Und wir sind dabei es noch weiter zu verkacken. Nicht Vergangenheit. Es passiert doch immer noch nicht ansatzweise genug.
Um wirklich Rat zu geben müsste man viel mehr über die Umstände und die Firma wissen.
Welche Regelungen gelten zum Beispiel zur Arbeitszeit? Und ich meine nicht Absprachen sondern vertraglich. Denn wenn Abmahnung in den Raum gestellt wird, gilt am Ende nur noch was man nachweisen kann.
Eine Abmahnung weil jemand ungenanntes etwas gesagt hat ist ggf. Anfechtbar.
Generell würde ich empfehlen sich an die Regeln zu halten, dir alle Korrespondenz schriftlich geben zu lassen und mündliche Absprache noch einmal per Email bestätigen lassen.
Ansonsten die Spiele nicht mitmachen so gut es geht. Dabei nicht in Details gehen. Dich nicht rechtfertigen und sich nicht angreifbar machen.
'mir kam zu Ohren sie beenden ihren Arbeitstag häufig Früher.'
'ich gebe nichts auf Gerüchte und würde jedem empfehlen dasselbe zutun.'
'gehen sie also nie früher?'
'ich halte mich an die regulären Arbeitszeiten und gängige Praxis hier im Büro.'
'wollen sie damit sagen, andere gehen auch früher?' Wer zum Beispiel?'
'ich bin zu sehr mit meiner Arbeit beschäftigt um die Arbeitszeit meiner Kollegen zu protokollieren.'
Mal so als Beispiel. Solche manipulierenden Chefs kann man oft aussitzen. Freundlich bleiben. Aalglatt sein. Wie ein Politiker antworten. Nicht emotional werden.
Generell ist es ja Pflicht Arbeitszeiten in Deutschland genau zu erfassen per Gesetz. Wie sieht denn euer Modell aus?
The butocracy can be absolute hell as are a huge emphasis on being punctual.
But at least we got a decent enough Healthcare to actuslly get therapy and meds if you need them. It's barred behind said hellish butocracy. But at least it is there.
Thanks! Gotta put those pigment powders to good use.
I think that's what I'll do for the next models. Start with a darker purple but keep the highlights the same.
Ja, ich war auch auf genau solche Kommentare angewiesen um drauf zu kommen, was eigentlich mit mir los ist. Von daher danke dafür!
Kann man nicht auch erstmal ein paar Jahre nehmen und gucken wie es läuft?
Ich wurde drauf getestet aber die Bereiche die nicht mit ADHS überlappen waren niedrig im score. Ist also eher unwahrscheinlich oder ich bin auf der eher milden Seite des Spektrums unterwegs.
This super hero story is brought to you by Doritos. Literally.
weswegen nicht nur einmal aus einem einzelnen zwielichtigen Typen, der nicht ganz legal erworbene Dinge verhökert eine ganzes Netzwerk von Dieben und Ganoven wurde, dass mein geplantes Abenteuer übernommen hat.
Ganze Abenteuer bereite ich daher nicht mehr vor. Situationen und Zusammenhänge etc. schon aber was dann passiert hängt von den Spielern ab. Ich wette das Ganoven Abenteuer war eines von dem deine Spieler heute noch erzählen.
Just a normal alarm timer app.
Forget appointments? Lose track of time when doing things? I set timers. Most apps allow recurring timers. For example I got one going off twice each day to remind me to drink some water.
I gotta leave in 40 minutes so I got some time to read or whatever. If I don't set an alarm I'll lose track of time and be late. Easy fix.
As far as habits go.
Be honest with myself about my shortcomings. If I start gaming at 9 pm it won't be half an hour. Be honest. Go to bed now or accept it will be midnight.
No, I won't just do that later. I will forget. Write it down or do it now. Else I will forget.
That's awesome and really shows we can learn skills which dont align with our natural tendencies.
Also I find it hilarious and a bit scary how accurate this was then.
Ich fand immer die Rolle als Spieler langweilig und uninteressant. Bin daher Spielleiter und finde dass das perfekt zu meinem ADHS passt.
Ständig zwischen vielen NPCs hin und her springen. Die Handlung antreiben wenn die Spieler rum dümpeln. Viel Fantasie in die Welt und Figuren stecken. Improvisieren und schnell in aufrenden Momenten denken.
Einzig die Vorbereitung fällt oft schwer. Da habe ich aber inzwischen einen fest und kurzen Prozess, der mir hilft.
Ich denke Leiten ist mir ADHS oft leichter als spielen.
Jo fehlende Zeugnis Einträge standen meiner Diagnose auch erst im Weg. Ich fand Schule immer mega gut. Ständig neue Dinge lernen, jede Stunde ein neues Thema. Leute deren Job es ist alle meine Fragen zu beantworten. Hatte immer top Noten. Sitze lieber rum als Sport zu machen. Kann ja kein ADHS sein. Das ging mehrere Jahre so.
Nachdem ich nach Schule und Uni mit Best Noten beendet hab aber im Arbeitsleben nicht zurecht kam, durfte ich dann irgendwann zur Diagnostik. Stellt sich raus wenn man nicht arbeiten kann will die Krankenkasse dann doch irgendwann, dass sich das ändert.
Fragebogen klar ADHS. Alles andere so an der Grenze knapp nicht. Verdacht ich wäre evtl hochbegabt. So ein IQ test gemacht. Ergebnis seltsam, könne so ja nicht sein. Anderer Intelligenz test. Ergebnis genauso zu hoch wie das erste. Bin wohl extrem hochbegabt.
Dadurch gleiche ich einiges aus was mehrere ADHS Symptome maskiert. Seit ich in der Therapie immer mehr lerne mit meinem ADHS geschickt umzugehen, habe ich auch im Job mehr und mehr Erfolg.
Aber einfach ist auch anders und das System erfordert durchhalten was nicht unsere Stärke ist.
You are immature for your age and try to now grow up. You think you are smarter than most people, which you are, but not by as much as you think. For that reason you struggle with impostor syndrome and hold yourself back from achieving the career you actually want. But still you manage to come off as condescending to people around you.
Please don't take this seriously.
I do make more deliberate choices on what I expose myself to content and general life experience wise. Because when it comes down to it I don't have a say in where the next hyperfixation takes me.
For example I am staying the hell away from trading card games because I enjoy being able to pay my rent.
A TV? I don't have that.
Earlier today I was browsing through shelves at a toy store to look for a last gift for one of my daughters. That's when I hear an excited voice ask one of the store employees 'do you have dungeons and dragons?'. I listen in and learn that they do not have any DnD material at all and also can't order it. I walk a bit closer and see 3 12 year old ish boys and a girl with disappointed faces. The employee also can't help them where to find dungeons and dragons products.
Now I live in Germany where you can't find dnd boxes at the likes of Target like in the US for example. In fact I know of 2 stores in the whole city which carry DnD books and material.
I step in and ask if I may help out with the question. I tell them that there are 2 stores which carry the books, dice and more on the other side of the city. They said that's far away but they'll try to go there in Saturday.
We get talking and they tell me about how they are looking to start a dnd club at school and also play at home. They got a set of dice and saved around 70 euros for a book and maybe some more dice and such. I tell them that'll buy them the players handbook which is a good starting point and maybe some extra dice.
They ask me if I played as a kid and I said yes, in fact I still do and I'll be playing tonight. That's when I made a weird decision in my head. I had all my stuff already with me so I don't have to go back home between work and game night. I opened my backpack and gave them my copies of the PHB and Monster Manual. They were super excited and actually insisted to pay me but I'd have felt bad taking money from them.
I didn't want to post this as virtue signaling stuff or anything. It was just kind of a crazy decision I made that I think was kinda cool. They just reminded me so much of me when I started out. We were lucky to get our first dnd books gifted by an older brother of one of our group's members. So I wanted to pay it forward. Now I just have to figure out how to run tonight's game without my books.
I recently got into my first tabletop Miniatures wargame, a song of ice and fire. This is my first unit painted. Before I only ever painted DnD and Pathfinder minis which at best I used for OPR fantasy Skirmish.
Hey. I was told having issues controlling anger or emotions in general can be related to ADHD. I know I get WAY angrier than anyone should ever be sometimes.
Especially when injustice and ignorance come my way. I get furious beyond anything I've ever seen or heard of anyone else talk about. Maybe aside from depictions of killers or berserkers in fiction. It's not cool.
Only a few times have I gotten in trouble for it luckily and I never actually done anything more than shout the most disgusting insults at someone.
Now I do feel bad afterwards if I got angry at someone I like. But often enough I feel they fucking deserved it. If someone is an ignorant asshole willingly ruining someone's day, week or life they deserve some ruin thrown back at them. I know this might not be a good and healthy thing to think. But if someone provokes someone don't they ask to be yelled at?
I know they do this to 'win the argument' because of that imo idiotic notion that who yells first is wrong. But honestly I rarely care to be right enough for shit to matter.
I've read a few books on anger management and some techniques help a bit. But the amount of anger described in the book seems so very mild to me in comparison to what I experience and how fast it builds up. One book told me to count to three. I am ready to launch nukes before I reach 1. That won't work.
And I don't get angry at something. I have pure rage and fury, hatred and contempt for existence itself at those moments. Angry really doesn't cut it. It's scorched earth, blown it all up and piss on the ruins kind of anger.
So anyone else experience this? Any tips to deal with this shit?
Hey everyone.
I got the steam game on a sale some time ago. Now my wife is playing it a lot more than me through family share. Her birthday is coming up and I'm thinking about getting the game for her as it also won Spiel des Jahres this year.
Have any of you played the game? I'd be happy to hear any experiences you want to share.
If you look closely there are some parts where the 3D print failed. I got to hide some with green stuff and left the rest. Still decided to paint these and I'm pretty happy with the results. I think sometimes it's important to settle with good enough in this hobby.
Do we even do terrain here? Well I put some minis on it so I am pretty sure this still counts. ;) I finally finished a large chunk of the terrain I had begun a few months ago so I put it on the table to see some possible layouts.
All terrain is crafted from scratch from XPS foam, sand, toothpicks, some bits, tufts and moss. Heavily inspired by Black Magic Craft on YouTube (namely modular ruins, dungeon tiles, pillars, dungeon stackers). The acid pools and spike traps I came up with myself.
I'm posting because I'm a bit bummed out I guess. I began the whole diagnosis process because I wanted clarity of wtf is going on with me. A clear no it's not ADHD would maybe even have been a more satisfying answer than this.
Apparently I either have ADHD and my high intelligence allows me to compensate so much it masks symptoms for the tests. They did two intelligence tests which came out way above average it seems. I hope this doesn't come off as bragging. It really isn't as much of a gift as it may seem.
Or I don't have ADHD but my cognitive function shows some similarities. And I'm also super smart. But somehow I can't put it to use when it comes to my life due to issues with emotional regulation and tolerance for frustration which I don't have much off.
How this affects my life is I can't focus or do things I don't find interesting at all. Same with things that don't offer anything new to me. Being intelligent means I understand and figure out new things super quickly. But that means I get bored quicker and then struggle to do the thing. So I hopped jobs, surprise everyone how crazy good I am at the job and what a fast learner I am and whatnot. Then I hop job to the next. It never amounts to anything. And I got burnout or boreout. Depression. All that fun stuff.
Buf They can't tell for sure which one it is by the metrics they use. Which just is so unsatisfying after it took to long.
The good news is the result still qualifies me for trying out meds should I decide to do so. Same for getting therapy paid for by insurance. It's nice to have options so I'm happy for that.
Thanks for letting me vent my frustrations.
Quick and dirty paint job in time for Thursday night Pathfinder game. Printed on Mars3. Sculpts by Artisan Guild.
I noticed a severe lack of undead among my minis. More skellies to follow.
Models are 3D printed on my Mars3 and designer by Artisan Guild.