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What was the best thing that happened to you this year?
  • Won conference championships in indoor and outdoor collegiate track and field. Ran a half marathon after years of chronic knee problems. Won a piano competition and performed with a full orchestra. Wrote a 48 page honors thesis and presented it. Formed a jazz trio. Graduated college. It's been a cool 365 days, I'm grateful to not know how to pick the best thing.

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    [serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce?
  • I second this! When I was in an emotionally abusive relationship this was one of the worst things. I do not have it in me to be available to you 24/7, and I guarantee it will result in the degradation of the relationship. That relationship ended 6 years ago and I still get a trauma response when someone has unreasonable expectations for a response in a non time sensitive conversation.

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    Introverts of Lemmy, what do you do when you feel lonely?
  • I think a generally good way to think about it is whether someone is energized or drained by spending time with people. I am a social introvert: I like people, but it takes energy to be with people. When I am drained, I need to be alone. My brother is an extreme extrovert: he actually gains energy from being with people (which seems insane to me).

    As an introvert I certainly can get lonely. Just might look different/happen in different circumstances to my extroverted brother.

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