I was watching Law n Order CI last night because Vincent D'Onofrio is awesome, and I heard a thwump from upstairs , a meow and then some pathetic helpless mews. I go upstairs and Ted is stuck in the laundry sink. He jumped up thinking it was a bench and a way up to sit on top of the dryer but was surprised and now stuck. Stuck because the edges of the sink are too narrow to balance on and Ted is too fat . I lifted him out. Poor little guy was out of sorts all night, didn't even want his dinner. Here he is just before I rescued him.
Ugh, I need to socialise with friends more. There's a meetup at a pub on Friday that my partners mates are going to and have invited us (and others). Partners ex-coworkers from an old job, have hung out with them heaps over the years.
I just want to hide away forever, like the longer I go without seeing mates the less I actually want to. Which is bad for my mental health, bc I usually justify it with self-destructive thoughts (like "you're not that funny or smart", "you're jobless so what's there to talk about?", "they just pretend to like you because they like [partner]", etc). Which is not healthy.
Wish I was socialised more as a kid, honestly, some of this I can tell is because I didn't have friends when I was a youngun
Of course this is all dependent on whether we're negative come Friday arvo, but I already feel dread and am wrestling with myself about this.
So, 4 interviews in 3 weeks as "Christian name" as opposed to 3 interviews in 4 months as actual name.
I wonder how they'll react when they think they're going to meet "Christian name" and get "actual name" instead.
My crud has progressed to a point where I canโt hear anything because my ears are blocked.
On the bright side, my flat is clean, my accounts are done and Iโve had a haircut. Now to do my neighbour/friendโs dishes - sheโs not been well, and itโs something I can do to help her catch up on all the stuff sheโs missed while sheโs down
Didn't really have to punch that pH down with too much vinegar. Looks a bit under 4. Went for a little bit of apple cider, little bit of white wine and some white.
Well today was interesting in the Chinese sense. Took the day off work cos dentist appointment at midday. Then bike got a flat tyre on way to dentist. Took bike to bike hospital to be mended and consigned my soul to public transport. Nearly late for dentist. Then dentist said YOU NEED TWO MORE FILLINGS THAN I PLANNED FOR YOU! So had to wait around in Niddrie central after the appointment was re-scheduled for later on in the day. After all that, had to go pick up bike before getting home.
On the plus side, Niddrie shopping strip is actually pretty nice. Lots of food options (which I couldn't take advantage of thankyou Mr Dentist) and some interesting clothes. I was particularly taken with a hot pink fitted faux fur vest in the window of one shop - teamed with a sleek black embroidered black on black shiny shirt underneath with leather look leggings and hot pink boots. Very Suzie Q. I sorta kinda wish I was 19 again, as at that age I'd wear that in a heartbeat. Also the last living Rivers store in captivity, and a pretty comprehensive range of specialty shops and wellness practitioners. Very few empty storefronts. They've widened the footpaths with one zillion caffs and there were lots of people out and about enjoying the sunshine. I'd actually make the trip there for clothes - not the faux fur though as I'm too long in the tooth now (dammit).
Always love when I get an incoming call from Mrs B going "Now dont panic, everything is fine! But.... someone bit Tinyest"
"Oh damn! Is everyone ok?"
"Yeah so turns out Tinyest stuck his fingers in someone elses mouth, the other kid bit down and Tinyest was surprised to discover that getting bitten hurts".
"....." least i dont have to save for Uni!
Woke up this morning feeling a bit damp but didn't connect the dots until the water had soaked through a couple of layers all the way to the mattress. Bum.
I guess I didn't seal the lid properly or something.
I slept early then woke around 12am... Then while half-snoozing together kitty twitched and accidentally socked me in the eye ๐ After that we each had a midnight snack (a few crackers and cocoa for me, wet food for her).
Bummer
Edit: Fuck even the crackers still hurt though. I'm still struggling really badly to eat anything.
I beat myself up a lot for not being focused on art but tbh I'm in an amount of (chronic unmanaged) physical pain on a daily basis that does make it quite difficult to focus. Not whining or looking for sympathy. Just stating a fact that there is a genuine barrier there, and cutting myself some slack.
Johann Hari, https://johannhari.com/ , dropped another really timely book this week, this time on Ozempic and other weight control drugs, why we get fat and how to not get fat. The problem is going back to a good diet doesn't reverse the hormonal effects of a bad diet. Intervention may be required for a while.
And while I cook good meals from basic ingredients I also eat too much and eat some junk, not much junk , but obviously enough to mess me up.
I'll get back to youse guys when I finish the book. ๐
Hey @Nath@aussie.zone we should create a health and fitness community where we can post videos and achievements etc. I'll post it and see if anyone is interested.
The days are getting better. Things I am grateful for :)
Today I got a chocolate covered croissant with a friend. She gave me a gorgeous terrarium with a pink philodendron for my birthday and other pink leafy plants. Without even knowing that I love those plants, she thought it would be perfect for me.
Called a friend from work for an hour.
Cried in a soundproof pod at uni and am so grateful that I got to sit in one of those.
Journalled a bit and realised how grateful I am that I don't have to be anxious anymore waiting for someone to show me that they love me. I also don't have to go around catering to an extremely judgemental and picky person's tastes, like music, movies, places to eat. He was very snobby about these things. I feel so free.
I added items to my achievable bucket list. Visit the DMZ between the Koreas and try pole. Two very different things. For some reason, I went down an internet rabbit hole on North Korea a couple of years ago. Would recommend listening to The Lazarus Heist podcast if you're interested in the DPRK.
I deleted Instagram because I know I would unfortunately stalk my ex and his company. I am no longer doom-scrolling through sad breakup reels and other things that are a waste of time. I have experienced the JOY of missing out. Thought it would be super difficult to give up social media like that but it is helping me live in the present moment. It's so freeing to consume YouTube and movies as opposed to solely short-form mind-numbing content. Gives you more to talk about too. I am keeping in contact with maybe five friends over text and the others? It helps you realise who really has your back. Quality over quantity. My friends have been screenshotting pictures of cute animals to send to me, and although I'm sad I can't return the favour like that, it makes me happy.
Doing my assignments is still really difficult. I will try to apply for extensions.
Tomorrow I am visiting the GP and then the day after, I am touring a gym that's nearby.
I am looking forward to getting myself back. I might cry tomorrow. I might agonise over the future or the past. But whilst it hurts, this change is one of the best things that I think has happened to me. I am so relieved for some reason.
Hmm... the period underwear does the job but they have drawbacks that mean I'm not loving them. No idea if it's because they're cheap Kmart knockoffs but... err. Yeah. :/
I found my old menstrual cups but while they look to be in good condition with no damage they're like 10 years old now, and have been stored improperly, so even after washing and boiling I'd be concerned about safety/TSS. Wondering if it's worth the considerable outlay to buy another one or two.
(I'm aware that there are more affordable brands than my preferred one but those ones don't suit me at all and there's no point in buying them.)
Whoops posted in the wrong thread. That's a good sign that I'm staying off the phone.
I've been thinking of trying this cool vegan shepherd's pie recipe but I think I'll keep it for a colder month. For now I'm contemplating a basic roast veg for dinner, or... maybe some adaptation of borscht? I have 1 fennel bulb, 2 beetroots, potat, and a quarter head of red cabbage. Plus a tin of beans.
E: went with borscht adaptation. There's no fennel in there but plenty of leek, a bit of celery, two beets and two potat plus some leek greens. Not authentic but tastes pretty alright once cooled down.
I may have added a fair chunk of butter ๐ฌ and I snuck in some ajwain seeds as a thymey alternative to carroway + helps with digesting the cabbage. Adding a chunk of miso paste was probably a step too far, but whatevs. Umami ๐
I've been poking through old emails for a while and found my old library card number. Out of curiosity I logged in (apparently they don't shutdown your account after 2 years like the others I've been with). Apparently I forgot to return an item and my accounts been barred with a $50 fee. Honestly not as bad as I was expecting, although I don't remember them ever emailing me about it.
Apparently they've also rebranded which is nice. I remember them as being a drab grey building with "area library corporation" written on it. Apparently they've dropped the corporation part of it and redecorated, which is nice
Edit: the book is over 6 years overdue, so at least it's not a monthly fee ๐