

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I wear whatever Hansel wears

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I think fashion is very subjective. I have, personally, no interest in articles about Chinos that tell me to wear sports jackets or guides on how to fold pocket squares or aditorials from expensive designers making ridiculous looking scarves. The posts tend to skew a little formal and a little, well, straight.

But I recognize that tastes differ and some people might want to talk about those things. I like there's a men's fashion forum. I just don't see a lot of posts that I personally find appealing and I don't really know where to look for them to share some of my own.

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Yeah, I pretty much never wear formal or business casual, so most of the posts here aren't relevant to me.

I feel like lemmy has a disproportionately high population of wfh tech ppl who don't go to office and thus don't need business casual/formal wear.

Also, I'm in Texas where it's a 100f (~40c) and humid most of the year. There's no way I'm wearing more than one layer like most MFA posts recommend except for a few months in winter. Even a lot of summer fashion posts assume a Seattle summer or something and recommend multiple layers.

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no interest in articles about Chinos that tell me to wear sports jackets or guides on how to fold pocket squares or aditorials from expensive designers making ridiculous looking scarves. The posts tend to skew a little formal and a little, well, straight.

It's interesting because the last article I posted suggested people to move from chinos to pants they would be more comfortable wearing.

I don’t really know where to look for them to share some of my own.

It's probably an issue with this kind of community, that is really members-input fueled. I could ask a few questions about general fashion topics, but most of the content is usually members asking people for feedback, and you can't replicate that alone

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til there is a community focused on male fashion.

I could not care less.

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thanks for letting everyone know. super appreciate it.

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- It's literally the topic question
  
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I've never seen this community in my feed before this post, so I'm guessing it's a visibility issue

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I just found and subscribed to it today, so I'd argue its the latter

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Don't browse here because I assume there's not much femboy fashion advice or early transfem fashion advice posted

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I was unaware of this community until this post, I joined shortly after.

I feel like it's always kind of a niche topic. Too many people see one style or another as something to be derided for being exclusive and/or unnecessary. Whether its calling suits classist or streetwear drops wasteful. Not too many people are interested in fashion in general, especially men's fashion.

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Did you make this just because your other post got downvoted?

Sorting by new in this community, it's the only one that's negative.

Seems like that specific post is what people didn't like

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No, I don't really care about that post, just curious about the lack of activity on this community for a topic that could potentially be popular.

I assumed it's just not that interesting for most of the Lemmy demographics, which seems to be what the comments are saying

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- I assumed it’s just not that interesting for most of the Lemmy demographics
  
  I mean yeah.
  
  Maybe because I blocked a lot.of the meme subs, but Lemmy skews older, and people in their 30s/40s don't care about fashion.
  
  But like you said in another comment, the only mod seems to have quit Lemmy. So why try to build a community like that? If you're interested ask an admin if you can take it. If it takes off, they'll ask someone to take over when unanswered reports stack up. That's how I became a mod actually, someone randomly reached out and asked if I wanted an abandoned sub that still got traffic (and a lot of reports).
  
  You also mentioned starting a new sub.
  
  I'd suggest just flat out fashion, the user base is small, it doesn't need chopped up into super small categories. Shit, most fashion for men or women tends to boil down to "how to attract who you want to attract".
  
  Like, I just don't think many straight men care what other straight men think of their clothes. That alone is a much smaller subset of men than what care about male fashion.
  
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I am fairly sure this is the first time I've ever seen a post from mfa appear on my general feed, so, visibility.

Didn't even know this existed lol.

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