memes @lemmy.world

3d ago

Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️

131 comments

also men: "WE HAVE A LONELINESS EPIDEMIC!"
- Yes. That's a big part of what's going on. A lot of men, particularly poor and middle class, have no real culture of interaction and have been told they are worth the money they make a month and nothing else.

When offer to go to lunch with someone you haven't seen in 15 years and they respond with as long as its not within 100ft of a school
- Me: um I’m sorry I think everywhere I can go is within 100 ft of a school. But best of luck to you with your future and stuff.
- SNL did it
  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YChioDnHxm4

Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don't even know each others names since they met.
Would die for each other tho.
- I learned someone's name at work yesterday. We've been at the same location for like 8 months... and we have nametags...
  
  This guy works
- I have friends that i know for 10+ years and i don't know their real names
  
  I picked up an order at a stor for a long time friend the other day. They needed his last name. Luckily I was able to reach him via text.

- And this one even has a little homophobia sprinkled in.
  
  Bonus panel:
  Even chadder face: “I married my husband”
  
  I think homosexuality has reached a level of societal acceptance(at least in the west), that it is ok to be ironically homophobic again.
  Then again, some might argue that being against nazis was a societal norm, so being ironically nazi was fine too. Yet here we are now, where being unironically nazi is somewhat acceptable by a large part of the society.
  
  I get what you mean but that's not homophobic. I mean, it's true in my case. Lol
  
  It does appear this post is ultra based. /s
  
  where did you get that from, along with 30 people who upvoted this
- Woman bad
- "I barely talk to my friends lol."
  "There's a male loneliness epidemic."
  
  "I spend my free time playing Marvel games and Fortnite, I never go outside and never try to meet new people in any way.
  Why is society making me so lonely? 🥺🥺 How come w*men won't eff me? 🤬🤬🤬"
  
  Maybe we should think about these memes less as complex thought-out statements, and more as reflections of the times they are created in, just like all art.
- Stealing this bc true
- Thanks, I am validated now
- Tagged as "insane misandrist", it sure checks out.
  
  Ooh! Can I get that tag too pls 🥺
  
  I've now tagged you as "insane misogynist" for the sake of balance.
  
  I wouldn't say this is an insane take from that person, or misandrist really. I have no other meanings in regards to what that person says, but in this case this is a sensible take.
  The whole meme is about how women are "hysterical" and overly emotional. While men are calm and chill creatures.
  It caters to stereotypes that view women in a negative light. I know exactly zero women who act like this. Most women are calm and chill people as well. Unless you of course call them hysterical or overly emotional, then they can rightfully get a bit mad. You would probably react that way also. It kinda infantalizes you.
  I would as a man, expect my best friend to tell me if he's moving, expecting a child, or is getting married, within a reasonable timeframe. That is within a couple of months.
  
  ???????????????

I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that's it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn't mean they're a friend.
- Idunno I have quite a few friends where we only interact like every 4-8 months ish. But when we do we talk everyday for a month or two, then go separate ways again. Lifes busy we all know that. Not being in contact does no mean losing a friend.
- Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn't mean they're a friend.
  True. But I've had some great friendships grow after years of just "hi" in passing. We weren't friends yet, but we were destined to become friends.
- True, but I also don't want to be friends with you if you get upset because I'm not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.
  I've had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.
- But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos

"But I am gay."
- Plot twist!

Stereotypes, get your stereotypes, fresh gender stereotypes right here.
Men who don't marry are gay and woman are always mad at each other over nothing.
- The guy didn't explicitly say he married a woman, might still be gay.
  
  My first thought ^^
  
  Real
- Also it's not manly to share your life with a friend apparently.
  I'm 40+ and a couple of months ago started therapy. I didn't even knew I needed therapy, went with my wife for couple therapy and it quickly turned into personal therapy.
  What I learned after some tests is that I fall into the top 4% of men who are emotional closed off. This is pretty extreme, but maybe the worst part is, I never even knew. This is the stereotype we teach boys, men don't have emotions, they don't talk about emotions, etc.
  
  Don’t you cry or I’ll give you something to cry about.
  
  Good for you!
- And we wonder why there's a male loneliness epidemic
  
  It's because of women hating all men of course.

I had a friend who excitedly told me about their new car but neglected to mention their 6 month old son.

As a woman, yeah i totally accidentally told my bros I got married a few years after the fact. In my defense we eloped and my friends and I sometimes go a few years without talking much

Girl boring guy quirky.
- And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.
  
  I don't know how serious one has to take themselves to find this "ultimately insulting". It's a silly meme and it's funny because most men can relate to it.
  
  Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️
  I'm no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.
- Isn't it just boy and girl different?
  
  Yes. Men and women are different.

When people watermark memes. SMH
- Weird incel memes at that
  
  I'm genuinely curious here: what makes this an incel meme?

He is gay, married another bro.
- That's the least possible gay thing he could do.
  
  How about transitioning to a woman, then marrying their female best friend? I feel like that would at least be slightly less gay

gay people cant get married?
- Soon maybe not anymore
- I think south korea recognizes all marriages performed by recognized countries, but im not sure where the law is at right now. it's on the mend though
  
  Once again, Estonia is the best of the Baltics.
- Depends on where you are sadly.
- He was starting to think it, and now he knows.

Shit, that reminds me I should text my best friend, he might be a father by now.
- When was the last time you texted him?
  
  It's probably been two years. Ever since he got married and moved out of town this has been normal for us. Also he works during the day and I work during the night so it's difficult to find a good time to talk.
  
  Uh just the standard interval, 10 years ago

Ah yes assuming sexual preference based on martial status, just like friends do.
- Oh, friends assume sexual preference based on other things too. Like the way you eat a hotdog, what kind of car you drive, how quickly you can recognize that the song is by Kyle Minogue, how long you hold a sloppy french kiss with your homies, wether you you sit with your legs crossed or slow down on a yellow light.
  
  Damn, I can never remember how long to french kiss my bros either! Have been called gay so many times for it.

waahhhh there is a loneliness epidemic and nobody cares about men

Damn, really easy to spot the Americans in the comments
- We're all Americans here right? That's why it's called lemmy.usa, duh.

This is something I don’t like about guys, as a guy.

Did he just assume his friends' partner's gender?

This is very real, I felt this

Most of the comments share my distain for this sexist shit "humor." So where are the over 500 upvotes coming from? Who likes this shit?
- I think it is funny. I enjoyed it because like most good humor, it is a playful exaggeration on patterns that exist on real life. Sometimes those patterns break along racial or gendered lines, and that's ok. You're not a bad person if you think it's funny. I get laughs out of lighthearted humor that pokes fun at men as well.
  
  Are they really patterns, though? Or is it confirmation bias?
  Even early psychological studies from 100+ years ago found that women, on average, feel and react to emotional stresses the same way as men. There are 100+ year old studies on PMS that say women, on average, don't express more anger or sadness prior to or while on a period - and yet we still get hysterical women PMSing memes.
  Media can make us see patterns that aren't there. Media can change the way people view the world around them and affect how they behave.
- I'm with you but just for the sake of hypothesizing an answer, it might be that those who like it or don't think too much about it just read, upvote, and move on. While those who have comments click and share.
- Chill man. It's a meme
  
  A sexist meme. What's your point? Is sexism okay as long as it uses these meme faces and is posted in a meme subs?
- It sarcastically describes my life as a man, especially when I try to be the top two people but every other man wants to be the bottom two. The title might glorify it but we aren't.
- Who likes this shit?
  People with a sense of humor who don't get offended each time wind blows.
  
  This is not even funny. Just sad boomer humor
- it's funny because it pokes fun at the latent sexism in our culture. It's not glorifying it, it's portraying it as silly.

131 comments