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'We are all Gisèle': French women rise up against 'rape culture' during Gisèle Pelicot trial
  • Came here to see discussions about the truly insane case mentioned in the article. Actually found an entire comment section full of 'not all men' vs 'basically all men' threads

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    Project for people leaving Google Maps.
  • The difficulty is asking people to get started with this. People want to get to work/navigate as quickly as possible to where they need to be, they don't want to be figuring it out. Social media can be janky and you'll be patient, but if you're late for something because you're struggling to adjust to an app you're more likely to go back to Google/Apple Maps

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    PugJesus, my first meme, homey!
  • Kanye still gets features and collaborators despite his Nazi turn. All the major rappers associated with him chose silence over condemnation. Biggie would most likely make the same choice with Diddy

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    Trump refuses to criticize Laura Loomer amid concerns from Republican allies about her influence
  • This is good. She continues to tweet insane shit and she has been confirmed to be the person who exposed him to some of the worst debate conspiracies like the eating pets stuff. He's only going to look more unhinged and lose even harder with her in his ear

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    Former model and Miss Switzerland finalist Kristina Joksimovic 'pureed' in blender by husband - reports
  • The start of the headline lured me in for the biggest WTF moment I've had in ages. I'll be sweating bullets the next time I see something about a former model/Miss-Wherever

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    MAGA is straight up losing it after Taylor Swift’s Harris endorsement
  • Shapiro is not an idiot, he's arrogant. He believes that when the fascists and alt-right freaks come for every other racial, sexual and religious minority, including his own, they will spare him because he was on their side and he is special

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    GSA says 337K Taylor Swift referrals have come to vote.gov
  • They will learn no lessons from this because they're stuck in their weirdo right-wing media/online bubble. They'll keep saying weird and disgusting things like Musk when he threatened to impregnate Taylor Swift, and it will be devastating for them

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    Very late to this series, but I just finished watching Total Forgiveness and I can't help but feel the utmost sympathy for Grant.

    I think he was definitely naive throughout the show and is responsible for a lot of what happens to him, but Ally was consistently behaving in a mean-spirited manner. Particularly with following up the Flea Market fiasco with a degrading Performance Art challenge. They knew this was a man who had nothing, no earthly possessions whatsoever remaining. You cannot be more desperate and low, and in that moment they gave him a challenge that was truly beyond pale just so they could force another loss and make more money.

    Warning - Spoiler for Total Forgiveness finale:

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    I think the worst part of this show for me is the Finale. I've seen the reunion episode and I know that all has been forgiven, but I think Ally was incredibly manipulative here. After weeks of torturing and humiliating Grant, they finally pushed him to the edge. They knew he was angry and wasn't playing nice anymore. The challenges he was thinking of were truly horrible and on-par with what he felt had been done to him (he mentions challenging Ally to go to a conversion camp, for example). Rather than accept the monster they have created and play the game at the level they expected Grant to play at, Ally insists that their challenge is done before Grant publicly commits to his challenge. This breaks the rules of the game as we know it, and means Grant is open to influence in his decision for what Ally's final challenge is.

    They butter up Grant with a nice day out so he is less likely to choose the extreme option. Grant, being the kind-hearted and naive soul that he is decides to not torture Ally for the finale. Ally then gets to play the nice guy by throwing the challenge. But if they had played the game fairly, Grant would've suggested something extreme, Ally would have refused to do it as they did with the snake challenge and Grant would have won the money anyway.

    I think Ally has gotten away with being really shitty throughout this series. I was deeply moved by their diaries, and they were one of my favourite cast members in the old sketches, but I have come away with a very poor opinion of them, even after seeing everything is all smiles at the reunion.

    ETA: Spoiler tag

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    I could use some honest advice from experienced programmers and engineers.

    I'm almost at the two year mark as a developer. On paper I might look like a passable Junior Dev, but if you sat me down and asked me about algorithms or anything else I did to get my job in the first place I would be clueless. I can solve problems and always get my work done, but I don't even know the language/framework I use daily well enough to explain what's going on, I can just do things. I don't think I have imposter syndrome, I think I really might have let any skill I had atrophy.

    I used to enjoy programming as a hobby in my spare time, but in two years I've opened the IDE on my personal machine no more than twice. People talk about all the side projects they have, but I have none. I feel too stressed out from the job to do any programming outside of work, even though I love it. I feel like I can't level up from a Junior to Senior because I either don't have the headspace or the will to do so. It doesn't help that the job I've had has taught me very little and my dev team has been a shitshow from the beginning.

    At the moment I have an offer on the table to do a job that isn't engineering (but still tech) and it surprisingly pays more. Part of me thinks I should take that job, rediscover my passion in my spare time and build my skills, but I fear I might go down this route and never be able to come back to engineering. Not that I'm sure I want to.

    It might sound defeatist but I don't think I'll ever be a top 5% or even 25% engineer. I could be average with a lot of work, but not great. I could potentially be great in the new field I'm being recruited for, but that's also hard to say without being in the job.

    I know that some people just aren't cut out for being engineers. Maybe I have the aptitude but not the mentality to do this for 30+ years. I want to know if that's what it sounds like to people who've seen that before. If you were in my position, would you walk away and just be a hobbyist programmer or stick it out and hope to be a mediocre engineer one day?

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