Sissy stuff. Taking dildos/prostate toys in my butt, sucking off dildos, wearing panties and ultra fem dresses, humiliation (I like the fantasy of a dominatrix "exposing" me to her friends and all of them joining together to verbally and physically humiliate/degrade me), etc. I'm also into puppy play which a lot of people seem to confuse with being a furry but they're not the same (they probably do overlap a lot though).

I'm not necessarily a tough guy in the outside world but am generally considered to be fairly manly in my day job and my life in general. Basically not like a construction worker or anything but more like a head general contractor or project manager on a construction site. This type of fantasy play I guess is a bit of an escape from my daily reality.

Your body is made in the kitchen. If you can, see if you're able to go to a Nutritionist or Dietician and build out a plan to achieve your goals. This will get you at least 80% of the way if you can maintain the strict diet. Unless they're kink informed or whatever just say that you want to slim down and lower your body fat to be slender but not be super ripped or anything.

My read on this is that it was a quick and impersonal hookup with the only goal essentially being a quickie during lunch to get their rocks off.

I get how a lot of captions and fantasies out there are about being objectified, used, and "thrown away", but I'm of the belief that foreplay and teasing needed if you truly want to enjoy yourself.

Give it another try but instead of a quick blowjob during a lunch break where you immediately get on your knees, how about some clothed kissing and teasing before you ultimately get on your knees and service the cock.