Blunt but true

"Hey, lets's meet at place for a coffee and chat.I'd like to know you better."

If she declines, move on.

They're working. I'd consider it to be a good sign they are even responding while at work.

I’m not sure this person Chloe is working while they’re talking, just that is what they’re doing in general in Noosa or whatever it said.
Edit: Fraser Island, not Noosa, sorry.

Bro can't take a hint. Do yourself a favor and don't insist on talking to someone who isn't as excited to talk to you as you are with them.

Alternatively, be an adult and tell someone when you're not interested. Some of us don't get cues like this. I'd argue most men aren't able to pick up on basic cues given how many stories there are out there of dudes not being aware they were being flirted with in the most obvious situations.

If she talks like this, walk away, she's not looking for personality and isn't worth the effort.

Chloe isn't that into you, take. The. Hint.

I got matched with a girl on Tinder and I started the convo. All I got were one line answers like "yup", "nope", "haha". Then we matched again on a different dating app. I chatted to her again but she never responded.
I get that dating apps can be daunting for many people, but we matched twice so clearly we are into each other. But really, make more effort than just giving one line responses or being matched again and not replying. That experience was more annoying than being ghosted or never getting any matches at all.
- The genuine advice I can give around this to you, or anyone else reading this is to read this for what it is. She may be busy, if she's interested, she'll message later. But it is also very possible she just wants someone to give her attention, and beating yourself up over someone being inconsiderate towards you. If she's interested, she'll talk, fighting or begging for someone who won't fight back for you isn't taking care of yourself.
- Tbh I would attribute this to someone just having poor literacy. Many people have a surprisingly serious struggle with reading or writing. If you ever have had to listen to an adult read something aloud, when they aren't someone who does a lot of reading for work? Slow, choppy, awkward, wrong inflection. You can tell they're literally taking it one word at a time, they aren't scanning the sentence ahead while reading. They do it word by word, storing each word in their mental RAM, and then discover the meaning of the sentence only at the end by reviewing that buffer. Then they pause as they internalize it and repeat the process. It's an exquisitely painful thing to watch. A LOT more people read like this than literate people think.
- yup
If this is tinder or similar, she should unmatch.
If it's just regular messaging, yeah the guy should back off.
Also she's working! And it sounds like she works at a restaurant. Like, oh sorry let me just stop bussing these tables for a second to talk to this smartass I barely know and maybe get fired?
- There was nothing to indicate she was working. He was asking what she was doing on Fraser Island, not what she was doing right then.
- Then, say so. “Hey, I'm working. I really want to chat up with you but I'm currently busy. I'll hit you up during my break.”
  There, crisis adverted by the power of actually being communicative.

I don't who that is but it looks like we'd get along. lol

It's Chloe.

This entire thread could serve as report material for lemmy user's social skills.

My man, you're on tinder - show some understanding. She's multitasking talking with 132 other men at the same time, looking for the most immaculate guy there is. I'd be talking like a brick wall either if I was getting the level of attention she is!

Perhaps there is a reason these people are single.
Not sure if you're being entirely serious, but I do find it funny when people (often women in this context) self sabotage like this. By half assing 20 conversations, some number of good matches will bounce because you look like a boring person who can't converse. You're more likely to end up with someone who doesn't care about your words, and then will probably treat you badly.
- I like to imagine a girl sitting on a bar stool in the middle of a bar full of men, slowly giving one word answers to the questions the men yell out like a press corps.
More likely a bot. There are a lot of those on Tinder.
This man Chloe’s.
- This Chloe mans
immaculate
Least rapey. Most likely to actually want to know her as a person. Someone who likes women.
Very high standard. Not many meet it.
Just remember guys: if you don't want to hang out with them on their favorite shopping trip, or listen to gossip about their work frenemy, or include them on your favorite hobby, then it's ok to just be single. Not everyone likes women. Find one you actually like spending lots of time with, or just hang out with your bros instead. All are good options.
What you don't want to do is pretend you're having a good time, then get married and be miserable for the rest of your life because you don't actually like them. That's boomer shit.
- There are also many girls who do not care about shopping trips, gossip, work drama, and have hobbies of their own that you can be included in. Women are not intrinsically much different from men. Social conditioning is more than powerful enough to override whatever slight biological inclinations there may be. If you date normies, sure you'll get people who fit the gender norms of the culture you're dating in. Normies in another country will behave differently. I don't think it's good or right to have a mentality of "well if I don't like hearing about makeup and dresses I guess speaking to women just isn't for me".
- Least rapey. Most likely to actually want to know her as a person. Someone who likes women. Very high standard. Not many meet it.
  Oh yeah, you better don't go advising shit after that intro next time.

Food and beverage for thought, babe.

It's called K'gari

Okay

Rekt

"I deserve more attention than you are giving me right now" ok piss baby, I'll give my spare attention to someone else

Ok
Nope, this is about matching energy and effort when trying to get to know someone. If I'm trying to break the ice and you refuse to meet me in the middle, I'm also going to be blunt, block you, or ghost your lazy ass, depending on the mood that day.
I've been on both sides of this, and I still have the decency to shoot back something like "Sorry can't talk right now, busy at work, I'll get back to you asap", and actually follow through. It really doesn't take any more than 15 seconds, and anything less is a lack of consideration, acting like a prima donna, or a severe lack of social skills.
- This exchange is clearly not the beginning of the conversation. Previous messages have been excluded from the snip on purpose.
  The replies on the left are exactly how someone unimpressed behaves.

Broke the secret forth rule of tinder: don't be boring. OOP (assuming OOP even exists, which I doubt) is asking information-sharing, interview-style questions. She's putting the same amount of effort into her answers as OOP is putting into his questions.

No, no she is not.
She is giving mostly one word answers.
At no point does she attempt anything like a 'yes, and' into her own questions.
She does not take the time to give a more elaborate, multi sentence response, that includes maybe some more context or details.
...
Could the dude be asking more interesting questions?
Yes.
Could she be giving more boring answers?
No, unless you just count blocking/ghosting as 'answers'.
...
The dude is correctly sensing that she is extremely not interested in this, because she is diplaying no signs of interest, and the dude is stating this, by telling her that she is not engaged in the conversation...
And by using a bit of an analogy to do so, he is actually demonstrating some creativity, a bit of wit, though it is a bit pointed toward her.
- I agree but am confused by one thing: Why did he start off with "nice chat"?
- The length of a message doesn't imply the amount of thought that went into it. These are extremely boring, ho-hum questions which required no thought or creativity. In a very balanced way, we can understand that no-effort initiations will result in no-effort responses.
  Also, sorry to break it to you - but heteronormative dating creates gender roles. Women get propositioned, men do the propositioning. Women get lots of bad options handed to them and must filter, men must go out and create their options by creating engaging interactions. After you clear the looks barrier, there are two questions on a girl's mind - "is he safe?" and "is he fun?" There isn't a whole lot you can do to display safety (other than not throwing a temper tantrum) - but as a guy, when you are messaging, your whole job is to be fun. OOP is completely failing to hold up his end of the heteronormative dating bargin. OOP's match is actually doing quite a bit of charity work by replying at all, in the hopes that he musters up the wherewithall to just say literally anything interesting.
- Or they're at work...
Aren't those types of questions how you get to know people? What are you saying is expected instead? I've been married since before tinder was a thing
- Many people have a poor understanding of human communication and say things like "I don't do small talk". They don't seem to understand that you use small talk (eg: what did you do this weekend?) to launch into more personal talk (eg: "I saw this doom metal band The Well play at so-and-so bar. So good! Do you like metal?")
  Sometimes people do like the grey text here and answer small talk questions in short, dead end, ways, and unless you're trying to kill the conversation that's probably self sabotage.
- Yeah, maybe this is just an old guy who's been married for a while's opinion, but I don't think you need some mind blowing questions to get to know someone. You can start off with "what are you doing around here" and then look for connections to build up on
- You're on a dating app. You're supposed to be fun and flirty.
On hinge, there was a pre-baked question "what is your most irrational fear", and if you messaged them saying it was actually rational... 100% response rate, maybe 80% go on a first date rate?
i don't know what it was about that, but if you gas them up on that instead of agreeing that it's irrational... People lloovvee it.
I'm old and married now, but I really wish I'd kept a careful data set on that. Entirely thesis worthy.
- People like being told they are not irrational.
  Its a compliment.
  It is validating.
  Thesis worthy?
  Ehhhhh.....
it's bad to be boring, but revenge-boring is okay lol
- I mean, you can do whatever you want. This isn't a moral inquisition. But if you want girls to actually go on dates with you....