Yes it's so hard and so unfair. So many people around me just accidentally get pregnant and I just can't be happy for them anymore. The worst part is no one can promise you it's going to be okay, they can't even give us the odds IVF will work for us.
Trying for a baby for two an a half years now without success. Started IVF but the first embryo transplant failed. We are lucky we are relatively young and healthy but it sucks that we can't conceive in a normal way (even though we don't know why) and we have a lot of embryo's still in the freezer. It sucks so much and everyone around me just have to look at each other and they're pregnant. I feel so strongly it's never going to happen for us.
Most sexy lingerie is very uncomfortable to wear and super expensive. If it's only for sexy time, it might not be worth it for her. If it really bothers you, talk to her but please accept it if she doesn't want to. Some women don't feel comfortable in lingerie and that kind of defeats the purpose as well.
Which alternatives do you recommend? I've tried a few but most seem to have issues as well, or in case of Tildes, are invite only