It's frankly amazing that these two emotions can be reconciled long enough for anyone to find love.

To be fair, as a man, I've also done this when I was about to meet a girl. In case I get jumped or something. You never know with internet strangers.

With my experience with dating sites if I was into murdering random internet strangers I don't think I'd use dating sites to acquire targets, the amount of legwork would be unreasonable, it's almost impossible to get anyone to talk to on those things.

How am I supposed to lure potential victims to my kill dungeon if they ghost me all the time? Seriously it's a problem.

As a gay man, this is also pretty common. I have a friend who knows if I ever get laid, specifically because he's my emergency "if I'm murdered here's what to tell the people" person.

I actually had a girl take a picture of me while I was driving specifically for that purpose when I picked her up for our first date. She told me "I just need to send my friend your picture in case you murder me." Lol

I once went on a date with a girl and when I got to the bar there were four of her friends at the table! They left once they made sure I wasn't a murderer.

My friend and I just share our phone locations with eachother whenever one of us has a date with someone new. It makes everything dead simple. I can check at any time and see that they are not in a dumpster behind the Aldi.

I have seen a couple of girls looking stuck and helped them out. I made sure they took a picture of the reg and passed it on. To me it makes sense, increasing the chances of someone being found out makes them less likely to be a danger.

My pet hate is realising I am walking behind some girl who has started looking nervous. There is very little you can do to alleviate it. If you slow down it looks suspicious, and they don't want you near them so it is hard to walk past to get in front. It is a price most men face because of other people misgivings.

So you just gotta put a different name and picture on your bumble profile and then you can get away with murder scott free right?

It's because it's fatalistic 'humor'. If they actually believed there was a good chance of being murdered they wouldn't go out.

Date at a random strangers house? No way, unsafe! Going over to random strangers house to pick up a cheap Louis Vutton? Aww yeah!

I'm just saying, the predators probably mostly use easier ways to lure a victim than going through the trouble to find a date.

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Girls actually text each other like, "I'm meeting a guy allegedly named Brian here 📌If he murders me here's his Bumble pic so he can be brought to justice" and then the reply's like "You got it girl - have fun tonight! 😘😜"

tf is bumble?

Seriously. I'm 18 and just moved out this summer. The amount of people acting like creeps in public was insane at first. Now that I've been on testosterone for a while and started passing as male in public, it's been happening significantly less often. (Not never, but much less frequent).

I try to keep an eye out and be the helpful bystander in bad situations, and any advice on that would be appreciated. Stay safe out there, lemmings <3

I think that the best two emotions is greed and competition, because that's what science says are the best and most adaptible ones and the other ones are useless, and some I don't understand, even others ones, the other ones are either bad, cost too much + they don't make sense and they dont work on women unlike money

lol

edit: Oh did I mention by the way that I am also a bigot and racist? I know it's not relevant, but there you go.

It's about finding the sweet spot for being murder-y. You want to be just murder-y enough to be interesting and mysterious, but no so much that there's actual fear for their lives. OTOH, being not murder-y at all is boring and unfuckable. The dude with the man bun writing poetry about birds is not getting the date in the first place. Meanwhile, "probably not a murderer but I can't rule it out" is heading back to their place for a nightcap.