OP asks legaladvice for help on escaping her physically abusive husband. He is a cop.
OP asks legaladvice for help on escaping her physically abusive husband. He is a cop.
This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).
I am NOT OP. Original post by furtopt in r/legaladvice. Do not contact OP or comment or vote in the linked threads, that is against legaladvice's rules and more generally quite rude.
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husband is physically abusive. He is a cop. I can't escape. Help? - Sun Mar 27 01:21:57 2022 UTC
husband is physically abusive. He is a cop. I can't escape. Help?
I'm completely dependent on my husband. He sees all my movement. I'm pretty sure he planted one of those apple tags in my car.
He is very violent. I've called the police. They didn't do anything even when I had two black eyes.
I have no family. Am estranged of all y friends.
I think he's gonna kill me.
Help.
Ohio.
[Update] Husband is physically abusive. He is a cop. I can't escape. Help? - Mon Jun 20 18:22:58 2022 UTC
Hello all,
First of all... I am alive!
Second of all... thank you all so much.
In my first post I was really really scared because I thought my husband might kill me.
I'm glad to say I made it out.
After the threat I got new motivation and energy to go out. I made a little emergency bag and hid it in the laundry room under the dirty pile.
I started keeping petty cash from my shopping trips.
With the petty cash I bought a very cheap pre paid phone that I used to call a woman's shelter. They helped me make a plan and got me out of there.
That was by far the scariest night of my life. I left when I knew my husband had night shift. I was so scared that he somehow found out what I was planning and was hiding out to catch me.
I had been very careful too. I was sweet to him. Acted as if he had broken me successfully. Acted on his every wish. It was very painful.
But that night at 3 am I finally escaped with my little bag. I left behind my phone. That same day I had sold my laptop. I told my husband that I wanted to put some cash forward to his gaming PC so he wouldn't mind.
I got an old tablet with Sim function for very cheap too. So that I had the rest of the 500 bucks of my laptop sale for me.
I left the car behind and everything left the house and just ran till I arrived at a McDonald's and from there ordered an Uber to the pick up place.
As soon as I arrived they helped me close everything that could be closed (email, cashapp, my bank account etc etc). And they helped me get an amazing lawyer.
So right now I am in the shelter alive and well. I finally managed to get a TRO till the divorce hearing. My lawyer is realistic with the case.
But everything that matters is that I am no longer scared of going to sleep at night and never waking up.
Thank you so much!
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This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.
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So many such stories don't have such a happy ending. This woman is lucky to be able to leave safely.
36I really missed this sub
Me too. It’s about the only reason I still open Reddit, every now and again.
26Same. I use an rss reader on my phone and have the best of sub as an rss feed in it. That way I can still read it decently from my phone.
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My favorite updates are the getting out of an abusive life safely. People underestimate just how hard that is to do
21Jesus, thats frightening. Hope it all works out for the best in the end and the husband doesn't just find a new victim.
11Sadly he's a police officer in America. So best case he get fired and gets a new job at a department a stone toss away. Most likely nothing happens.
12Unfortunately true, probably comes with a raise too.
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Here I can't even get a woman, and there's someone beating the shit out of his woman
-41Have you considered that this incel/niceguy attitude towards women is part of the reason women don't care to associate with you?
Edit: Wow I figured you're a troll but holy shit. -815 points in 16 days. That's impressively low.
27The real victim of domestic abuse: guys who are so narcissistic that they associate everything with the fact they don't have a girlfriend.
27In addition to what @ScrivenerX said, this is also problematic because you seem to think women are aware someone is an abuser and then continue to date them. Abusers are incredibly manipulative and isolate their victims as much as possible over time so that they feel they can't realistically leave once they reveal their true selves.
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