egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics
Hey everyone.
I've been a little swamped in my personal life lately, and when I checked in this week it I've seen a few things that worry me.
Some of you may know that this community is one of the ones that replaced an old subreddit after the api stuff. There were some rules there that aren't so explicit here in our rules. I'll be working on rewriting the rules in our sidebar soon, but I want to make a few rules clear:
- This community exists to support people questioning their gender. Be kind and respectful if you're going to comment. I've seen some mean, hurtful, or angry comments posted here in the last little bit. Don't bring that energy here, a lot of people come here to get away from hurtfulness. We will remove comments and dm you privately.
- IT IS NEVER OKAY TO CRACK SOMEONE ELSE'S EGG. Many of you have likely seen the post that inspired this rule clarification and this whole post. I won't link it here, but this isn't just an egg irl rule. genderdysphoria.fyi calls it "The Egg Prime Directive". People need to find and define their own journey. We can tell our own stories, but we cannot dictate the stories of others. This is obviously a zero-tolerance rule, and is definitely ban-worthy. Absolutely not allowed here.
- Do not invalidate other people's experiences. I've seen this in at least one post, something along the lines of "i don't think this necessarily means anything about gender". Here's i'd like to refer to the rule #1 of !adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com: (Rule 1). Basically the entirety of this post applies; there are some aspects of questioning your gender that may seem mundane to an outsider. This does not mean that the person who posted this experiences it in the same way as you. And, for some of us, things that felt mundane to us before too took on a whole new and deeper meaning as we found our way on our journeys.
- We still have a title rule. Please follow it. This is a tradition of egg irl from the reddit days. We could at some point reconsider this rule, but I still believe it is a good one as I summarized in a post here. This one I'm more lenient on. If you break it, I will post in your thread and politely ask you to edit your title, and either forcibly rename it or just remove it only if the author doesn't fix it. In the future, I would like to even automate this part with a bot.
As I said, I will be working on a more official stickied rules post, and updating our sidebar rules to reflect as well, but I felt it important to post these for now. I owe understanding of myself to the original egg irl and I want this to be similarly helpful for other eggs.
All of that said, I'd also like some mod help here. A few things I'd want from potential mods:
- you have a local lemmy.blahaj.zone account.
- under that account you have a history of posting here / other lgbtq+ communities positively
- that if you become a mod, you also make sure to get set up with matrix so you can be in the blahaj.zone matrix's mod chat channel along with me.
- i'd also prefer cracked eggs only; the mods here should consider themselves protective roosters & mother hens, nurturing and guarding our precious lil eggs <3
Please post here if you'd like to be considered, I will be choosing a couple of mods carefully.
Eggy thoughts from my past self.
Share some activities you've been interested in doing but couldn't do because you're closeted.
Transmasc, Transfem, Nonbinary, and Gender Non-Conforming answers are all welcome and encouraged here.
Description: A meme in two pictures and two text boxes. The upper image shows an anime-style character, joyous and smiling, surrounded by twinkling stars. The text next to them says: "You realize you're trans." The lower image shows the same character, staring in despair, surrounded by darkness. The text next to them says: "You realize you're trans."
How would you react now or in the past?
Description: An edited posting by a user called "teaboot". The caption says: "Eight year old me, deeply in denial: Im [sic] sure all girls wanna look like that - That: " Below: The picture of a masculine-looking child (the character T.J. from the show "Recess") on a playground holding a ball.
> If you want to be a girl, you are one.
It took me a while to understand what people meant by that (or maybe I just couldn't accept it?). The difference between "I'm a girl and I like it", and "I want to be a girl" is simply one of perspective.
Source: Zal's Art Blog
Hmmmm 🤔
This old egg certainly has new tricks 😉
Galaxy brain meme
- I wish I was [gender], but I'm cis
- Just experimenting, still cis though
- Post-transition gender same as identified gender, definitely cis
Description: Variation on the Coolyori image macro format
In the upper picture, a boy reacts negatively to/rejects the statement "I'm into guys, but not in like a gay way... yeah, idk, I don't get it either."
In the lower picture a similar looking girl points towards "...oh."
I'll just be over here in the
closetcorner panik. Still cis tho.Picture of the announcement of a remake of the "Ranma 1/2" anime, overlaid text says: "Ranma Remake? So many eggs will be cracked"
No gatekeepers with valid opinions at least.
I made this meme to challenge my own doubt in 2022, and I'm honestly proud of it. However, I wanted to wait till I was more certain before coming out, so I tried to affirm myself in subtle ways. Unfortunately, I didn't realize how much dysphoria negatively affects me, so my mental health plummeted to the worst it's ever been.
Don't be like me and wait for impossible certainty. You won't magically have a moment where all doubts disappear. Logic can't help you, you need to listen to what feels most comfortable. I only knew I made the right choice after I took that leap.
https://bsky.app/profile/hausofdecline.bsky.social/post/3kqdkecwcxe2u
Alt text:
Men in a sports utility vehicle speed past a pedestrian and shout "you're fucking gay, man" and "gaaaaaay." The pedestrian waves at them, with joyous tears in his eyes and says "thank you boys, you've helped me come to terms my with my sexuality!" The men in the car consult a list of names and one asks "ok, who's next on the list?" They pass by another pedestrian and shout "you're trans!" and "admit you're trans, idiot!"
Also, pretty sure those guys have been in my subconscious every night.
I have searched for the specific barbie movie I had in mind and I can't seem to find it. I just remember that barbie was like exploring some castle like thing because she was sent there alone. She walked around and then in one big room, the floor opened up and had a circular magical hole in it, which led to a different world where the grass was minty green and I love that sort of stuff
All the strength to the eggs who spend the easter holidays with their families and have to hide who they are.
Description: A variety of bushes and flowers in a garden. The caption reads: "Eggs during the easter holidays"
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Sauce: https://twitter.com/SketchyRhemie/status/1596531375791755264
Photography of an Ikea ad showing a closet filled with Blåhaj plushies.
Above the closet is written (in German): "Or for everything else you have."
Below the closet is written (in German): "Inspired by life." next to the Ikea logo.
Experienced some misogyny the other day and it made me feel awesome gender euphoria.
