What’s an unspoken rule that absolutely everyone should know, but most people clearly don’t?

Uh... Khakis.

One day I'm going to get the cops called on me for screaming like a maniac at the people hosting an impromptu reunion in front of the item I'm trying to get at the store.

We all know that Suzanne doesn't care how little Timmy is doing, and you're really not going out for coffee sometime or getting all the kids together for a playdate.

You get a polite "excuse me", a less polite one, a "I'm trying to get to the [whatever]", a 3 second soul-piercing glare, then the hamster falls off the wheel and the demons get released.

This gets so bad at groceries certain times of the day.

But I get really annoyed at them at places like Costco. The aisle is like 15’ wide: how are you even managing to get this much in the way

No disembark! Only board.

Those in bigger space should wait on people in smaller space.

Yes! And to those getting out: don't stop or walk super slow the moment you are out, people are trying to get in, get out of the way!

I originally got this one from an Actual Advice Mallard meme.

I nearly died the first time I turned the blinker on in the new car. I was changing lanes and I put the blinker on to signal I was heading over their. I saw the car next to me and was signaling to let everyone else know I was going to go over when it was clear. Then the car started making all these noise and scared the crap out of me. Come to find out the car warns you with a loud audible alarm if their is a car near your blind spot.

Anyway just wanted to share

Cant you just fucking read the mind of the person in front? They are clearly thinking of turning way ahead. Sometimes before they enter the car.

But how else are you going to turn a gang bang into a train?

Or their advice might be fine in general, but doesn't apply to your specific situation.

I had a friend who's latest and greatest dating advice was to go back and hangout at the college I graduated from (at the time already) several years ago.

I thought it was an incredibly disingenuous and creepy suggestion.

Him and his partner were like "it's totally fine..."

Not a single female friend disagreed with me that, that would be very creepy and I absolutely should not do that.

He got mad that I would never listen to his (terrible) dating advice.

I think it's fine to have an opinion, just qualify it with "I've not been in that situation before, but ... I think bla ... because bla."

It's just about being honest.

That is partially what inspired me to post this. A lot of business advice I have gotten has been staggeringly bad.

I realize most people have worked at a business and should know a thing or two about how it works, but I don't think many consider the huge differences between their workplace and how a small business operates.

How grown adults can stand around, mouth agape, in apparent wonder that they’ve been transported to the next floor up just escapes me. It’s a conveyer belt behind you, Gladys, fucking MOVE!!! Just one or two steps to the side even if you still need to wrap your head around what just happened to you.

Confirmed; if I see a duck approaching, I will step aside.

The major problem with this kind of pattern is you're looking to establish edge-case boundaries, rather than the most broadly applicable standard. The attempt to document and "solve for every case just leads to overly complicated and disingenuous discussions. Our fascination and obsession with "accuracy and precision" as applied to human behavior is one that breaks down very quickly unless you're attempting to be hyper-rational, at which point, any rules assigned to human behavior break down.

In short, "use your best judgement."

Note: I think that we have passed the golden moment where "human judgement" had any kind of value. There was a long time where we (all humanity) were stumbling in the dark, and we have now stepped back into that cave. But for a brief, shining moment, the percentage of people who had critical reasoning skills was growing, and it was majestic.

Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Likewise, "don't talk loudly on your phone in public" is a rule everyone should know, but no one's going to judge you if you're talking loudly on your phone to 911 because you just saw someone get hit by a car.

Thats like saying ik murders bad but what if the guy you killled kidnapped your whole family and held them hostage, like nah shit well consider it being okay in that case, but that is a fringe case far from common

There are always outliers and exceptions to rules, they are usually not who/what is being discussed lol

I think rules, written or otherwise, should have exceptions to account for extreme circumstances like this, but a lot of online people just go ‘No, if you don’t bring your cart back you’re a BAD PERSON no matter what!’.

To treat any rule as immutable is an idealist junk perspective. Rules, like all ideas, need to be applied to a context, and I personally don't see the point in codifying every possible exception. Law officials, programmers and others can tell you how Sisyphean that task would be.

So yes, there are exceptions (obviously!). If you're putting your cart back and you injure your leg, you don't have to crawl on your arms just to put it back. But we can still generally say "people should put their cart back after shopping" and it's clear that we're generalizing.

The carts go back in the corral so they don't damage other people's cars, not for convenience. I'm sorry your friend is hurt but my property shouldn't be damaged because of that. And nobody's going to judge him if he leaves it next the handicapped parking space he was in. Anyway, all the grocery stores by me will literally send someone to push the cart and put your groceries in the car for you if you're unable. The cashiers will even straight up ask if they think you need help.

I think I understand what you are saying, able bodied people can easily forget there are others who have a hard time doing "basic" and "easy" tasks.

I agree with some of the replies you got about being unnecessary and time consuming to state every exception to something but I think that what you pointed out is still very valid. Depending on the culture people grow up in and their personal experiences, stating something like " disabled people sometimes are not able to put the shopping carts back" could be either extremely obvious for them or not at all. Some people will think it's just about not bothering others with a task that they could easily take care of themselves, others will think about safety like one of the replies you got talking about the wind (I've never thought about that one tbh), some will think about damaging people's property (cars) and others about not giving workers more problems. I think we can all agree that abandoning the cart is bad, even if we are thinking about different reasons, however a lot of people will just blame lazy people for leaving it anywhere and totally forget about disabled people not having other options because it isn't something that is a part of their lifes.

I wouldn't say that people not being constantly aware of disabled people having a harder time is inherently ableist, unless they do it on purpose of course, but bringing awareness to the existence of the many obstacles they face in different scenarios is important to make changes that make their life's easier. Abandoning the cart can also make disabled people's life harder, for example if it is blocking the safest route for mobility aid users or blind people, wich is something that able bodied people should also take into consideration (and most disabled people who need to leave it somewhere actually take into consideration).

Bringing awareness can make changes, maybe next time someone here sees someone with mobility issues they will ask them if they need help or if they need them to return the cart to its place, changing the place to leave the carts so it is next to disabled parking spots could be planned and requested to stores. Maybe some people will become more aware of the obstacles that others face in their daily lifes.

You're not allowed to ask people to leave after closing? That's awful, what the hell!

So if you're not allowed to I assume you get paid overtime if you have to stay after hours because of this, not doing so would be illegal in most countries. Knowing that I would get some friends to come over, play some games chat and do whatever we would normally do until 3/4 AM every Friday, get to hang out with friends and get paid for it, win/win. If asked I would just say "well, my friends came over to see me, and I couldn't ask them to leave".

That’s such a crime that you can’t. There’s probably a lot of the time it’s just lack of awareness.

I’ll always remember this one store we were shopping in, literally killing time. The workers kept asking if we needed help but we were just looking. No big deal. It wasn’t until we left that we saw the sign and realized it was long past closing. We were the assholes out of obliviousness. I will always wish they were allowed to tell us about closing time

It’s especially egregious because most larger stores have announcements. If my grocery can announce “15 minutes ….”, why can’t that little shop?

Fair point. Although London threw me for a loop because it appeared to be the same as a right and driving. Be aware of the local customs, and be aware if you are blocking people

To make matters more complicated i believe (but may be wrong) in Japan Tokyo and Osaka have opposite conventions. So it can even come down to the city level.

It is very carbrain rot but I call them highway rules. On countries that drive on the right, the right side if for on-off ramps and cruising. Left side is for passing. No one expects to be passed on the right side, because that is the biggest blind spot on cars. Switch for countries that drive on the left side.

Absolutely follow makers first

Merging early when at speed makes sense, because you still have a lot of lane left before you have to merge - less pressure, more time, less likely to make a bad decision.

Merging late during slow traffic makes sense, as it allows you to align with gaps in the traffic and for the traffic to make space for you without having to actually stop.

It DOES NOT matter if it’s done with 3 feet to merge or 300 feet to merge. There’s no efficiency gain.

Merging early leaves unused road. Shoving the cars into fewer lanes makes the traffic jam longer and makes it impact more interesections far behind the actual hangup. If you can merge early without slowing down, sure go for it. I'm mostly talking about the scenarios where it's already slowed to a crawl and people feel like they have to merge early to not be seen as "cutting in line."

Edit, also to add, if everyone merges early even at speed, eventually, the car density in the reduced lanes will reach a point where people naturally slow down and you have bumper to bumper traffic.

I suggest Traffic by Tom Vanderbilt for more.

It's a written rule, but where I live no one seems to pay any attention to it.

Sorry I wasn't clear, I meant cars should stay out of the pedestrian crosswalk. Editted

The comment I left t here no longer relevant because parent and child revised their comments after the fact. This is not a healthy way to have a discourse people.

Minneapolis?

I've never had a driving license in my life and I somehow fully understood zipper merging as a toddler. "Oh, everyone gets their turn! This side goes, then that side goes, then this side goes again back and forth so it's fair for everyone."

I wish more people were aware of it and not simply thought "green means go".

America is the same way in that regard. I think what op was saying is when you're on the sidewalk or in a grocery aisle, use the same rules of the road with other pedestrians/bikers.

In my state in the US we were taught if you were on a bike you go with traffic because you are moving fast but if you are walking/running then go against traffic so you can move out of the way if needed.

That's what I was taught for walking country roads with no pavement, sometimes even no shoulder.

German here. I was taught the same thing, when walking on a country road. If there's a pavement, I walk wherever.

I used to use same rule when riding bike in paved roads with no side walk.

Walking and running are like standing still compared to traffic. Going against traffic means you see it coming and can move aside if needed or wave your arms or something if they don't seem to see you.

Bikes and other fast wheeled devices go with traffic because they follow the same patterns for lanes and turning as vehicles like motorcycles or scooters.

I mean there are lots of reasons for people to be stupid/be a dick; the point is to rise above that shit. I get it tho, I was born in the 70s so I've been watching this world backslide into shit for nigh on 50 years now, it just keeps bombarding you with more and more shit. But if you let 'fuck it I'm tired' be an excuse then you're not even trying anymore.

Kind of.

Literally the opposite. If you want mercy, you should show mercy to others...

I need to lean back slightly or I won't be able to walk straight when we land, so I'm gonna need to do that two inch recline.

The airlines are our enemy, not each other.

Nah homie, I'm also tall. Airplanes are airplanes, book the exit row. Your right to travel comfortably ends with the right to the same for the people around you. If you want more room, pay for the exit row.