So I just watched "Watch please dont destroy the treasure of foggy mountains". The movie is about friendship. Do any of you guys (over the age of 30) have best friends ?

50 years old, had a single best friend for nearly 38 years. My only continuous friend throughout my life.

I got together with a girl from our mutual past, and found out he groomed and molested her for years.

Confronted him about it and he turned into a completely different person. Absolutely destroyed our decades-long friendship.

I have a few friends, but no one I could call with a real problem.

Haven’t seen the movie, but I have a best friend. We dated for a short period, but ended up becoming best friends a month later. The real irony, we ended up discovering we have a ton in common and we’re even dating people that are almost identical.

It’s strange, unless this situation is more common place than I was aware?

I'm not a good example, but I've burned off a lot of old parts of myself to keep things moving forward over the past ten years or so. I haven't had any friends in a long time. It is lonely, but I honestly would have expected it to be worse by now. I have routines that work alright for me.

Pretty much just my wife. I have some great friends from high school, but we only get together every other year or so.

I don't even have any regular friends and wouldn't even begin to know how to make one.

I used to have a lot of friends, then I got clean.

I'm just not good at talking in that perspective. I can talk about specific topics but seem to lack the ability for small talk that making friends seems to require. In the past 6 years I thought I made a friend once, we worked together for a while and would talk a couple times a day, I was a little more advanced in my career so I would often help her with projects/teach her stuff, I even opened up a bit and let out my weird thoughts occasionally. It was good, then one day she just stopped responding.

I'm very content with having my wife and son as my best friends, but an actual friend would be nice.

I'm 32, I've never really been one to rank my friends but there's a few I'd consider to be frontrunners

I have a guy I've been friends with since pre school, we sometimes forget to talk or hang out for months or occasionally years at a time, but always end up picking up right where we left off.

There's a handful of friends who I can always hit up to do something and if they're free they're always up for an adventure or to lend me a hand with whatever I'm working on.

There's of course my wife, which feels like a lame cop-out of an answer because of course my wife is my best friend

And there's my dog, which is even more of a kop-out.

An interesting thing that's happened this year is that probably about a half dozen people, both people I'd consider to be in the running for best friend, and ones who I wouldn't necessarily rank that high (not that I don't like them or think highly of them, just never quite thought of them that way) have told me how much they value my friendship, which I guess means I must be doing something right.

Yes. Since I was 8. He moved states at one point which sucked. He's been there for 8 years and is just now trying to move back north after a bad relationship. Actually that relationship despite her liking me he just kept cutting out everyone. He even started cutting me out. Then when it unraveled I was the one he called and helped him through it. Even then I hedged my bets and played neutral, just repeating back what he said and never giving advice

Anyways it's been over 20 years of supporting each other. One toxic relationship ruined it for a bit but he's someone I will always forgive and support.

No idea about that movie, but I’d say I have a handful of close friends. As cliche as it sounds, my spouse is my best friend

I have a few close friends, most of whom I don’t see as often as I’d like.

Edit: I’m 45.

they all got married, and my peer group's partners and kids are their best friends.

i got a pet.

I technically do, but it is much more like having a best acquaintance who is not interested in keeping in touch or having meaningful conversations but assumes we are friends forever because we were actual friends at some point.

It is a bummer.

And thanks for the movie rec, looks fun, I'll check it out

Haven’t seen the movie. (never even heard of it).

Male, 55, don’t have any friends any more after divorce, COVID lockdowns, and isolation due to cancer treatment destroying my immune system.

To be honest, it doesn’t really bother me much. I can do what I want, when I want, without having to deal with other people’s schedules and emotional blackmail.

No

Yeah but like... We talk maybe once a month or every other month or sometimes once every six months. Always got each other's back in a bind.

First off, loved that movie.

Secondly, I'm 44 and I have a tight group of friends that I absolutely love. A few weeks ago we had a great camping trip together and we just had an awesome Thanksgiving party last night.

I'm incredibly lucky. Not everyone has it this good.

Unfortunately, no. Not anyone I feel comfortable confiding in completely, anyway.

Kind of. I'm 45, and met my best friend years ago here in Houston. He divorced his wife and moved home to Scotland, where I've been fortunate to visit him twice. He's the ideal friend, though being across the ocean makes it incredibly hard to really maintain. We keep in contact, but that's all. So now I'm either with my three teen daughters or alone with the dog. EDIT: Separated from my wife.

31, never heard of the movie but I have 2 close friends. One lives about 2 hours away and the other works like 60 hour weeks so I barely get to see him anymore. I try and get up with them as much as possible but it’s tough. We still maintain the friendship though, which is the important part

I saw the movie last night with my kids and they didn't enjoy. I didn't particularly like it either.

I'm 43, and I don't have friends. I have a girlfriend, and I have a "best friend" who's not really in my life, but I can call at anytime and have a chat. I've known her for coming on nearly 30years. But day in day out friends, I don't have them. I find it really hard to make friends. I overthink a lot and think a lot of people actually don't care what I'm talking about. I find it difficult to believe people are genuine. I try so hard to look past that, but seemingly, most friendships end up being like work relationships.

I have some friends, and some people that are really important to me. My brother and wife truly are my best friends, but aside from them, I had two other homies that were my best best buds. One from military days, and one since the sixth grade.

One drank himself to death and the other shot himself. But old trees just grow stronger. I’m just glad to still be here, you know.

But I miss those motherfuckers all the time. Actually thanks for making me think about it.

I am 35, live alone, have never been in a relationship, I have two friends that I actively maintain a friendship with.

One is my best friend, though I have no idea if I am their best friend.

I had a few more, but they all drifted away during four and a half year of working 12h alternating day/night 12h shifts.

Not really, no. I used to, but it fell apart in late 2021 and I’m not sure exactly how.

I have a best friend. He lives in another state and we don't talk as much as we used to, but whenever he actually comes online we usually chat or even play games together.

But he's literally the only person I know in my life other than my father that would do everything in his power to help me if I needed it, and I would do the same for him.

Not seen the movie.

Best friends is up and down. Had one definitive best friend who died around 5 years back and I've got a few clusters of friends, such as school pals, people I've been in bands with.

Though in the past year a bunch of work pals and old bandmates have come together and formed a new band just to have fun with, cos we're all getting on a bit and need a hobby I suppose. It's been really nice seeing them very often, bringing people from one element of my life into the fray with those from another.

I don't think I've felt more friendship than right now in a long time because of this!

Thankfully no. I used to have a best friend, and honestly it was exhausting and I much prefer my own company to anyone else's.

I just watched that too. My best friend passed away. He was a lot of people's best friend I think.

I (38) have 2 close friends now for over 18 years. One of them lives in a different country and the other in a different city.

I’m 50 and u don’t have any at all outside family. Not one.