Normalize telling people who are older than you to go fuck themselves.
(Edit: I say that as a 40yo with a family. Young people giving me bad advice, I smile and hope they learn from it... I too had strong convictions that were wrong as I got older. I love you and I hope we can move into a better future. Old people giving me bad advice, fuck off boomer - you're the reason for a lot of this bullshit. Learn to stfu.)
46When ever the "free Bible lesson" people tell me that my partner and I should have kids at our age, I tell them "Fuck off. My partner has a medical condition thay increases their risk of a complicated and life threatening pregnancy, and since your group forced their religious beliefs about terminating a pregnancy on EVERYONE, we cannot responsibly and safely have children before we are too old."
27Or right after you have one they say "so when are you going to have another?" Whether you have 1 or 8.
23They think the planet needs more people on it, for some reason.
21You making a different choice than they did at your age must be ignorance. If it isn't, it's possible they may have made the wrong choice, and they couldn't possibly be wrong. That might cause introspection/pain/crisis/fear.
21They cannot understand the concept of someone having different values or opinions than them.
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These comments are all talking about whether it's good advice or not.
The core issue is offering unsolicited advice on a matter that is deeply personal and that is none of anyone else's fucking business. Forget about whether or not this person should or shouldn't have kids. No one needs to be telling anyone else what they ought to do about topics on which they cannot possibly have the proper context to offer such advice.
17I used to say this jokingly to poke fun at Mayan apocalypse/other things but with the weather and climate change and the temperature rising faster than almost anyone expected... The apocalypse is nigh
16Are you paying? Cause I cannot.
9Then he offers to pay...
Guess who's the daddy?
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I would love to have children to be honest but I can't afford it.
6I love to make children, having them is what I dont like.
6I have a child and it's the best thing that ever happened to me, but I totally understand because children are expensive. If you think it costs a lot to feed your dog, imagine having to pay a premium on that to feed them on top of paying for diapers and that's just for the first couple of years.
Don't have kids if you can't afford to give them a decent life.
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Because far too many people think women are only good for decoration and breeding.
2Because many childless middle aged people regret not having kids. Without kids, what the big thing going on in your life? A mediocre career, a small luxury every now and again? Picking up hobby after hobby, trying to fill a hole that just refuses to be filled by distractions?
Life becomes a book without a plot.
They see themselves in you, you making the aame mistakes they made. And they want to keep the cycle from repeating.
-20And plenty of young parents have regrets having kids, because they miss out on so much of living for themselves. Not everyone is fit to be a parent, not everyone regrets not having kids, and the way certain people push others to have kids is not done well.
Sharing your personal regrets and experiences of waiting too long to be a parent, while understanding they might not have the same experience; that's fine.
Telling someone they're making a mistake and they're wasting their life or losing time; not fine.
Edit: also, I say this as a parent. I have yet to find a legitimate argument for having kids that isn't based (at least partially) on being selfish. Your comment argues that it enriches the life of the parent. But I think that's a bad reason to have a kid, it's inherently selfish. People who view having kids the same way won't want kids, especially when they understand how fucked up the world is that they'd be bringing their kid into.
25Because many middle aged parents regret having kids. With kids, how can you do anything with your life? A career you hate but can't leave because you have mouths to feed. Not being able to have any hobbies because between work and sleep all your time is consumed with your kid's hobbies.
18Everyone regrets the choices not taken. I regret having picked college over a paying job, my dad regrets not enlisting and becoming a sniper, my mom regretted not picking a career in math... everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
8I couldn't imagine regretting that I had a child. That sounds like someone who abuses or neglects their child. If you are pregnant and don't want a child, either get an abortion (if you can) or put it up for adoption. You can't be forced to raise a child.
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Because many childless middle aged people regret not having kids. Without kids, what the big thing going on in your life? A mediocre career, a small luxury every now and again? Picking up hobby after hobby, trying to fill a hole that just refuses to be filled by distractions?
Thankfully, we just need to show those people your parents, and they'll be perfectly happy being childless again.
8Hey it's the guy from the meme
8Neat! 📸
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I'm glad you brought this up as there are people I know who I think are sad that they didn't have kids when all their friends do, but I think it's important to point out that all of them don't regret their decision, they love their lives and freedom and have spent a long time traveling even with jobs that don't normally allow that much flexibility, I think people in the comments are being too harsh on you but there's really not that many people in the world missing out. There's no one who didn't have kids because they are unmotivated or lazy; and hell, if they are then maybe they shouldn't have kids.
5They can always adopt...
4Not necessarily true. Adoption can be hard but they could also be more involved with their nieces/nephews/young cousins/etc if the parents are willing. They could volunteer to work with kids or foster. Each option comes with its own challenges and they would likely have to come to terms with their decision or lot in life, but I'd hazard to guess that not as many people regret not having kids as that person is trying to say.
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