The great divide
The great divide
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Good boy Mr. Peanut Butter.
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I am a centrist...but for anyone near me. You happy? Don't you see all this fucked up shit? You sad? Come ooon, look at all the places where sun shines through the bad news!
I am making other people bipolar xD
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I’m kinda just lukewarm all the time. Not overly positive or negative. Course that can vary depending on the day
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What makes a man go … neutral
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Tell my wife... I said... hello...
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Isn't it exhausting?
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So... you're like, emotionally stable?
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I guess dysthymia is technically being emotionally stable.
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Seems like a rarity these days huh
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I have BPD; there are only extremes. There is no middle ground.
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Its not negativity, it don't-give-a-shittery
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Exhaust comes from pretending, so be yourself whether that is being stupidity positive or gravely negative. That won't demand much effort.
Although, being gravely negative comes with its own additional issues like worrying about possible negative future that in 99% of cases does not happen. We have one overly negative person in the family and it is wearing them down, all is bad, other people do [put anything that you'd think is absolutely fine] better/differently so we must be doing it wrong and it will fall/catch on fire/explode. Being positively realistic is IMHO the best path.
But what do I know, maybe that is just the positive side of me talking and some train really derails and hits me in my office in 4th floor.
There does also exist kinds of mania that comes with all the same downsides.
Some of my most depressing moments where expressed through positive joy. Nothing hurt more then people proclaim how much more they like me “this way”. Which i answered with a big dumb smile.
I can’t and won’t blame people for not seeing trough the mask, the point of masking is that they don’t see but considering those where my parents it hit deep that they where so easily fooled by a pure act.
Yes, that's healthy for me, but what about the people around me who need to maintain the illusion that everything is fine and okay?
"Gasligting" I suppose it is called in English and it is considered bad.
I always wonder if obsessively negative people ever feel joy. Or are they just wired to carry around rage boners all the time. If it isn't exhausting I just can't see how they can be happy
We are. We are just more prone to demand justice, for people to be non-imbeciles. We feel joy when something good happens, we just rarely express that openly, because we believe that nice things are as it SHOULD be. Nice is normal. No reason to dance around about something as banal as "things going right". But we are angry about shit. More angry than most people who consider shit normal, but good things are something strange.
We, "obsessively negative people", are optimists.
A lot of it comes from trauma, not always, but a lot.