Is kubernetes really worth it for the avarage homelab user?

No

Proxmox and LXCs vs Docker is just a question of your preferred platform. If you want flexibility and expandability then proxmox is better, if you just want a set and forget device for a specific static group of services, running debian with docker may make more sense to you.

You've got tech illiterate family and for some reason you're concerned that they're going to snoop packets on your LAN and find passwords...?

I mean, if a media management suite + media server cant be called a 'media server' then what exactly are the criteria?

Proxmox on the host, setup some apps in LXCs and some others inside docker. Pihole, tailscale, maybe home assistant if you have IoT devices

Ah just portainer being strange then.

Mine also overreports

I don't believe ddr4/5 are available in 2gb sticks, so everything would be divisible by 4 - a mixture of 4/8/16gb dimms

I have tailscale running 24x7 on an s22 ultra. Haven't noticed any change in battery life at all.

Disabling magicdns is something you do in the tailscale admin portal

Unrelated, how do you have 50 gigs of ram? It's not divisible by 4?

Home security is to deter would-be criminals, not prevent determined criminals. Ultimately if someone wants to get into your house, and has the skills and tools to do so, you aren't going to stop them