When every activity has to have at least one round of games in between for that dopamine hit, and waking up at night for it, coming home at work for it, yeah we have a problem. And in that case, boundaries (which can come across as ultimatums) are entirely appropriate.
My FB feed is still littered with die-hard liberals espousing views we could afford to debate 15, 20 years ago. Pollution and gun rights. Every word they say is heard differently by the other side and they still don't get it. Fascists are taking over the US and they want to figure out how to recycle better.
Your brain generates the thoughts and feelings that trouble you. Where do you want the locus of control to be? Do you want to think this is crystals and horoscopes, outside factors, influencing you and causing you to be miserable? Or do you want the locus of control to be inside you, where you can be empowered to change the thoughts and feelings that trouble you?
It's hard not to blame the victim when they're also the perp, you need to focus on the "perp" part and not the "victim" part if you want to succeed here.
For us it begins at the grassroots. We don't have billionaires willing to create a national organization. So form small liberal groups, and then network them together. I'm serious. I started a group for queer men last year, now I am taking over the entire progressive scene in my state by creating an overarching organization that connects over a dozen key players (ACLU, Prides, migrant and trans organizations). If we did this in every area, and then networked THEM... well shit we'd have a base of power and even fundraising capabilities. IDK what else to do.
This is not the way life has to be. If this cartoon is you, your therapist is doing a shitty job, full stop. Find another who can actually help you develop emotional regulation and not be hostage to your own emotions.
The periodic table is predictive. From a few elements, the rest could be projected and expected, like the Higgs-Boson. The table makes no predictions for things we cannot measure and are in fact theoretical, like dark matter which lacks any empirical evidence. Would be awesome if it did because then it wouldn't be theoretical anymore.
Look at game theory. We have 300m+ Americans operating primarily out of their own self-protection. They're lied to about what that means. They are divided beyond repair.
3% of the US population protested in July, that wasn't enough. What would be enough for a revolution you think? How would that go?
Some say this is just a coverup story for the murder of the ladle inventor whose family in Kilkenny still claim rightful ownership of that patent, but today arguing with Big Spoon is just asking for it
If you dig into it, she's trying to create this holistic, patient-centered model, which is absolutely unaffordable and untenable in today's world, she's paying the tuitions of the first class herself because the new teaching hospital she built is so insanely expensive it couldn't run on affordable tuitions. There's no way to scale what she's doing for all Americans. She wants patients to paint while they recover from things, because it helped her.
Either she's out of touch as all hell and doesn't understand any of this (possible), or she's really just creating a template for the rich (likely) or both are possible.
This why CEOs doing weird shit like trying to convince him to up the minimum wage and complaining about anti-americanism as a result of his bad policies. Normally their mouths are too full of his pubic hair to say anything critical at all. They scared.
When every activity has to have at least one round of games in between for that dopamine hit, and waking up at night for it, coming home at work for it, yeah we have a problem. And in that case, boundaries (which can come across as ultimatums) are entirely appropriate.