What controllable attributes do you find attractive?

Kindness is one for me. A person who is kind immediately has my attention.

There's some of the obvious ones like cleanliness and being kind to service people. I think dress sense is one to a degree as well, I don't mean being super curated but at least putting some effort in.

One of the more boring ones I've picked up as I've aged is financial literacy and being good with money. I love a guy with a big spreadsheet.

Hobbies is one for me too. Something people are interested in or passionate about gives them depth and character.

I've had friends who were generous with me and that gave me such a heart-warming feeling. It doesn't have to be much, like it can just give a compliment or offering a piece of gum. It's the thoughtfulness and consideration that counts. At least, that's who I try to be whenever I can.