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Is it really just ageing/ getting older? How is this supposed to work? How is everyone else doing this?
  • Nope. Not normal sounding to me. Even your doctor says it's not normal if you think about it, he thinks it's early. As everyone else states, second opinion time.

    Everything you listed, I get, but at a mere fraction, save for the swelling, nothing here. Beyond seeing another doctor for a second opinion, it sounds like you're physically fit, which is more troubling. I am kind of fit, and sometimes my back hurts. What makes it go away? Working out my core muscles in a regimen after a few weeks. Staying active.

    I am 40 fwiw, and you sound far worse off than I feel. See another physician.

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    Colin Gray, father of Georgia school shooting suspect Colt Gray, formally charged in connection with son's shooting spree
  • Can we go out on a limb and say the father is even being sort of abusive here? I mean... Here's a very dangerous thing that can cause people to die. Go have fun.

    I get it isn't that simple but... I have a kid. I also have guns. My kid wants to learn to shoot one day.

    There's a big heavy door, and a lock. No way for my kid to access them without me. No access.

    There's criticizing another's parenting choices, and then there's abuse and I am starting to think this is abusive.

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    Ford joins list of companies walking back DEI policies
  • Yes! Yes they should. I'm not sure they can be. Not with so many companies out there.

    I work for a company in a location in a modest sized upper Midwest town. It is a decidedly white area. Yet, even with rather easy hiring requirements, the store is whiter than the area by a considerable margin. The GM sees fit to refuse staffing certain departments with women. At all. He's openly used the n-word on the sales floor. He was called to the mat for that, and even with a history of bigoted activities and remarks, still has a job.

    This is only an example. So yes, they should. But they don't.

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    Lily Allen Faces Backlash from PETA After Rehoming Pet Dog
  • I don't know, I mean an uproar over someone doing something responsible in getting rid of a pet is pretty stupid. You can say all you want, "oh no it ate something boo hoo" but that could have been the wake up call showing them they were not able to or willing to dedicate the time to properly care for the dog.

    Maybe the passports were the latest thing and they realized it was their fault they were eaten, cue the soul searching and decision to put it up for adoption.

    Seems a lot better and far less controversial then shooting it.

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    US delivery workers swelter in record heat – many without AC in their vans
  • I don't remember all the details, but the contract UPS signed as a strike loomed included A/C in all new vans.

    They will fix, update, retrofit, duck tape, weld and repaint the existing vans until the wheels absolutely fall off. For years.

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    Men in their 40s, what’s one piece of advice for men in their 20s?
  • Try to take the time to care for your mental and emotional health when you need to, then, instead of stewing for years and years. I made the mistake of rolling with it, turned 35, and I'm lucky to still be here at 40.

    Still struggling. Wish I'd spoken with someone years ago.

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    What is something people you encounter at your job say that makes you want to scream? (Job, person & quote)
  • Not what they asked for. Duck tape is a brand, and is in my department. Duct tape is in plumbing which also does HVAC products, and is actual foil tape with a peel off backing, actually used for ductwork.

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    What is something people you encounter at your job say that makes you want to scream? (Job, person & quote)
  • I work retail. People walk up to me like I'm a robot.

    "Duck tape??" They just... Bark at me. I have gotten to the point that I refuse to tell them where something is until they treat me like a human being and ask a very simple question, "where's duck tape?"

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    Important stuff still takes about 100x though
  • My toddler absorbed "goddammit", and used it correctly! Was reaching for a toy on a high(ish) table, fell, knocked toys over, and landed in a heap. I hear, "goddammit" from behind me, and feel my wife stating daggers at me! Fun times.

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    Obama Joins Dems Urging Biden To Exit Presidential Race
  • Each and every one of the politicians in and adjacent to the democratic party better have one hell of a plan if they're being this brazen in their calls for him to step back. This is really not good.

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    How the automobile industry turned us into SUV drivers
  • As Kongar said, I agree, the new car is an suv. Which... Is by and large not great, but also what's an SUV now?

    When I was a kid by parents had one of the original Nissan Pathfinders. The one with the spare wheel that swung away, definitely 4wd, and so forth. OJ Simpson ran from the cops in a white Bronco.

    Those were SUVs. Today's monster Expeditions and Suburbans are SUVs.

    At introduction, the Subaru Outback was a station wagon. Now... It's an SUV? I have a 2022. No, it's not small, but I have a kid and we use the trunk space and the awd all the time. Winter sucks here, and there are dirt roads. But to me it's a car. But on paper it's an SUV.

    I am sure there's a real distinction, but... Next to a Tahoe or a Grand Cherokee it is absulotely not an SUV. It's a car with awd and a beefy-ish suspension.

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    Simple question: Are you a nice person?
  • No.

    I am a good person with a capacity for kindness. The difference? It's not reflex.

    Nice is the guy waving you through at a stop sign when it's their turn. Sure there's good intention, but seriously? No.

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    Why we gave up on learning how to play an instrument?
  • Guitar is the only hobby I acquired that never took. I wanted it to take, but did not have the funds to pursue lessons.

    I could not get over the beginner hurdles of how to strum, how to really hold the pick, and so forth. If I could have taken lessons or gotten past that I might have learned and still be playing today instead of seeing the case just sitting there collecting dust.

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