Have you ever been rejected just because of your height?

I'm guessing you're a man ?

I'm 5'4 male and average looking and a bit chubby

Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit

The bar is set REALLY low

Really Really low

Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship

Lol ok I feel dumb after looking at the comments. I thought you meant like... On rollercoaster rides or something.

Is that a problem I'm too tall to understand?

Regularly throughout my life. I'm also 5'7". It seems to be less of an issue now that I'm older. People are going to like what they like. But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they're partners are so terrible.

So yeah, this shit is going to happen. You'll also get chosen for your height. Focus on improving those physical traits over which you have control.

My ex did tell me I'm shorter than she wants her bf to be. I was still talker than her by 2-3 inch but she wanted me taller than her in heels. And suggested I do exercises to get taller.

I ended it with her soon after that. I think if someone has thought like that, there are other common patterns that makes the relationship too much to worth it. My wife now is same height as me and we're happy about that, height difference of several inches seems weird/difficult to imagine now.

ive never Been rejected, (i dont ASK people out)

Rowing club coach at a university I was interested in told me I was too short to bother trying out but if I dropped all muscle to squeak under 120 lbs I could try for coxswain.

Jokes on them, rowing generally requires waking up before the ass crack of dawn which was not conducive to my preferred college experience. I found rugby, which has way broader allowance for body type and no sunrise torture sessions.

I (woman, 5'10") was dumped for being too tall.

I am 5'4" and though no one has ever outright told me they rejected me because of it directly, it almost certainly is a leading reason I have fewer interested parties. It seems like most women specifically mention height in their requirements. It's too bad, I'd date a tall woman. Karlach is my favorite.

Being short helped me grow a personality and learn to be charismatic to overcome my height, and I've done okay, but it'd be foolish to say it's not a huge hurdle in dating.

No. I have doubts that it actually happens except in extremely rare instances. I wonder if some women blame a lack of attraction on height because saying other things gets an ever worse reaction?

Not to my face. But as someone else said, it's rare for you to be told the rejection reason (for early dating). There are a lot of reasons for this, but part of it is people kind of suck at taking rejection. And on top of that, a significant portion of men are dangerous.

No one wants to risk the man flipping out, spewing cruelty, or worse. A gentler letdown seems safer.

I can't ride the go karts at the nearby go kart track because I am too tall 😔

I'm 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼‍♂️

I lucked out into being born 5'10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow "6ft or nothing" women self filter themselves and I don't have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5'4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5'2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman

I'm 5'8, plenty of men aren't interested in women as tall as they are.

Yes. Rejected to ride on the adult-sized go karts. Has to ride the kiddie bumper cars instead. But this was when I was younger.

About 10% of women will have a very strict type and reject you outright. If you were 2m tall this would maybe shrink to 9%, so it's irrelevant.

90% will think maybe you're a bit short but will overlook your height if you're above average in some other area of personality or looks.

My favorite height in a woman is the height of the woman who is interested in me.

I tell people I'm 4'23" and that sorts them out.

Yes. I am 1,70 and got rejected for being too small. Well. It happens.

Reading the thread. Most of you guys are not THAT short lol. I actually married my guy who is 5'1". He has a nice smile, funny and smart.

He has told me unfortunately that he has often been declined often by women due to his height. We have asked our mutual friends who said they won't date someone who is that short which is unfortunate because they all love him too.

He's pretty confident, professional, so people from work finally meet him in person, they are surprised he is not taller.

I'm too tall for that. But on a lot of dates i go, the woman tells me that she's glad i'm tall and then tell me a story how they went on a date with a short guy and how awkward that was.

Yes, he said he didn't like feeling like a kid next to me 🤷‍♀️

This whole height thing is an artifact of dating apps.

Of course women are going to judge based on one of the 6 data points they have available. It's not that they're shallow by "nature".

Women will almost never confront a man face-to-face with the reason she rejects him because to do so is physically dangerous.

I saw a meme on reddit today that suggested that an obese woman could have all the partners she wanted and that only men suffered from being rejected because of their body and this incel shit is gotten out of hand.

EDIT: here is the meme: https://i.redd.it/yyp4m7axn25f1.jpeg

I was once rejected for being too tall. I'm 1.96m (6'5") and she was ~ 1.65m (5'5"), said that she didn't like the thought of having to crane her neck to see my face.

No. I got married before online dating existed

Yes, too tall. I'm 6ft without any kind of footwear. 🤷🏿‍♀️

Yeah, most awkward job interview I have ever had

I'm a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.

No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I've ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.

I'm a tiny bit shorter than 5'7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don't always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I've dated taller women a few times as well, so it's not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don't think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.

Only two ladies didn't like my height lying down

HEYOOOOO

Long, somewhat related story:

Many moons ago I was at a club and was dying for a smoke, but you had to leave the club and go through two sets of lines and ID checks to get to where I was hanging out on the second floor. Well, they had a giant outdoor balcony, but the area was walled off by a line of plastic chairs. My drunk, fiendin, ass said, "fuck it", shuffled a chair out of the way, and snuck off to the corner to smoke. Well, what was one or two people who noticed me and did the same, soon turned into a packed balcony.

Regardless, my little act of rebellion seemed to get the attention of a "tallish" girl in heels who started chatting me up. About 3/4 through my smoke, the bouncers finally catch wind that there's fifty people on the balcony, and start angrily shuffling people back into the club. At this point, I ask the chick if she wants to dance, and she accepts.

Kudos to her for lasting as long as she did, but thirty seconds into grinding her ass on my stomach, she gave up trying to dance with me and walked away without a word, never to be seen again.

I wouldn't even consider myself short (1.78m, 5'10"), but it was a humbling moment at the time.

I was at a cast party with my s/o (she is in theatre) and all the women were chanting that only short kings were at the party (I'm 5'8) - that's the closest I've been to rejection lol.

5'7" IS short in some countries for males.

Edit: For example, average male height in the US is 5'9". Below average by 2 inches is fairly noticeable. Tom Cruise is 5'7". Everyone knows he's short. Is there anything wrong with that? No. I'm 6'4" and I assure you it's not all it's cracked up to be.

No but then women tend to get a pass for being short. I don't have much going for me so I feel the shortness lends me a bit of cuteness. I'm fun-sized!

Everyone is tall compared to me so it's kinda funny that I ended up with a guy who's actually tall to everyone else too (6'1).

Edit: 5'1

too many people based it on porn standards, 6'+ and 7-10inches long.

I'm a 5'7 woman. Yes, I've been rejected a couple times because I'm on the taller side.

I thought this thread was talking about applying for jobs and was so confused

It was used as an excuse once, they just liked someone else. I was ~5'10"

No, but I was rejected because I couldn't drive.

5'5 and no. It's usually my outlandishly goofy and immature sense of humor that scares folks off, based on what I've been told about it. For context, my favorite podcast is bigsofttitty.png, so....fair enough lol

Male, 5' 10" / ~1.78m.

For actual first dates, serious to semi serious, or a first genuine asking someone out on a date?

No, never been rejected on account of my height.

For... whole bunch of people at a bar or party, dancing, hitting on each other and looking to go home with someone?

... Maybe once or twice a chick I was into snubbed me for a taller guy?

I've managed to draw some away from taller dudes a few times as well, so... balances out?

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Possibly worth mentioning that I think I've only ever dated one or two women the same height or even slightly taller than me...

As there are a portion of women who will reject a guy who is too short, I think that also works in reverse and there are a portion of men who will reject a gal because she's too tall.

I don't think so, no, but I've definitely been rejected because they didn't think I was cute. The world has gone downhill ever since they let women pick their mates! 😤

Being thin will land you there.

I'm 5'6. Yeah. So much. I was rejected like crazy for my height in my teens and early twenties, but I lived in a particularly shitty part of the United States, so I'm not surprised in retrospect. I also dated a ton, so there was a lot of opportunity for rejection. I even remember a woman I was not interested in and had shown absolutely no interest in going out of her way to tell me she would date me if I wasn't so short.

I relocated to a much more progressive part of the country and it hasn't come up once in nearly a decade.

Edit: I should mention it was only an issue with women, I never heard anything about it from men.

There's generally no way to know.

I mean, 5'7" is quite short.

Not that I would wish it on anyone to be rejected because of their height, but we're all entitled to our sexual preferences, without the burden of justification. And this one seems incredibly reasonable, unless maybe you're in Asia where 5'7" is like top 1 percentile?

I would never date any man or woman below 5'10" because I prefer my partner to be taller than me. I generally consider anything less than 5'8" to be very short, and anyone over 6'0" to be tall.