Strong Man 💪
Strong Man 💪
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/49868866
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told to be stoic, strong and never cry?
Do you live in the 50's?
Now it's the complete opposite-
It really isn't.
You're mostly right. With a lot of people, yes, you can be open and honest and you'll be met with love and understanding. But it's a minority in my experience.
With the majority, you get a "men should be socially aware and emotionally available" but then the second you bring up your own feelings and problems, you're ignored. Possibly even get your admission of "weakness" mocked.
The assumption is that as a man you have it good, are set for life, and so you don't get to complain. Any problems you have must be minor and should be easy to deal with, how dare you try enlist help from others. Suck it up and man up!
It's popular to virtue-signal about how society thinks about men, so it might seem like things are better. And they are. But there is STILL a double-standard that is making it very difficult to discuss with most people.
When meeting people one on one, the toxic masculinity is alive and well. No-one mocks me to my face at a party. But one on one? All the time.
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I'm glad you feel that the emotional state of men is better support. Genuinely pleased if your social circle/work/community/family are like this. But this is certainly not standard and certainly not "the complete opposite".
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I'm sure that for a substancial period already the youth gets educated about this.
I referenced the 50's since they had all the archaic hierarchical cliche's like the man providing for his family, etc..
I think we have moved on from there.
There will always be reactionary people and yes there is the manosphere social media BS but honestly I have encountered none of that.
Even with some I didn't expect it like a welder "tough guy" I know.
So it might be different for you but my experience with this issue is totally positive.
Might depend on the country, religion or other factors.
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I cri evry tiem.
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For any who need to hear it: it takes courage to ask for help, you are not weak, you are strong. Don't be like previous generations and bottle that shit up, it just comes out in the worst ways.