It's like the Star Trek prime directive; it's a guideline that can be broken, not an absolute rule. You can tell someone that they might be trans if it's clear that it's the push they need. However, you do need to make sure that they'll be receptive to the idea before you say anything. At the end of the day, it'd just be your judgement, and your judgement could be wrong.
It's buggy, doesn't properly support screen sharing, doesn't properly support voice calls, and all the available clients are hit or miss over which features they have. I personally think it's harder to switch over from Discord to Matrix than from Reddit to Lemmy. Matrix sucks, but that's probably because it's built for businesses organizations to use, not common users like us. For that reason, I still think we need a real replacement to Discord built to be federated from the beginning.
That's why I shared this here. People should to be aware of when the bigots learn our terminology. It doesn't mean we shouldn't use the term egg, but we need to be even more careful about "egging," as it was already a bad practice.
You generally shouldn't call people eggs, not only because it could scare them away from self discovery, but because only they themselves can define their gender. Calling someone an egg is essentially invalidating their gender, and regardless of context that shouldn't be taken lightly. This "egg prime directive" is a good rule of thumb, but like the real prime directive, it's not absolute and is often misunderstood. It's less about protecting them from difficult ideas, and more about protecting them from you. You can easily mess things up and push people further into the closet, or you can simply be wrong about them being trans.
On the other hand, that doesn't mean non-intervention is the right call, nor does it mean you can never tell them what you really think. Eggs almost always need knowledge about being trans, and sometimes they even need a more direct push. However, you can never decide for them; they always need to define themselves in the end.
edit: essentially, you can't call someone an egg until they're no longer an egg. It's the egg paradox
What is this even saying? Art didn't pay well before AI so now we should pay them even less? What even is that logic?