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  • Phoar. I held back so much when my Aunty called.

    I told her quite clearly over there phone that I don’t want to be used and manipulated into trying to influence everyone else into making a decision on the will and approving things.

    I told her quite clearly I would not get involved and if I needed the inheritance I would not intervene and get involved.

    All she wanted to do was try and use me to influence the outcome and kept talking negatively about everything.

    She tried manipulate me again and I told her not to.

    I didn’t really want to talk to her but I’ve had it with her.

    Edit: and I’ve slightly burnt my fish fillets thanks to her.

    • wtf

      if I was so blunt and assertive the manipulators in my fam would then ring up other people and tell them lies, saying I abused them

      I just ignore them now

      • Some of the family already don’t like her, I did lie and say I don’t speak to any of them and haven’t in months but she effectively pocketed money she wasn’t entitled to and she was caught out and now making it like she’s the victim which is why she’s being scrutinised so much by the family and all the paperwork is under a microscope now.

        I will be ignoring her now if she tries to call, I’ve been ignoring her texts already.

      • If I was that blunt and assertive I would have told her to fuck off and leave me alone.

        I don’t have anything to do with her except for her being the executor of the will.

    • You did the right thing, some times people just want to complain and victimise themselves, and then rope in other family members to validate that.

      You shouldn't be made into her flying monkey and I'm so happy you stood up for yourself!

      Sad about the fish, but there will be more fish in the future!

      • Thanks, I’d actually been steeling myself for it because I’d had enough of it, I was pretty angry and had to hold my emotions in check and be mostly polite but I didn’t appreciate what she tried to do again and talking negatively about all her dealings with family, ironically as she’s about to jet off to London with her family, oh woe is me.

        Trying to rest at home and make dinner and play videogames and it probably pushed me over the edge, grrr!

        It’s ok about the fish, I have lots more where they came from thankfully!

    • Happy you told her how you feel :) Sad about the fish :(

      • I’m sad for the fish too, first time trying out the battered fish from Aldi.

  • To take my mind off dad not responding to me at all (I'm totally not teary, nope, not at all), I have applied for 5 jobs in the animal industry. An animal tech one, a customer service one at a shelter, and a few animal attendant ones. I edited up my cover letter and everything.

    I'm just waiting to be okay holy crap. Gonna listen to Montaigne to get all my feelings out in a totally healthy way, yep, mhm

    Edit: get on Montaigne's first albums people!

    Glorious Heights - Montaigne

    This is my fkn anthem

  • Okay I said I wouldn't care if dad didn't care about these photos, but he's seen my message and hasn't responded.

    I just need to chill! It's a workday! It's gonna bring up a lot of feelings from the past for him! Not everything is about you Spud, gah!

  • eeek, the moving is getting all done

    while it's a bit of a fuss it's nothing compared to moving a household from Europe to the US or shipping a pet cat overseas. It was exciting moving from Europe, there was a sea shipping container on a flat bed truck!! It was cool, even if I say so myself.

    • Back in the 60s my parents moved the whole family from England to Australia - all the big furniture (including a piano) went in a shipping container made of wood (!!) which was just plonked by a crane onto the front lawn of the house we moved into in Ringwood. Once emptied, the timber was repurposed by Dad into the lining of the garage so he could put hooks & shelves anywhere not just into the structural supports. We moved out of there in 1988, and the lining timbers were just as good/bad as new. The timber was kinda hairy and shed splinters all the time, but was structurally strong. I wonder to this day just what that timber was and where it came from. I've never seen anything like it since. Nearest guess would be messmate, but this stuff didn't warp like messmate does.

      • Ringwood would have still been nearly rural at that time! They were probably there when they moved the clock tower! My family would have moved to the area not long before you moved out. Now every time I look at the older houses I'm going to wonder if it has a garage lined with shipping container!

        Edit: I have just noticed the excessive number of exclamation marks!!! I'm sorry! I got a bit over excited!!

        !

        !

        ❗️❕️‼️⚠️

      • This is an awesome story. 🙂

    • Having been in the same place nearly 20 years I find the thought of moving a bit terrifying. But at least I have a lot of decluttering done, it at least seems manageable.

      My last move was only three blocks. The one before that was technically only two houses, but I had a holiday for 6 weeks and put everything into storage during that time. Moving to another country is totally outside the scale of my expertise.

    • Seeing as you have lived in so many countries, I'm wondering what your accent sounds like.

      • refined Aussie with no friendly foes and few idioms

        I can understand other colloquialisms very well so most people don't even notice I speak Aussie other than a mild accent

        I expect my accent is a bit more broad since I moved back

  • I made breakfast, lunch and dinner (and coffees / drinks) at home while WFH today. My usual approach is not to clean up after each meal and leave it all to the end of the day. By the time I've finished making dinner and eating, my kitchen is a bomb site and takes a loooong time to clean up. It's a real drainer and crappy end to the day. Trying to save money not buying food out as much but that means the kitchen mess multiplies. Thankfully no cooking at all tomorrow, I've got enough leftovers. I need a break!

  • Car door lock replaced post-attempted break in. Surprisingly easy to do. Should've done it sooner.

  • Definitely worked up an appetite for tonight's dinner thing. Another long hot sweaty day especially after going to bed at 1am with the random cleaning and shit. Need to hurry up and shower and hoof it over there soon though. Thankfully REA is coming between 10 and 12 tomorrow which gives me time to vacuum the joint and clean the stove.

  • tonight I am paging thru "How to Make Yourself Miserable, a Vital Training Manual" to see if I have been doing it right. I think I have.

    😬🤣

  • I have just bought more packing boxes. 25 for books and 25 big boxes should be enough. I have other boxes already. 🤞

    just submitted a quote enquiry for movers for 2 weeks from now 😬

  • Back down the bellarine for the night, hopefully 2. All about watering :(

    But first chillies are turning!

    I think the blood and bone gave it a bit of a kick.

    And the flower patch is lurvly. So glad I got my way with that.

  • Boxes come tomorrow , that means I will start packing in earnest. Since I have already cleaned and sorted everything it shouldn't take long. 🙂

  • Empty inbox achieved. Vet visits booked for both Miss Meow and Mr Woof to have checkups. Car service enquiry sent. It looks like I'm having an efficient day today.

    • I rarely manage to get it quite empty. If I can see all the inbox without a scrollbar, I'm content enough.

      • Empty is always a temporary state. I cleared it yesterday and it only lasted 40 seconds. I'm up to 5....make that 6 emails sitting there again now.

  • Skyrim - Dragonborn DLC is way better than Dawnguard DLC. Fight me! 😂

    • I've only ever had them both (also hearthstone) at the same time, so I can't really separate them. I enjoyed them both, though. I like that island is distinct from Skyrim. I find the ash depressing after a while though and look forward to getting it over and done with.

      I'm not a fan of the plane of oblivion inside the books, either. Some people love that aesthetic, I did not.

      On Dawnguard, I never liked the castle either. Also depressing and wouldn't want the vampire life. I completed the vampire tree for the achievement, then cured vampirysm immediately.

      • I think I prefer Dragonborn because it is open world like Skyrim, it isn't linear, there are quests unrelated to the main quest to do (like in Raven Rock, and Skaal Village). There's cool Morrowind vibes towards the south with the Telvanni wizard and his mushroom house. And the voice acting feels real, as in there is emotion and nuance, and there is humour in the way they speak. It feels fun and interesting! I like the mash of Nord and Dunmer culture on the one island, and the Skaal being removed from Nord culture and having their own belief and culture.

        I dislike Dawnguard because of it's linear-ness. It's feels very one-track, and you have to take Serana with you (I like my follower Borghak the Steel-Heart and she's my bae). I dislike vampirism, and I dislike being led on a one-track quest system. I have both installed, and honestly I think I'll just avoid Dawnguard this play through haha.

        The ash can get depressing, but I don't mind it - it just looks like snow to me 😂

  • I'm remembering in the at school 1960s school kids used to be helped to set up their own bank accounts with the state bank of victoria and we would have an account book and could bring in money every week to deposit. Even the girls!!

    • I had a "State bank" account and I remember actual interest accumulating in there.

      • For most of my life bank interest has not really been a thing, and for a long time they charged fees, so banking cost money instead. The last few years with high interest rates - plus an online bank that lets me earn interest on all my money without locking it away and jumping through hoops for "bonus" interest - has been great.

    • I remember we earned something like 3¾% on those accounts. When my kids started PS I set up Commonwealth accounts for them to do school banking, thinking they'd get lessons like I did. Nope, just give us the money quick so we can bank it and get the bonus they give schools for doing it. When I went to close those accounts a few years later after they closed the local branch so the school stopped school banking, it took ages, and I had what felt every staff member in the bank one by one come out and ask me questions about why I was doing it. They know those accounts lead to adults mostly keeping the same accounts and do not want you to close them!

      • Can definitely see why they stopped the scheme. Would not pass the pub test if proposed today, unless perhaps a publicly owned bank still existed.

    • I think that was still around when I went to school, but it was being phased out and wasn't at my school. I'm pretty sure I had a money box the bank produced as a promo when I was in primary school.

      I do remember going to the bank to open my first bank account when I was in my early teens. It was when EFTPOS was just starting out and ATMs were still a fairly new concept, so getting a debit card seemed like a really exciting innovation to be involved in. I think I had to be 18 to get my first cheque book though, which was how all my bills were paid until the online options were introduced.

  • I’ve got 2 episodes to go in the latest Kdrama that I’m watching (It’s Okay Not To Be Okay) and URGGG the temptation to just read what happens in them is really getting to me. I have no idea where the storyline is going to go and of course the last episode ended up with a big cliffhanger. It’s been an absolutely batshit ride - as a lot of Kdramas are, tbh, but this is a different level and I have no idea what they’re gonna pull in the last 2 episodes.

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