I have a buddy who has lived in the US, several countries across the EU, New Zealand and Latin America. The gender thing is only a big deal in USA. Other countries do have some issues with how people are preferred to be called but it's not a big deal according to him. Not trying to attack or anything, just telling stuff I heard.
On the other side, I'm fairly new to the Feddiverse and I would love to hear more about other countries, I think USA people take over the internet really fast
assuming this is sincere, thanks for trying to be an ally, but...
this slogan makes me cringe and wonder if it is uninformed or perhaps insincere, because the basis of the joke embedded in it is that the phrase "i identify as" is followed by something other than a gender (which is also the basis of various anti-trans tropes). 🤔
Get the fuck out of here with that “lgbt alphabet, the queers are getting too uppity” bullshit.
Stonewall was organised with crucial help from
Militant as fuck black trans activists. The LGBTQ movement used to be full goblin mode and it got results because of that. Direct actions brings in the goods. Fuck that tone policing seen not heard bullshit.
The trans community is currently facing mounting pressure from increasingly more violent and aggressive fascists goons, backed by police and the political establishment of a few dozen states. The democrats - allies in name only - are largely unbothered by this or simply unwilling to expend political capital to defend trans folk from the christo-fascists.
And make no mistake, this shit is coming for all queer folk. Trans issues are the wedge the right will use to attack all LGBTQ rights.
This comment really highlights the lack of materialism in liberal ideology.
Queer people getting rights in the past required people to change their behaviour and modes of thought, and the modern queer movement still just want to be treated like everyone else - like not having to constantly correct people about their gender.
Nothing has changed. They're the exact same movement, still trying to claw its way to equality.
I told those Nazis that they don't need to change their thinking or behavior against Jews. They just need to give equal rights to Jews.
You are so smart. Amazing take. It isn't like taking those old guard gayz didn't want people to change their thinking (i.e. thinking gay people are normal, socially acceptable, gay rights) or their behavior (lynching, killing, draconic laws, etc.). Totally right. The alphabet mafia nowadays are infringing on OUR RIGHT to think what we want and do what we want.
Maybe the confederacy had a point. Maybe the north was just so bad trying to force the south to change their thinking and their behavior. Your take is not reactionary at all.
Sorry, I identify as somebody pronouning on visual sex and not gender. Purely as a language thing for my own selfish convenience, nb. I'm not denying the gender-spectrum, nor do I want anybody to change who they want to be! Luckily for me people transitioning usually start looking like their prefered gender, so I will usually automatically change my pronoun along the way to the correct one. Well, except for the "they/them's", which will never sound right for me cause my language fixed it in a different way for us already: singular unknown is by rule always "He", while plural unknown is the same word as what we use for "She". So even if I say "They" in my language, I'm still just saying "she" anyway. 😅
Anyway, I totally respect any gender on the spectrum being what they are and wish everybody the peace of mind to be able to be what they want to be; but I'm just not into the whole "must ask the person, whom might not even be there at the time, first what they randomly prefer"-concept some people make of it... 😬
Everybody's free to use their own words to refer to stuff from their pov, imho... Nothing gives anyone the right to force their ways upon others... 🤷♂️ I'd for example also rather be referred to as 'handsome' than 'weirdo', but that choice and decision is not mine to make either. 😂
Anyway, no harm intended with this, nor any bad intent to any person or their believes in gender. You are free to be who you want to be and how you want to be that, but so does everybody else. 😉
Triggering people that get too bound to - and upset over - specific subjects like semantics (while trying to still refrain from saying something hurtful, I don't do personal attacks) is a weird (and often lonely 😅) hobby, but someone's gotto do it. 😅
But yeah,
--For anybody's info (I don't usually do this (never even when I still roamed the bigger companies' social websites), but I have a feeling that the community of Lemmy might be a bit too small still to not at least do this once... 😅 Here's my real view in relation to this particular topic):
I actually have no real opinion on it as I always will be an outsider to it. I don't have any personal experience with it myself, so I also have no ability (or right) to judge about it. If enough people tell me something is not for them what is for me (and I assumed to be the norm for everyone until that point in time), then it's just a logical action to believe them and to take their word for it when it comes to their experience of it, cause there's just no way to find that out on my own from the outside.
Hence, in reality, I usually will just go along with what is asked to use, as is just the respectful thing to do whatever my personal views would be, so I'm not as ignorant as I come over, but I do like a bit of trigger-chaos sometimes, cause I do feel people in general are getting a bit too 'responsive' to details (like semantics) these days, and I personally am of the idea that we need to give 'other people' a bit of their right to be wrong back...
This random (just a bit overly) PC meme just gave good opportunity for my bad habit and I just couldn't help myself,... Which I then, due to real-world stuff, quickly forgot about having done,... until now. 😅
I'll maybe try not to do it too often here, but I can't make waterproof promises on that,... Sometimes it's just stronger than myself to 'push some buttons' as I pass by them... 😅
And finally, as a sidenote on this: I'm either very amazed I only got -1 on it; or maybe Lemmy just doesn't go any lower? 😬
It did go up to 2 at first, which I can only imagine being somebody that must not have read it to the end. 😅
Anyway, truly no offense intended to anyone, just an old habit of poking the bears to keep everybody a bit at the edge of their seat. 😂
I keep it simple and default to they/them unless they mention some specific preference. Doesn't matter if they appear to be very traditionally masculine or feminine, or anything in between.