What does it say about me if I'm annoyed by the way shared things get moved around only because I assume someone is annoyed that I moved them?

That you overthink?

That you are perceptive, have attention to detail and are organized...in a way that may or may not be compatible with some folks. Working on communicating your style and preferences to things can help others understand the "why" of you that may otherwise get lost in anxiety, argument, blaming or other escalations.