Edit: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented, particularly those that provided additional context or sources. These are some of the best comments I have ever read and they are exactl

Ty what I was hoping to hear. edit: Thankyou everyone for your comments!! My main takeaway is that we need more people sharing their experiences so there’s more in common and therefore a better understanding of what it means not only from a personal but also societal perspective (culture, upbringing etc). It makes me feel immensely better knowing that at least one other dad out there is having the same thoughts/feeling/planning for their child as i did.