joining the fediverse to bitch about reddit is the same as going on a date, and spending the whole night talking about your ex

So... Are we on a date? 😳

I don’t mean to be rude OP, but your entire contribution to lemmy has been 5 comments and this single post about Reddit. In order to gain traction as a viable alternative to Reddit we need OC and active participation in the comment section. Be the change you want to see and lead by example - start posting interesting non-Reddit related stuff yourself. The more people that do, the better lemmy will be.

Hard disagree. The Reddit situation is a huge news story even for people who aren’t on Reddit.

Also you wouldn’t bring up an ex on a first date because you’re trying to impress the new person. However you would definitely talk about her to friends and family if it was an upsetting situation for you. Reddit was a big part of my life and it fucking sucks what happened To it

Here is a hot take: think of it like leaving a house you have been renting for 10 years. Our relationship wasn't with the landlord as much as it was the neighbors and community.

Now, our landlord turned to a money-grubbing asshat spaz spez. You better believe we are telling everyone in our community, old and new, not to rent from him. Additionally, we are going to be venting the hurt of being evicted. We have all been forced to find a new neighborhood and learn everything new that comes with it. Our habits have been reset and it sucks.

It's less obsessing over that site, but more:

I wanna see that bitch burn.

It's been like a week since the most recent migration happened, we can't just expect this to blow over immediately when like 90% here came from reddit just 7 days ago

Bad analogy, it would be like meeting up with all your ex-girlfriend's other former partners and all bitching about that shared ex because you have that thing in common.

The fediverse has gradually shifted from being 75% posts complaining about reddit and 25% other to being 25% posts complaining about reddit, 25% posts complaining about how people come here to complain about reddit, and 50% other. We be makin progress!

ya ok but then again you did make this thread, currently #1 on my lemmy world feed, about bitching about reddit lol

Instead of reddit, why not talk about something more positive on your date, like how many tickets you are going to buy for my new movie, "Barbie", only in theaters July 21st?

But what if that crazy bitch stabbed you and it makes a pretty good story

It would be more like you both dated the same asshole and are bonding over your mutual hatred.

just let people vent, itll stop eventually once everything settled for good

Good, I hate that bitch

Except the person you are on the date with also broke up with Reddit, and that is why you are on a date in the first place.

Not really. The reddit drama is a major disturbance in the internet. It's a huge topic and thus naturally generates lots of discussion. Of course everyone's talking about it.

Says the person talking about…Reddit.

Really it's more like we're all Reddit's exes who've unionized

I would say it's more like when a bunch of friends collectively break up with toxic partners and have a big meeting to talk about it. It'll die down after a while. People on Reddit don't really talk about Digg anymore.

Personally I enjoy hearing about the reddit drama. I don't spend nearly as much time there as I did before they broke my beloved sync so I enjoy getting to read about the ongoing shenanigans over there.

No. Joining Lemmy and bitching about Reddit is more like you and one or two other roommates moving out of a large, historically awesome collective steadily being ruined by an increasingly dictatorial house-owner (who used to live there too) and bitching about it in your brand new but decidedly smaller one, hopefully looking towards the future between tirades and building to regain some of that lost awesomeness

Disagree. We're enjoying watching our collective ex trainwreck. The chatter will die down soon, let us laugh a little and we'll move on :)

We talk about what's important to us in the moment... It's part of how we mourn the loss we've just experienced.

I didn't join the Fediverse to bitch about Reddit, but I'm sure enjoying it.

Real talk: it’s because we’re trying to identify and preemptively avoid the pitfalls of Reddit.

I love reading about reddit AND twitter on the Fediverse.
It's better than reality TV could ever hope to be.
Entitled assholes who run the place, decide to start their platforms on fire and then try and blame the users.
Really?
And then they get all temper tantrum on the users and punish people like the tyrants they are.
Failing, worse than anyone ever in the history of business, (yes, YOU elon), is just a joy to behold.
Who is an amazing business man? Not you spez, elon, trump.
Ego will be your ultimate death.
Welcome to social media gentlemen, thank you for lighting yourselves on fire. Please clean up when you are done.

It's barely been a week! Let me grieve!

It's only been 8 days dude. Gotta give people time to grieve and accept it so they can move on.

Reddit was full of Digg comments for a while.

Imgur was full of Reddit comments for a while (when Imgur decided to become their own social platform).

Lemmy is going to be full of Reddit comments for a while.

Sure, yeah, but you have to talk about your ex for a while to process and get over them.

No, that's a bad analogy. A closer one with your context is having a bad breakup and then getting into another relationship and moving in with the person, where your share stuff about your prior life along with other stuff.

But a better analogy is people living in an apartment building who get together for social events in the common area for years until the management starts doing shitty stuff, increasing rent, etc. A hunk of people decide they aren't taking it anymore, so they all move into the newly built apartment down the road that doesn't have many people in it yet. The new place also has community events, and now it's mostly people from the old place that are talking about what happened in the old place.

Bad breakup, eviction, or whatever, you can't expect a group of people who had a bad experience together to just stop talking about it in a few weeks. The vast majority of Lemmy users came from Reddit. It will die down when people really have gotten over it.

You first

I would liken it more to starting at a new job in the same industry. You have lots to praise, critique and compare about your new job to your old job, and the only people who can appreciate what you have to say are your new peers.

It's just the nature of the situation. This will likely be a trend for a while.

Wouldn't that mean making threads about people complaining about Reddit comparable to spending the whole night complaining about how your last date only complained about their ex? Not really a great look either, lol.

...fuck, what does that make me, now?

Wait a minute!!! Reddit was fucking you lot too?!!!!

Says the person posting about reddit.

And yet, here we are.

It's more like it was 90% of the people here's ex that they just broke up with.

It's almost like people talk about recent events. Who would have thought?!?!

People need to vent

Sort of... But just like my ex, everyone has dated her and we all have something in common to bitch about.

I see the irony here 😂

This is very true, but due to the recent mass exodus is like a large group of people meeting and all talking shit about the GF/BF they all shared (a.k.a. the slut of the town)

If you're joining the Fediverse to take Reddit down and migrate people over... then it makes sense to talk about it. Have to strategize to identify your enemy's weaknesses it order to take 'em down. And while you're doing it, negative things about Reddit will come out. Even if it does end up being complaining, it's part of the process and it'll make people feel better while also doubling as important brainstorming.

Reddit used to always go on about how I stacked the dishwasher. Then there were the API changes. I'm like, why do you need to control everything, reddit? Just chill the fuck out.

Well, not quite - because we all have the same ex, so we can commiserate with each other and laugh at the fact that they just walked into a tree.

But yes - I was subscribed to Redditmigration when I first arrived, but unsubbed after about a week, it did indeed get old. Still - I'm not going to try and proscribe what people want to talk about. There will be people who are still genuinely mourning the loss of a communities they loved.

it helps create content for lemmy at least

Most people, in one way or another, process by talking. It's fine. Besides, there's the train wreck aspect of it. Bad taste as it may be, but you can't stop watching and pointing out more horrible details to the people around you.

Whining about the whining. Reddit has arrived.

Tell em, Steve Dave!

no it isn't. My interest in Lemmy is not romantic and if you do agree with this, get out and engage people in person more often.

My main communities from Reddit are basically non-existent here, so I'm still on Reddit for that fix.. otherwise I've really been enjoying Lemmy.

"We had everything. RiF, Apollo... so many others. She threw them away like trash. She even suddenly decided to hate on blind people. Who the fuck does that? I mean, really? Who does that?"

In a Community called showerthoughts definitely not ripped from Reddit. Lol

Yeah, its a bit much. But hey, it's something that brings a lot of the users here together. Common ground to get conversation going and gets the new Reddit refugees interacting with content on here. After a while it'll probably die down but it's very much at the forefront of new users' minds.

It's not my fault reddit broke up with me. Reddit's a bish!

Posting here is a bit like having sex with your new partner while Margot Robbie shouts at you, but you're still thinking about your ex and loads of people are watching and up and down voting you and also you have concerns about how your new partner handles GDPR compliance

Just ignoring it fully when it's so fresh isn't healthy either. In that case, you're essentially just the "this is fine" dog while the house burns.

Difference being, maybe you're outside the house now and safer, but you're still just outside trying to blankly share memes with neighbors like a psychopath while the house burns, unacknowledged, behind you.

Calm down, fellow kids... We can talk about it for awhile and it will naturally fade with time, as it already is on many instances.

And yet here you are, doing just that.

People need to vent. I'm also tired of it, like you, because I know I'm never going back. But it needs to be done so that people can clear their anger at just how shitty the whole situation was.

I just blocked the reddit community here so there's a lot less of it in my feed now. Maybe I'll unblock it later. My point being, take charge of your feed and make it what you want!

If I go to Reddit in order to tell everyone how great Lemmy is, that’s like going back to my X and talking about how great my new SO is. Sounds like a pretty psycho move IMO when I think about it.

But my ex was really crazy. You gotta hear this!

Yet here you are posting about lol

Okay, but whats an apt date analogy for joining fediverse to bitch about what other people are posting about?

I appreciate the sentiment, but it's probably going to be a thing for awhile :) Asking the internet not to hold a grudge is like asking a fat man to skip the buffet

and I'm saying that as a fat man

More than happy to hear everyone smash on zuckyboy though haha. All of social media is a mess right now.

Oh no people are using some form of social media to complain. Well anyway.

Counter shower thought, I'm not even close to dating Lemmy. I spent 2 years getting to know Reddit, it will take me as long, if not longer due to Lemmy not being as mature as resdit was.

Right now, lemmy is the stranger at the train station asking why I am crying. It might turn into something, or I may just lean into Facebook / Instagram / YouTube / discord more.

I get that it can be annoying, but we can still discuss what was bad about it with the idea of not repeating the same mistakes here, right?

The Reddit bullshit is $current_topic. Sure, it's probably annoying if you've been here already and suddenly there's this influx of Reddit complaints, but you have to let it die out naturally. People are here because they're angry; let them be angry. Just provide good content and people will naturally stay for that alone.

People are still in the migration process. Talk about Reddit will NOT go away, because it's the elephant in the room and it hasn't gone away.
If you were around for the DIGG migration to Reddit, it's going to be similar. It will take a LONG TIME before you stop seeing Reddit related content here. It's just going to be a little less over time.

I doubt it will ever go away to the level of DIGG, unless Reddit completely implodes, which it won't. Reddit in its current state is still usable for the silent majority of users via desktop or official app, like it or not. DIGG rn is completely useless.

What we can do is support each other, create and share meaningful content here. Migrate your interests, and if it doesn't exist, create it or someone else can. Lemmy growth and interactions have exploded, even over the past week. Give it time, and enjoy the fact that we don't have to worry about Reddit screwing itself at the cost of their users.

I never had a reddit account but decided to join up here for "reasons why reddit is bad". I'm here now so hoping not to see too many of these kinds of posts, including this one :)

I’m just excited to see Lemmy approach critical mass. Over 410k members and counting.

r*ddit

It will die down eventually. The migration is still very fresh.

Speaking of the ex, did I tell you about the time she kicked me out of /r/poli...

You're doing it right now!

It's a form of therapy

Yup. I can’t wait till one of these Lemmy apps adds a keyword filter. Look at how defensive these replies are lol I haven’t this much “Well actually” since …well you know. I think you struck a nerve, OP!

I think that's not the same thing at all

A/S/L?

Your post is the only post talking about Reddit in my feed, because I blocked the other channels. 😅

15 years and it's gone. I'm in need in of therapy.

We need more threads about not talking about that thing that we have been talking about too much.p

Then, may be we can start talking about Meta's Thread..😅😅

Yo dawg I heard you liked bitchin about people bitching about reddit in your bitchin about reddit...

Reddit is so old news.

Bitching about Meta is the new hotness

Wounds do not heal that rapidly.

I need some time to bitch and moan about that toxic relationship OK?

Nah, really, I agree witcha...

And I left reddit because it stopped letting me watch porn. Lots of similarities here.

I don't mind reading about reddit on the reddit community, but the fact people can't shut up in non related communities annoys me to no end, the circlejerking is insane.

It's like, people go to asklemmy and ask "don't you feel this is so MUCH better than reddit, people are way nicer and have higher IQ", like dude come on.

Also another one is people bashing reddit for no reason, like a post that said that reddit doesn't respect free speech and showed a threat lf deleted comments with no context, as if that was a bad act in itself some people talk about moderation as if it was a bad thing done over in the bad reddit

Thank you for doing this

NGL, this made me miss one Boost for Reddit feature: filter based on keyword

if you want to stop reading about it use the block button liberally. I would recommend blocking mags like RedditMigration. That will relieve you of about 95% of the discussion...

So it’s okay for you to bitch and moan about stuff you don’t like, but others aren’t allowed to be upset about Reddit?

I think you may have been letting your frustrations guide your words. End of the day, we all (including you) are allowed to express your frustrations on anything, but you being frustrated with their frustration is only going to spiral out of control. Try something else like going to those threads explicitly and derailing the conversation towards something more positive and constructive.

Pretty much what I would expect from a redditor on a date.

But we can't cuddle and/or watch Netflix with Lemmy.

I agree except when it's a matter of malicious compliance on reddit. Fucking up their site with NSFW content and shit posts.

I think those subs still fighting reddit can raise awareness to how shitty reddit had become and convince more people to leave.

People leaving reddit might land them on the fediverse and thus create more content for me to see on here.

It's annoying to see all these posts about reddit. But it's temporary. I'll allow it Señor Chang gif.

I dont know if i should follow your advice and keep scrolling or come here and complain about reddit and idk its fun to complain about reddit

okay so if you make the mistake of going on reddit rn (i was trobleshooting a specific issue get off my back) its like a school at night all the lights are off except for some and they're blinding bright if you make the even WORSE mistake of going on r/all its like a noticable shift has happened and also where it used to be significant bots, now its VERY many botposts. its fun if you like chatting with bots!

AMEN!!

Give it time the conplaining will fade. The same happened with digg

Just ignore the posts then? I don't see what the big deal is. If anything it makes this community stronger having a collective discontent for our previous beloved.

LMAO not that I disagree but it's funny

Wait, have I been doing dates wrong?

But thanks to reddit most of us are here, so it will take bit of time to forget it

And the ex is also the waiter.

More like fleeing a totalitarian regime and talking with your fellow compatriots about how much oppression you've endured. (A bit exaggerated, but you get the point.)

I agree, I just joined here from reddit, and would like see communities florish reminiscent to reddit but like you said, we need to move on from an old Ex and see how it goes

It's a form of therapy

I couldn't agree more.

I hope this can just be a hangout with the lads and lasses where we can bitch about anything, including our ex!

People on Mastodon are complaining about people talking about twitter, and posting their complaints to the hashtag #twitter which is very odd, as they could filter it.

I expect there will be filters on Lemmy eventually.

Hi, I'm here to complain about people complaining about other people who are complaining about Reddit.

I'm tired of reading about this. We must do something, Lemmy!

Eh, it’s more like going out with the guys then complaining about your ex. And incidentally, you’ve all had a ride one that particular crazy coaster so you can sympathize.

If reddit was that important to whomever they should probably talk to someone about it.

I enjoy the sarcasm though.

Well you are not wrong!

I'm new, what is fedverse? Is this fed verse? Is lemmy part of something else called fedverse?

Technically complaing about others talking about reddit. Is still talking about reddit with extra steps

I disagree. I'm not trying to fuck Lemmy.

I dunno… at this point it’s like hearing stories about your crazy ex and kinda enjoying at what a dumpster fire s/he has become.

I agree, let's move on. Lemmy is the future.

Ironically, you used this sub to talk about Reddit. We left, why don't you move on?

Why not just ignored those posts then? There are plenty of other posts to read.

Absolutely! Having this great thing in front of you, more lovable and genuine than what you had before, but you do keep on blabbering about the ex who went out for cheap cocktails and a 5-sec-back-alley-hump without lubricants with Steve.

Making exact copies of subreddits, then being surprised people can't shut up about Reddit. Reddit Lemmy Moment.

Or it could be like bitching about an ex to your therapist. Sometimes you need to get stuff off your chest. The good news is you don't need to read it.

Getting fired from that place was the _sob best thing that ever happened to me.

I'd like to complain about people who hold things up by complaining about people complaining. It's about time something was done about it!

Thank you. Forget Reddit. I mean, like it's so hard to move on. She was so great for so long. We have so many... memories. Not all good, but it's so hard to be alone. This new girl is nice, but she's not the same.

Sure, Reddit got pissed while I was out with my friends and trashed my apartment. It was clear by then that our relationship was so messed up, but I wanted to salvage things and rushed home, only to be cornered by Reddit. Reddit was threatening me with a knife and had broken almost everything in the apartment. My friends came to help me and while one tried to subdue Reddit, she bit him and I escaped.

I moved out and deleted my account.

Sure, weeks later, I got drunk and browsed Reddit a few times after all that. When I wasn't drinking, she tracked/stalked me and sent unsolicited nudes. Nice.

I found a much better girl to hang out with. Sure she federates with everyone, but she federates with me much more. Very cool.

I think we are in a transition phase right now, after some time this kind of "bitching about reddit / twitter whatever" trend will cool down.

I haven't really looked at anything else.

"To bitch about it?" Yes, I'm not a fan of the echo chamber of people's feelings toward Reddit; but it's still a situation that's going on, so I'd like updates and conversation surround that.

Except everyone here has the same awful ex to complain about

Expect in the case of these two websites, I kinda WANT to hear people bitch about their ex.

I think that by being part of the change, we will be able to really make a big difference. RIP Apollo

Down vote and YOU move on, then.

I think we need a balance, which is slowly cropping up naturally.

Part of the Lemmy V Reddit war is what's causing Lemmy to grow soquickly.

Yeah and why do Jews make so many hitler jokes?

/s

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