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  • I used to have that fear when I was a kid living with family and my mom in particular was very nosey. I understand a nosey parent to make sure you kid isn't into drugs, but she went way beyond that. She was also paranoid so she was convinced I was doing fucked up shit without any evidence.

    It took me a long time to get over that. I did have a friend who was rooting through a couple of my things and we stopped being friends not long after. As far as I know, no one else has gone through my stuff.

    The only time I've ever gone through anybody else's stuff is to look through my mom's drawers for things she stole and my ex's phone after many years and other evidence that he was fucking around behind my back and I wanted to know for sure that he was. I hated doing it in both cases because I didn't like it being done to me but felt that was the last option I had.

    So yeah, with psycho family, you have every right to feel that way. Just know that isn't normal and that most people won't do that.

  • I used to use them. They're cheapest if you order directly from their website in bulk. And subscribe to their emails. I think around January and February they usually have like 10 for 120$ or something.

  • There is nothing wrong with cash or gift cards. Gift cards just force people to use it at a specific place. Grab an package of Xmas cards to stuff it in and say fuck it.

    I didn't buy anybody gifts for many years because I couldn't afford it. Nobody held it against me. I don't expect anybody to buy me shit. If anybody is going to hold it against me then they can go fuck themselves.

    Edit : I guess what I'm saying is don't feel guilty. I think people understand that as adults we need to have our priorities and sometimes that means not buying gifts. People are generally understanding and there is more to life than gifts. I'd be fucking thrilled with 20$ in cash in a card and I would be thankful that they even sent that because that person spent that time to earn that cash and to put that together. You're a kind person for worrying about it, but the people who care for you would rather not see you worry and to take care of yourself.

  • I questioned it around 8 and fully stopped believing around 10. When you behave and ask for the same gift three years in a row you start to wonder. Before that I believed that he was magic and was incredibly fast.

    Years ago I didn't want to teach my children about Santa because of the Christian connections, but then I realized why we have holidays over winter. If it makes them happy I'll do it, but I'll also be teaching them about all the other connections to pagan religions when they're old enough to understand.

  • I can relate so much to this. When my mom died I felt pity for her because I felt that if she had been born in a different era with more mental health resources she would have been a different and happier person. I hated her for the effed up things she did but as you said, she was still a human at end of the day.