I feel like people are looking for a quick pill to take that will make them all better. So when they don't get it, they become jerks.
Wish that happened to me. I have to clarify the REAL Avatar.
We, the mods of !autism@lemmy.world, are writing because we have alerted the users of our community that we will report their accounts should they explicitly identify that they are under 18 years old in a comment or post shown on Lemmy World to enforce the Lemmy World Terms of Service (ToS). In said post, several users have brought up arguments and hypothetical situations that we would like discussed by the Lemmy World admin team and other mods to get clear guidance on expectations of our moderating actions and help clarify the concerns of the users in our community.
Basically, the main argument we see is concerning the federated organization of Lemmy and the Fediverse in general. The ToS state that:
4.0.2: You are at least 18 years of age and over the regulated minimum age defined by your local law to access Lemmy.World.
4.1: No one under 18 years of age is allowed to use or access the website.
That clearly states that anyone under 18 years of age cannot access any of the site. However, users are arguing that if a user that is registered on another instance is under 18 years old and posts in a community or comments on a post that is originally from Lemmy World, that user is technically not accessing the site directly. Instead, they are interacting with their instance, and that instance interacts with Lemmy World through the Fediverse protocol. That user did not directly interact or access Lemmy World. The information from Lemmy World was forwarded to them, and the information they shared was forwarded to Lemmy World. This brings up some nuances with expectations for moderating in Lemmy World in general.
Are mods expected to report or ban a user of another instance that explicitly identifies themselves as under 18 years old through a post or comment that is federated into the community that we moderate? Another situation that will likely arise is that of a user of another instance making a post on their instance.
If their post is cross-posted to a community we moderate on Lemmy World, are we to delete the cross-post?
Who would be in violation of the ToS because of the cross-post: the original poster or the cross-poster?
Yet another situation that could easily arise revolves around a Lemmy World user engaging with other websites or internet services.
Suppose someone on another website or service strikes a similarity to a user of the actual Lemmy World instance and identifies as under 18 years old, are mods expected to investigate and enforce the policy of reporting and/or banning the user from Lemmy World based on a judgment call? We want to be clear that the purpose of our post is to clarify the expectations that the Lemmy World admin team has of its mods so that we can conscientiously and dependably comply with the policies that are set to help manage the instance.
I did consider that myself. We do work on a case by case basis, and I can agree that a first time offense should be dealt with as has been done thus far. Let us take a moment to discuss it, then I will update with what we decided.
Hey everyone! I just wanted to let you all know about a little change we are making in how we mod.
As you may or may not know, the mod tools are sparse, for the time being, at least. So we only have a few options.
That's why we will be rolling out a new thing from this point forward. Call it a 3 strikes rule if you like.
This is meant to be an inclusive and friendly community. We work hard to keep it that way. There appears to be an uptick in issues with breaking Rule 5. In case you are unfamiliar, that's the be respectful rule.
In light of this, we have chosen to implement a system where the first offense of the rules (any rules) will be given a chance to reword or remove the offense. The next offense receives a 3 day ban. The third offense (again, any rules) receives a week ban. The last offense is a permanent ban.
Your community is what you make it. If you aren't safe here, we aren't doing our jobs as mods and as members of the community. We all need to work together to keep this place safe for ourselves. That is why Rule 5, in particular, is so important.
Please, think about what you are saying before you post. There is a human on the other side of that screen, and just because you are anonymous doesn't mean what you say has no impact. Everyone has bad days, but we don't need to take them out on each other.
Thank you for taking the time to read this!
E: Updated to reflect the nature of those in the community. Thanks for the input!
Lol I always get The Collector because I only listen to songs in my playlist.
I feel this so much.
I wanna play a game!
Body: nope, you're gonna keep doing this thing you're already doing.
Nooooooo, game!
Body: hahahahaha no.
I had to explain it to my husband. :(
I'm very interested in understanding. But I don't want to always be the smartest person in the room. I'm already the smartest in most situations I'm in IRL. If it was always like that, I'd definitely go crazy.
My guess would be that with the huge amount of American males (it is a big country after all) people just assume. And women are known to care about animals more, whether that is true or not.
I've been called a guy before and my name doesn't exactly strike people as male. I am female. I've been on the internet long enough not to care.
I would say no. Lots of the super smart people become eccentric. I suspect any smarter and they'd just end up flat crazy. Dealing with being the only one in the room who understands what you're saying can be lonely.
I'm working with a group of people, some 10 years younger than me, who don't really understand technology. It feels weird.
Oh so you've been a bowl of petunias I see
When I had kids, autism was still for boys. I think I'm in a minority though because I wanted kids a lot. So I see them as independent extensions of myself. I didn't get the socialization issues with them, and would make a point to bring at least one kid when they got older as my support person. They didn't know this though.
It was actually easier for me to be around other people when they were young because they gave me something to talk about.
I rarely think about the fact it might look like I'm making the convo about ne but this is definitely true for me.
Back when I had this issue, it was because I had a stressful job, and all I want to do is go home but you get people on these winding ass country roads who don't know them so they go 20 under!!
Now I just get mad if someone is stupid and almost hits me.
My biggest one is $30 total. That's also my only patreon currently. I will do more of those soon. I have a list. The youtube memberships probably add up to somewhere around that amount in total. Yes it's probably way more than premium. I really loved the pay what you want phase of music, but at that time I was broke.
I am a big believer of supporting talent whenever I can. I am grateful that I have the chance to do so now. My current budget for that stuff is low right now because we are working on moving.
Thanks to the state of the US, we would have been considered middle class before, but now it's back to lower. Your dollars don't stretch very far. I'm lucky to have a husband who feels the same way I do. We will never be rich in money, but we help as much as we can wherever we go. We also make donations to non-profit organizations we know don't use that money to line their own pockets. So those are the smaller places that always get overlooked. I foster kittens, and we sponsor each one. That means we pay the fees associated with adopting said kitten.
Apologies for the info dump, but it's a subject I love. I've been dreaming of the day I could do these things since I was in single digits.
Oh, hi, Mark!
This girl is at the end of her rope. Recap of previous post: my mouse pointer got unusably slow. Next day PC wouldn't work. 1 long beep, 3 short.
Changed the graphics card, nope. Just changed out the motherboard, nope.
So I did a lazy research because it takes a lot out of me (back problems) and I was tired. Turns out if you don't put the company in the search all kinds of stuff pops up that says gpu or insufficient RAM problem.
Why, if nothing changed in those 6 months it worked, would it suddenly need more RAM?
I have 2 sticks of 8GB but the original motherboard only recognized 1 stick. I don't recall having a limitation the 10 or so years ago I built my last desktop. This motherboard apparently only recognizes 12. Am I crazy thinking a gaming motherboard should not have a limitation like this?
I built my computer 8 months ago. 6 months later, the mouse pointer started lagging so bad it was unusable. I tried some fixes but nothing really helped. The next day, my computer didn't work. POST says it's the graphics card. Okay, I got a new one. It arrived today and I put it in. Nothing has changed. The fans on the old one worked, so it had power. Did I misread my beeps or do something else wrong. I know enough to build a pc, but not enough to troubleshoot it.
This is my motherboard. It doesn't have onboard graphics.
This is the old graphics card.
This is the new one.
Help!
As requested: 1 long beep, 3 short. No unusual flashing. It powers on fine and everything appears to be working inside, but it does the beeps and doesn't show anything on the monitor. This is the power supply.
Since autism in females presents differently, we need a place to discuss our own issues and triumphs dealing with Autism. Rules Be respectful. Adhere to the rules of the instance. This is a safe space, no mean, hateful, racist, etc stuff here. Men are welcome as long as they are respectful of our sp...
I was waiting for this group to be made and it hasn't so I did it. Come join us too!