I don't know if I should tell the girl I'm seeing this...
I don't know if I should tell the girl I'm seeing this...
Hi, so I'll call the girl "Alice". Alice is this really cool girl I'm seeing. Wonderful, really. She'll be my girlfriend once we go on a few more dates. However, I don't know if I should let her know my true self. I am secretly into claymation yaoi between the characters of Wallace and Gromit, Flushed Away, etc.
Like, come on! Wallace and Victor Quartermaine is so cute. Victor Quartermaine and the Vicar!? Spike and Whitey!? Spike and Ladykiller!? And don't get me started on Dr. Fry and Reginald Smith and Mr. Tweedy from Chicken Run!
It's embarrassing, and I'm afraid the girl I'm seeing will think I'm weird, but she'll love me no matter what if she's the one, right?
I think sometimes it's easy to think that if you love someone, not telling them something about yourself is lying by omission. But it's okay to have inside thoughts. You don't have to volunteer every single thing about your inner life. And doing so, especially unsolicited about a strange porn preference, can really signal that you're not a person with good judgement.
Is this... interest... a major part of your life? Are you spending hours a day spanking it to this stuff? Is it affecting other areas of your life? If not, just keep it up yourself.
Maybe one day she'll ask what your fantasies or porn preferences are in an attempt to spice things up or cater to your sexual interests. At that point you can decide. And if you want to tell her, you can preface it by saying you're a bit embarrassed about it so she doesn't laugh.