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1Hmm, methinks that Anon (and all of us straight men) might do better by treating women as people. If we feel it's so important to have a cute girlfriend, then should we not respect that a woman might want a cute boyfriend? If we think women should keep an open mind about us, maybe set an example, and keep an open mind about non-physical traits that make a woman cute?
Yeah, it's always down to luck—that's just life—but being a good dude is putting your thumb on the scale in your own favor.
3They are blaming bad luck for their shitty personality. No matter how ugly you are. You can do things to make improvements and become more attractive to a potential partner. (Diet, exercise, breathing through your nose (for real), getting a hobby that a potential partner would like (music, draw, express yourself through poems?, car maintenance, something))
They think they'll never find anyone because they're under 6ft or don't have dimples or whatever other thing these guys obsess over. It's really because they have a shitty personality that they won't improve their lives, so they blame everyone else for the actions that they aren't taking.
1This, but in order to find A cute girlfriend you would have to interact with girls which automatically ruins all hope of ever getting one because we font do that over here(cries in loneliness)
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Yeesh. This guy has come to the conclusion that you can’t learn how to behave normally and that’s it’s a given trait. I think I see where their lack of success comes from.
66Yup. I've seen plenty of conventionally unattractive dudes with really good looking wives. So why did the woman choose him? Because he's genuinely a pretty rad dude and treats her properly.
21Or a massive scholng and magic fingers.
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Yeah, like in what world can you not learn to change your personality? I mean, sure, it's not always easy, but you always have a choice in how you present yourself.
26i think people can change in their teenage years by the forced interaction in a small social environment at school. but once they reach adulthood, anyone in need of further personal growth just isolates and festers in their ways, avoiding confrontations that could prove them wrong. here's to hoping that you who scrolled this far down in this lemmy thread make an unlikely friend when you least expect it and become a little better than before 😎👍
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Just date men, anon. We dont need all these words for such a simple solution.
13I don’t think Anon is considering the set of all possible cute girlfriends or lending them enough agency. I think it’s somewhat reasonable if you’re app dating to assume that people are doing some amount of maximizing cute + interesting or something similar but I think that’s because the apps encourage people to gamify dating.
Anecdotally I’ve seen a ton of…erm…normatively mismatched couples form and find success in other contexts like dive bars, pick up soccer, chatrooms, kink communities, boardgame cafes, more traditional dating sites etc. Again anecdotally these relationships seem to skew (normatively) in the guy’s favor more often than the gal’s as far as looks and personality go despite the fact that complaints like this come more often from men.
20what would be these more traditional dating sites you've mentioned?
33 of the couples I had in mind when I mentioned traditional dating sites used Match.com (between 2015 and 2022 in their mid 20s to mid 30s) and 1 couple each around the same time period/age demographic on specific religion dating sites (catholic chemistry and christian mingle)
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