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Series: What are your ADHD Tools of Thumb?
  • In my head it does not exist. Never trust myself to remember anything, write everything down in a system you trust (TickTick for me). In the same vein when leaving tasks halfway I write myself what I had planned to do next and all the details I can quickly jot down, even if they seem obvious or like I won't forget them.

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    Medication lasting 8h, not 3 or 14?
  • To add to the splitting thing, it says very specifically in my elvanse panphlet that you shouldn't split it. Even if it didn't I would be very difficult to split such a tiny dose of powder accurately, and getting a consistent dose everyday is important.

    I take the same dose as you, and like you I felt it was a bit much on the first few days. Your body takes some time getting used to them, after two weeks 30 didn't feel like too much anymore. It feels just right, it raises my heartbeat a bit 2 hours after I take it, and a bit later it evens out.

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    What is the movie like thing that has happened to you?
  • We were in slow traffic and a car is trying to leave a parking lot. We give the other car some space to merge in, and they take it, but for the opposite way (passed us and entered going the opposite way we were going). It was a big infraction of the road rules. Right behind the guy was a cop car, I still remember his face, like "did I really just see this right in front of me?". The cop turned on the lights and followed the rule breaker, we were laughing our asses off inside the car. The whole thing felt scripted out of a comedy schetch of something.

    A less fun one was during the first lockout of the pandemic, I was standing at the window seeing a cop car slowly going by outside with big loudspeakers: "Stay at home. If you show simptoms of cough of fever call XXX. Stay at home. Mask use in public spaces is mandatory" Felt like the start sequence of a post apocaliptic movie or something.

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    What is your motto?
  • That is one component of it, but I like mine better because it also can be interpreted as giving a bit more grace to people who are doing their best but their best isn't so good. It also helps me not assuming malicious intent where being an idiot would explain someone else's behavior.

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    What is your motto?
  • "There are idiots/assholes everywhere", no direct translation for the word I want in English.

    I don't mean it in a mean way, just that idiots/assholes can be from any group of people. Two examples:

    Don't assume a doctor knows everything just because they're a doctor. Some doctors are idiots/assholes, they might be wrong. Get a second opinion if something they said sound iffy.

    When hearing people generalize from one individual's behavior (like racism): this one is an idiot/asshole, they are everywhere, including in this group and all other groups too.

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    What are some double standards in society for men ?
  • I agree that men also get flack for doing activities associated with women, my answer to the original comment is disagreeing with the double standard part. I think it's bad both ways and therefore not a double standard

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    What are some double standards in society for men ?
  • I can never be sure, I'm not inside their heads, but I don't remember ever seeing this behavior directed at my husband or dad when tagging along with them in similar situations.

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    What are some double standards in society for men ?
  • I don't think that's exactly true. As a woman I've had situations where I was questioned even when I knew exactly what I was talking about just because it was a traditionally male activity.

    Yes, I know what type of battery I want for my car. Yes, I know it's uncommon, I checked if you had it in your website before I came here. Yes, I know how to install it and I don't want to pay you to do it. Shut up and take my money so I can leave.

    I have several stories like this. In home renovation stores men that work there are always super opinionated on the problem that I'm trying to solve. I'm just looking for the supplies I want, I didn't ask for opinions.

    It doesn't help that I'm small and look young, but still they should mind their own business.

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    What's the most irresponsible purchase you made that you don't regret?
  • Some of the considerations we took when choosing the car, I totally agree. I don't regret the decision, the monthly payments are not a huge burden on us, fortunately, but it was still not the best financial move.

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    What's the most irresponsible purchase you made that you don't regret?
  • It can be a good purchase and still be irresponsible, IMO. I love that car and it will serve us for years to come, I don't regret it. We could have gotten a much cheaper new car, for example, but at the time we decided our biggest value for money was the car we have now.

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    What's the most irresponsible purchase you made that you don't regret?
  • Probably our car. It's a great car, I spent weeks researching the perfect car for us. I love it and I'm grateful every time I drive it, but we bought it on credit and it's way out of our price range to buy. It'll take us about 6 years total to pay it off.

    I still understand my decision at the time, but it was driven by a specific chain of events that made it make sense, and in principle I'm against buying a car on credit, just buy an older reliable car you can afford.

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    What are some financial life-hacks everyone should know?
  • If you're tailgating you have less time to respond to the car in front of you braking or decelerating and therefore you need to slam the breaks more

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    This is pretty accurate for me
  • I see so many jokes like this, but I'm the exact opposite. For semi formal things like contacting service providers, taxes, sales and the like I prefer to wait for 30 minutes on a phone call to writing a 5 minute email.

    I get really paralized in writing something that doesn't sound casual, so I prefer to have a phone call where it's not expected that I'll speak as formally as the email I'd have to send to get the same task done.

    One important thing to note here is that in my native language casual and formal written language have a bigger difference compared to English.

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    What was "the incident" in your school?
  • Not my school, but one nearby. It smelled like gas in chemistry class and some idiot student thought it would be a good joke to flick a lighter. There actually was a gas leak and he set it on fire, injuring himself and a bunch of classmates. I don't remember if anyone died.

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    Recent Study Seems to Indicate ADHD IS Related to a Nearly 3x Greater Risk for Dementia
  • I read the abstract and I can't understand if medicated ADHD adults don't show the increase the unmedicated ones did or if the medication did not make a difference (increase or decrease) compared with unmedicated adults.

    So are medicated ADHDers statistically similar to unmedicated ADHDers or non ADHDers?

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    Organiszation software experiences
  • I use ticktick for medium and long term stuff like

    • monthly payments I can't automate
    • maintenance tasks (clean filters, check car)
    • fill in taxes

    I like its natural language input, it's easy enough to just remember something and type it in and get back into what I was doing.

    For short term stuff I use my smartwatch and voice assistents reminders. It leaves my wrist for charging and not much else. (I use Bixby because it integrates well with a Samsung phone, has persistent annoying reminders that don't go away. Also Google can't keep their shit straight and just keep a system for two years without killing it). Some examples of that I use my smartwatch for:

    • do laundry in a few days when I just saw its going to be sunny
    • timers for the oven or laundry
    • take non routine medications

    I keep a notebook at my desk for brain dumps and generally as a working memory replacement. I bullet journal on and off every few months, I like it when I'm using it, but as soon as something disrupts my routine it's gone.

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    Lemmings of Lemmy who came over from Reddit what do you miss about Reddit and what do you not miss?
  • I miss the niche communities that I followed on reddit. There was a lot of sharing and discussion of knowledge there and I learned a lot about my hobbies. I feel more alone in my hobbies and interests now, I have no one to talk about them here.

    On the general content side, I'm fine with Lemmy, there's a lot less to scroll through and I spend a lot less time without feeling like I'm missing out, which is not a bad thing for me. I still can get my jokes, cats and memes in a smaller dose with a lot less reposting than reddit had. Another thing I like about lemmy is that I can interact with the more general content (like right now) without being the billionth comment that no one is going to read anyway

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  • I just realized that last month was ADHD awareness month and I forgot. Ironic isn't it? Share your stories of stuff you remembered way too late!

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    I don't use TikTok at all, but I do watch compilation videos on YouTube sometimes. Lately there are some clips of livestreams of people doing really repetitive movements and phrases. What's up with that?

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