1 yr. ago • 100%

Polyamory rule - helpful infographic

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I'm totally cool with polyamory and its variants, but this infographic definitely paints monoamory as a lesser choice which is cringe (it also says "idealized monoamory" instead of just monoamory which I don't get).

Don't judge other's choices, doesn't matter if their choice is polyamory or monoamory.

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- 100% agree. Whoever made this "guide" was attempting to portray monoamory as a bad thing, maybe even worse than cheating.
  
  It reads as though the author is someone single, or someone in an unhappy polyamorous relationship with feelings of resentment towards those in monoamorous relationships.
  
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- I agree with not judging. I think monoamory is just labeled as "idealized" because it's the current societal standard. Some people who don't mesh with monogamy may not know there's another option, and so it can be helpful to say that monogamy is only just that, idealized, and not actually necessarily better.
  
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  I don't see how any of that is objective aside from it being the most commonly accepted, or "pushed" in your words.
  
  A successful two person relationship requires a significant amount of compromise and sacrifice. How does having more partners lessen that?
  
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  Lmao you can't just say "this is objective" after the most fucking subjective sentence ever written. You're clueless.
  
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I like this, but I don't like calling them affairs when everyone involved knows about it.

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Egalitarian Polyamory working pretty well for me 😊

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This post reeks of incel fantasy.

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- They are just people living their lives and doing it with consent, except for the cheating part, but that is just shitty behaviour.
  
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- Why? Wtf
  
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  Passive aggressively dismissive of standard relationships while fantasizing about having multiple interested partners.
  
  Very much seems like someone's "sour grapes" attempt at explaining why they're alone.
  
  i.e. "I don't have a SO because my views on relationships are incompatible with most, totally not because of my personality, or lack thereof."
  
  Every dynamic depicted here is shown with positive labels and imagery except the normal monoamorous relationship. Monoamory is depicted as neglectful and harmful, and labeled "idealized" as if the idea is absurd or unattainable.
  
  Hell, CHEATING is depicted with less negative imagery than monoamory.
  
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- It may be terrible for some people. If both partners are committed to a union based on undivided devotion, it's a powerful thing indeed.
  
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- "I do relationship anarchy"
  
  I guess 0 partners is still considered anarchy.
  
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Cringe

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  None of it works long term for the vast majority of people. Cheating or sleeping around with or without permission will lead to deep jealousy problems 99% of the time.
  
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  "The diversity of love" and cheating is second on the list. Like fuck off lmfao.
  
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Reminds me of that one sketch

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