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How often to you bail on a half-written post or response?

I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

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  • 40% I'd estimate, I tend to write very long and in depth comments and will realize either I dont care enough about the subject to finish my statement or argument point, or I'm likely being baited by someone who doesnt care about having a genuine exchange of ideas and just wants to be "right".

  • For me personally it's when discussing controversial topics, I know I'm right but I'm too lazy to get into an argument to elaborate on my points in detail.

    • It's hard for me to self evaluation how often I'm right but if I'm asserting something with confidence I hold myself to rigorous proof.

      If I'm just chatting about beliefs it's a bit different but if I'm asserting something as fact I try not to say anything I can't show the receipts for to check myself for misinformation.

      If this process is too much work I just say nothing.

  • depends. on political posts it's like 90% bail rate, because i get done typing a message and then realize i'm just feeding into the outrage machine.

    but on meme posts? maybe 10% bail rate, because lol

  • I do it fairly often. Usually when:

    • It's pointless to submit the content, for the others and for myself.
    • There's a high chance that someone will misread it and whine.
    • It would help someone whom I don't want to.

    In Lemmy it's usually the first thing.

      • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

      ....explain? We're...silently and maliciously watching people eat shit when they don't have to? And this happens often?

      Y tho

      • Dunno about "we", but "I" do. I got plenty malice to watch them suffer! MWAHAHAHA [/evil villain laughter]

        Serious now: if the person can't be arsed to help themself, or if their request for help sounds like a demand/whining/passive aggressiveness. A noob saying "pls help how do i shoot web tnx" is 100% fine in my book, a "waah, why isn't this community helping me? [insert easy-to-websearch question]" is not.

        And this happens often?

        Can't recall doing it in Lemmy. But I did all the time in a certain other platform.

  • All the time. Sometimes I'll write an entire wall of text, correct all the typos I could find and then delete it. "Why bother? This person is just not going to consider a different opinion, just save yourself the pointless discussion."

  • Quite often, probably mostly because I have social anxiety. Sometimes I feel like I'm not adding anything meaningful to that conversation or that I'm probably not being as helpful as I initially think I am. I sometimes also have trouble putting my thoughts into words.

  • Probably 50/50. Mostly because I don’t care enough to get in an argument or have to defend what I say.

    Simple throwaway comments, observations, generic opinion stuff I’ll just drop it and move on.

    Anything I’m really knowledgeable in though, I’ll start and then cancel because there’s always someone who wants to challenge and argue and it’s just exhausting.

  • When I start on a responce, which is rare, I finish it. I'm more a reader then writer.

  • About 20% I'd say. It used to be much higher, arounx80%, but pushing through the anexity of feeling like have nothing to contribute has helped improved my writing. Perhaps it's come with age, but I feel like it's much easier to make myself and my thought process understood by others. A younger me thought that logic and just "being correct" was enough to be persuasive, but that's just not how people work.

  • Sometimes I react emotionally. Resting a reply is the catharsis to release, and usually by the end I’ve lost my steam by letting it out. 🍵🫖

  • My Lemmy app keeps a receipt every time I bail. So far it says I've bailed 56 times. Lmao.

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