ADHD/autism/etc. and justice sensitivity

Probably due to my own childhood experiences, it makes me very upset to see an individual or group persecuted because they are doing something or are something that is not harmful in any way whatsoever but have been arbitrarily categorized as unacceptable. I also can't stand seeing anyone get left out for no reason, so at social events I tend to gravitate towards the orbiters or people trying and failing to get involved.

When I see banal evil, or wrongdoing committed out of apathy and selfishness, I want to shake them and explain to them that they are deteriorating the social fabric and ultimately creating problems for themselves through sheer stupidity.

I notice injustice, I just don't often do anything about it because of my anxiety disorder, which makes me cry myself to sleep for six hours.

Talking to myself here a bit, but one thing I’ve learned in life is to try going around the problem. Autistic people are very creative. Approach a problem from a direction no one expected. You will be rewarded.

For me that means my new hyper focus is worker coops. But just do something that acts against injustice not just dwells on it. !betterment@beehaw.org

On one hand- This is a good trait, sort of?

On the other- On an aircraft, if you're in a situation where oxygen masks drop, you're always reminded to put your own mask on first before helping others with their own masks. If you did it the other way around you'd likely pass out and not help anyone.

I've been using meditation to train the less controllable parts of my brain to shut up when I need them to. It's been said that mindfulness meditation can make people more selfish, but if I'm passing out trying to help other people, the best thing I can do for my community is to first make sure that I'm a self-sufficient human being physically, mentally and materially.

Since some of my beliefs are wildly unpopular, this often winds up in me feeling ostracized, rejected, and depressed.

In this case, the phrase "speak softly, but carry a big stick" sometimes applies. If you're somewhere where there's enough cultural / social resistance to an idea, particularly among lots of people, you're probably not going to get anywhere, as you've already found. Potential alternatives include talking to individuals when you're able, helping individuals when you're able, if only by letting them know they're not totally alone, and by operating on that oxygen mask principle again. If no one's gonna do anything, sometimes you need to do it yourself, but it might take a long time to get there.

Absolutely resonant with my experience. I see Injustice and it becomes an obsession, a “cannot un-see” problem, which my mind simply can never ignore again.

At this point in life, thoroughly burned out, I feel like one of those wizards who lost their mind while questing for knowledge.

Justice sensitivity made driving very hard for me, before I figured out what was happening, and trained myself to be more chill behind the wheel.

I mean, you see some Grade A, top choice weaponry piloting their fucking Audis about on the roads, driving far too fast, sticking right on people's arses, flashing their lights, beeping their horns, and generally being copper-bottomed shitcunts. And that drives me fucking mad.

But I listened to a podcast a while ago, during which the host noted that one of the things we tend to do is get angry with others for breaking rules that we make for ourselves. My values when driving are not the same as someone else's. Someone else believes it's perfectly reasonable to flash their lights at someone who's only doing 90mph in the outside lane because they want to continue doing 110mph. Me getting angry at that person form my car isn't going to help them understand that they've broken one of my personal rules, so why bother?

This shift in mindset has really helped me to chill the fuck out when driving, which in turn has permeated into other areas of my life. People don't share 100% of my values, and that's mostly ok.

But I won't say that I don't get really pissy when I see injustice being perpetrated by the rich and powerful. How former Presidents and Prime Ministers keep getting away with all manner of fuckery because society is built for them. As a result, I've mostly taken to ignoring the news, because otherwise I'd just be angry all the fucking time.