Not to suggest you should surprise a partner with it, but I likely wouldn’t notice until I got up in there unless the scar was a lot more noticeable than you’re describing.
Knowing about it would probably make me a little more hesitant about how I was playing with someone’s sack but it wouldn’t be a reason not to go to bed with a potential partner.
Obviously, asking on Lemmy has a bit of respondent error involved but I don’t think you should feel self-conscious about it.
She always asks me whether or not she can achieve this, but she does nothing to try to achieve them and just complains a lot.
Up until this part, I really wondered why you felt the need to tell her about the unrealistic nature of her goals.
I don’t think you would be the asshole (provided, you know, you put it in a reasonable way). It does seem like she’s trying to get something out of you that you’re unable to give.
Since she keeps pressing, I think I’d deflect. “It’s more important what you think you can accomplish. I’d love to hear your plans for accomplishing them.”
That’s a bit like saying you don’t like Italian cinema. It may well be true but I tend to doubt you’ve seen enough of it to really say that. That’s also not what you got in trouble with your ex for saying. You called her interests stupid.
They’re not stupid. I’m not a fan of Beavis and Butthead either but I wouldn’t tell someone who is that the show is stupid, no matter our romantic relationship or lack thereof. It’s rude and (in this case) cruel.
and I’m very blunt
You keep saying that like it’s an immutable fact about yourself. It certainly isn’t.
If there’s something about her watching the show that’s legitimately bothering you (example: playing things you hate at talking volume or higher while you’re around), you should have had that conversation.
If it’s just the fact that someone enjoys something you don’t … that’s a really unpleasant attitude to be around.
That is a wild leap. As a subscriber to both !dangleandjingle@lemmynsfw.com and !butterflywings@lemmynsfw.com , I find this accusation hilarious, misguided, and frustrating. I'm trying to be descriptive in a way that's useful for people with visual impairments.
If you don't have anything constructive to add or change about my media descriptions, please keep your opinions about me to yourself.
They're not gargantuan or anything. I don't think "average" is a useful description for someone relying on alt text in this case. If you've got a suggestion that isn't "average," I'm open to it. Prominent?
(Don't personally have a foot fetish but to each their own ... within reason.)
I think it's interesting that folks tend to be into feet but not, say, wrists or elbows in the same way. southsamurai -at- sh.itjust.work's answer is pretty compelling. (Not @ ing because I don't know the etiquette for that on Lemmy and I don't want to be a menace.)
If you don't mind me asking a follow up question, does origin matter? Unless someone is ace, they're into something. Some part of those interests will be "unusual" to others. Some part of each of us will always be a mystery even to ourselves. I think that's kind of neat.
Not to suggest you should surprise a partner with it, but I likely wouldn’t notice until I got up in there unless the scar was a lot more noticeable than you’re describing.
Knowing about it would probably make me a little more hesitant about how I was playing with someone’s sack but it wouldn’t be a reason not to go to bed with a potential partner.
Obviously, asking on Lemmy has a bit of respondent error involved but I don’t think you should feel self-conscious about it.