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Folks with a vagina, how does vaginal penetration compare to anal penetration?

Interested in any/all perspectives, how are the sensations different or similar, do you have a preference and why, is one or the other more erotic to think about, out of 10, how would you rank the best vaginal vs the best anal?

And if you have a penis and experience penetrating both, definitely answer the same questions!

Reason I ask is I have a penis and find vaginal penetration very hot (both thinking about it and doing it lol), and I'm curious what it feels like, but the closest I'll get to experiencing it myself is either in dreams or however similar anal penetration is. So I wanted to see what y'all thought 😊

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  • Best vaginal penetration 10/10 - face to face angled so there is some stimulation of vulva too, that is the most physically pleasurable way to get off.

    Best anal is just not hurting, maybe 5, not bad not great, it's only good if the guy likes it, and isn't too big - I had a partner hung long but not thick, it felt pretty good with him but:

    Both? One guy in ass and one in vagina? So good. It does add to the pleasure in that situation, certainly. Like 11/10. But the one in the ass kind of still not the more active.

    ETA: I also really like when guys prefer vaginal, like you do. Even if they like both, even if they are bi, if they get off easiest in the pussy and prefer it that is the hottest feeling.

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    • Thanks for sharing! Is the primary difference the vulva stimulation? Is the feeling of being filled up/stretched similar (assuming best case scenario where they went slow on the ass to give it time to loosen and used plenty of lube)?

      Yeah it's interesting, I'm not particularly interested in doing anal penetration, besides maybe putting in a butt plug for my partner, but adding some anal play for me really amplifies the experience, even just putting in a prostate stimulator. Pussy is just so nice, I love feeling my partner get wet, or if I'm fingering her during foreplay and can feel her vagina tent as she gets more aroused that's super hot (although not super common, usually it already has by the time I'm fingering lol), and it's just clean and made for penis and ready to go without all the extra steps and time ass play needs 😆

      Lately I've been experimenting with masturbating with a dildo, and it takes a while to relax and loosen enough to get it in, but when I do it feels really good being able to slide up and down it, and I really like having my hand in a static spot so that every thrust into my hand slides up the dildo, and then lowering my hips slides me out of my hand but pushes it in deeper or against my prostate. I definitely want to explore it more, maybe find a guy and girl (or a girl who likes pegging) to do a threesome where I'm in between them 🤔

      sorry for the wall of text 😅🤷

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  • They're both very different sensations. Vaginal is easiest and I agree with RB, missionary is the best. With the right angle it's a 10/10 orgasm. Plus you get to see your partner's face and reactions which is always enjoyable.

    Anal takes work and time, but once he's actually in it does feel good, the orgasm is different but with toys for additional stimulation it's a 7/10 and a much different intensity.

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  • so my answer to this is pretty layered bc i'm a trans guy and the sensation for both has changed since starting testosterone

    pre-transition, i liked anal but it was a lot of trouble for the reward and vaginal was super easy / pleasurable all the time (i was lucky and can orgasm from vaginal penetration, it used to be how i preferred to get off)

    post-transition, anal is still a ton of work to prep for (esp given i consistently have gut issues)... but it's a WAY more pleasurable experience. i tend to re-discover it maybe twice a year. i'm not exactly sure what's caused it to become so much more intense (seriously, i get super shaky and wobbly nowadays), maybe testosterone made the nerves grow there more? i dunno

    but also, post transition, vaginal is a lot more difficult (dry / sensitive) and i have to work pretty hard on getting warm enough to enjoy myself. i really have to be in the mood and have a lot of time on my hands and... well, sometimes it's hard to come by

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  • This is not easy to describe.

    Anal feels more full, which I like, but the pleasure is not as good, and the longer it goes on, the more quickly the pleasure dies off. Not to mention the preparation, the time, and so on.
    I like Anal, but really, if I got it once for every 20 times I get vaginal I am satisfied.
    DP, one in both, just amplified everything. The good and the bad.
    Positions are awkward, it takes time, but the full feeling is even better, and the pleasure of both holes is even better.
    If Oral is 10/10, Vaginal is 8/10, Anal is 5/10, and DP is 11/10. But DP with toys is nowhere near the same, in fact I don't like it.

    My husband says Anal is so hard to get in, and then its like 1 tight ring, whereas Vaginal has stuff everywhere going on. He likes both, but prefers Vaginal. Those "everything going on" descriptions vs 1 ring, is kind of the same for me, there is just so much more being pleasured with Vaginal.

    As for you receiving Anal, the real penis feels so different, and so much better than toys, I do recommend trying the real thing at least once!

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    • Thanks for the in depth description! The "everything going on" vs "one ring" makes a lot of sense, receiving anal I definitely agree, the primary sensation is definitely like of a ring, so that's a really good comparison for me to go off/think about!

      And thanks for the suggestion, I'll have to keep exploring! It's tough cause I'm definitely much more attracted to folks with a vagina, and it's kinda scary since it takes a bit to loosen up which is a lot easier to go at my own pace on my own. But I bet a 3-way could be a fun way to try it out, and I could loosen myself up with a toy before they go in 👀🤔

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      • Yeah, if its not your thing, then it's not, don't try forcing things, that never works out well.

        But a Bi MMF threesome is a great way to ease into it if your curious, I'm guilty of helping a few guys with their first times experimenting with men.
        And I'll be honest, some it just isn't for, most have loved it. But if your nervous, you will clench, then pain, then no fun, so like you said, you loosen up first, not just physically but mentally.

        Few drinks, play with her, get turned on, then if you want to be bottom, let him start on you while your on her, (just touching, fingers, so on). slow, go slow. It's not a race. You will know when your ready for more, then he can taken the next step.

        Most MMF threesomes we have are about 4 hour sessions, yet 1 on 1 sex is what, 15 min, an hour max?

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  • Cis guy here.

    As per penetrating anus/vagina, the sensations are similar but not quite the same. I'd say I actually prefer vaginal penetration more - while vaginas are somewhat less tight, that's not necessarily a bad thing, and in my case my dick is better stimulated with a vagina.

    As per the description of sensations, I feel like they can be described in a similar way, and generally it's like your dick is in a warm wet cushion, but the one that also grips the dick and stimulates it well. But anal is a bit rougher and harder and more "meaty", and vaginal is a bit softer and actually "cushion-y" (both are generally soft and comfy though).

    As per being anally fucked, it feels...interesting. Like, the strapon/dildo (didn't try actual penis) isn't felt as precisely as it would be if you grip it with your hand, and it rather feels like a sensation of fullness, of something inside causing you to feel good in the general area of it, and sending impulses straight to the penis, as well as getting sensations in the prostate area similar to when you consciously try to make your penis harder/do kegel exercises. Something along these lines.

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    • Thanks for getting into the sensations! I think you did a good job describing them, I also have only tried with dildos.

      For me the main thing is like you said sensation in the penis, it feels more swollen and sensitive than a normal erection, and over time if I don't touch my penis it feels like what I'd imagine a balloon getting slowly inflated might feel like (even though the strength of my erection stays about the same, or sometimes even goes down a bit). And then around my anus the texture of it sliding in and out feels really nice, and the prostate pressure amplifies everything. It's hard to put into words, it's like the sensation of the pressure on it is like a blueish-white light radiating out from that spot and making everything nicer. But the feeling of fullness I don't think does all that much in itself, it definitely feels nice but it moreso amplifies everything because I find penetration so hot, and I'm getting to experience a glimpse of it.

      I think also, taking the time to relax and loosen up to get the dildo in makes a big difference (especially with the biggest one I have, I was looking it up the other day and I think it's like 1.75", but I'm not sure if that's diameter or circumference. The adam and eve listing just said lengthx1.75" insertable. I don't remember the length). It's like it forces me to get more into my body and the sensations, and get me into a headspace where I'm orienting my consciousness towards acceptance and relaxation and embracing the sensations I'm feeling, which now that I think of it reminds me a lot of some of the Qualia Research Institute descriptions of metta and equanimity and neural annealing (i highly recommend reading some of their stuff or watching some of their videos if you get the chance!)

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  • I've wondered about it too. I'd be interested to hear the perspective from any trans-women as to how the experience was, and how it measured up to expectation. A bit of a shame we have no way of knowing how different it is

    Edit: been struggling with written communication lately, hope I haven't asked in an insensitive manner as that was not intended

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