2w ago

I have figured out a pattern

This is something I have been concerned about for a long time, the targeted harassment we tend to face.

I posted a while back about that study that people rate autistic communications 30% below average, and got a lot of flak for that which surprised me

The thing is, this study proves that people can identify autistic traits and instinctively rate the communications of that person lower despite the content being the same as the control group.

So many things make so much more sense here, especially when it ties into the historic targeting of autists by narcissists and sociopaths. And right now we live in a narcissist society, all the top positions of power and wealth are currently held by narcissists

I am so fucking tired of people telling me I'm imagining it, I'm so tired of having my great ideas ignored because "Well what you said is good but we don't like how you said it"

Those in power target us, we have no recourse, and the president just fucking signed an EO making it legal to kidnap us and institutionalize us and NO ONE fucking cares

We fucking built society and INVENTED EVERYTHING and the narcissists take the lions share of the profit as we are marginalized, ignored, and sid

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- Shit if I had learned earlier in my career they needed platitudes I would have whipped some up. To me they always felt embarrassing to both parties, like there's NO WAY they can't know you're buttering them up.
  I’m never sure if I’m doing a shit job explaining or
  FUCK I feel that on a visceral level. My career started as helpdesk it took a major toll on my well-being
  Thanks for replying, you are the first person on lemmy in like 3 days that just didn't immediately tear into me for some irrelevant fucking thing.
  Glad to know I'm not alone in this struggle.
  
  To me they always felt embarrassing to both parties, like there's NO WAY they can't know you're buttering them up.
  What took me far too long to realize is that most NTs want to be buttered up.
One way the power manifests on digital forums (and also, schools):
Autistic user posts, narcissist aggression begins
Autistic user reports aggression, nothing is done, aggression intensifies
Autistic user, at the end of their rope, responds in kind to aggression, is immediately targeted as 'the problem', gets censured banned or suspended
Abuse continues after the fact through PMs or forum posts that of course the autistic user cannot respond to anymore
Repeat till all autistic users are silenced or marginalized
It happened to reddit, it's happening here and I am so fucking tired of the narcissists taking my online spaces
- Depressingly, narcissism is more socially acceptable than autism (and I suspect narcissists can "play the game" more easily, too). My impression is that this more applicable in western culture with our emphasis on individuality, with the US taking top place with its "American exceptionalism" (to be fair, my own country did export one of the worst - Rupert Murdoch).
  
  The funny thing is narcissists are FAR more dangerous to themselves and others than autists would ever be
  But they are praised as the ultimate American, you are very on the nose there.
  We forgive you for Rupert Murdoch, one nation alone cannot contain that much evil. It saddens me that there is likely no afterlife for him to suffer punishment in
  
  Side thought: “obviously” narcissists are more socially acceptable, their whole playbook is built around pleasing people. “Obviously” autism is less socially acceptable, they say things directly and clearly, without any sugar coating. That’s not how you gain popularity.
  Sorry it sucks…
- This just gets me to stop talking. Offline or online. But then I wonder if that’s the goal.
  
  My tinfoil hat tells me it is, even if not on a conscious level.
- Damn, you just succinctly described my high school experience lol.
  
  Written from our lives
  I wouldn't be so upset if it WASNT SO FUCKING UBIQUITOUS
  Every IRL autist I have met shares the exact same fucking cycle and I'm pretty sure the schools are in on it (Zero tolerance usually means punish the victim)
- I offer you a (virtual) hug.

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