Now that is a good quote
Hmm, good idea. In my case it was a career that would allow me to move back to my home country (which I had to leave when I was a child). I'll have a think about alternative ways to reinforce the identity that this path gave me.
not the other way around which is how this kind of feels.
Agreed.
In some ways it strike me that you seemed to see yourself as the future state person that you wanted to be rather than who you are.
Yeah, that seems to be the way my brain has been hard-wired to look at it rn :-( I will try to take a step back and reassess. I just have to find a way to detach myself from whatever my future plan will be which is hard.
Yes, it was a career with moving back to my home country (which I had to leave when I was a child) attached to it.
Thank you, this reply helps. You're right, my post was quite vague, and I didn't want children or found I was sterile, but the advice given to those people would actually perfectly fit my (completely different) situation too.
Hmm, I suppose it is quite vague. I just thought the problem was quite generic (and so would be its solutions) and thought the specifics would be a distraction.
Hmm ok, I'll have a look at it
For most of my teens I (21) had a broad but distinct vision for what I wanted my 20s to look like. It was everything I liked, I was looking forward to it, and was planning around it. Unfortunately it now seems that a central tenet of that vision will not be possible and I'm gonna have to rethink my 20s to suddenly look radically different (not sure how yet) to what I had come to anticipate. What's more, some of the things outside of my influence that I was sorta expecting to have happened by now (first kiss etc) haven't and I've found myself waiting around for them before I feel prepared to move on (they were part of the vision).
Unfortunately, since I had come to identify myself with and live in expectation of this path for my 20s, even when the central thing became impossible I tried to salvage the rest and make the side things still happen – which, as I have found, takes much more effort without that central thing tying them together. Since I've been planning around it for so long, I've sort of forgotten what alternatives there are so I don't even know what else could be right for me (or how to find that out).
I think what makes it so hard to abandon the future I was expecting is that it gave me a sense of identity. This might also be because I didn't like the life my parents had arranged for me during my teens. I'm afraid that if I try to go with the flow, embrace my actual (unhappy) reality and don't try to correct my course to at least partially replicate the future that was supposed to happen, I would eventually become a different person, which discomforts me. It's also the reason I'm afraid to try new things that could distract me from the (albeit now impossible) trajectory that I have come to identify with.
I guess this really leads me to ask what the bigger mistake that I'm making is. Why do I constantly need this future path/plan of experiences to guide me and give my life a feeling of meaning? How do I learn to let go and embrace whatever I'm served by life and live in the present without caring about where the path leads? I liked the feeling of certainty that having a (retrospective, almost?) vision of the future gave me but it made me a control freak.
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TL;DR: I blindly made my life decisions based on a future path that is now long obsolete, but gave me a sense of identity and my life/struggle meaning. How can I let go of it so that I can embrace my actual situation and retain my identity whilst on a path that may end up looking completely different and unfamiliar?
Hello everyone. I'm trying to style a web page to use Comic Sans. This has worked in the past as I have the font installed on my system (Fedora 38), and I know that Firefox can see it because it can be selected as an option for the default font:
However when I try to use it in CSS, it is not recognized:
I checked and other fonts are not affected:
I can't use the Impact font either. Both work under Chrome.
Does anyone have a clue about what could be going on?
Thanks
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This sounds eye openingly Putin-esque
Agreed. Capitalism is a horrible master but a good slave. Just like we regulated the other forces of nature (like fire) to harness them in our favour, so should we harness market forces to work for us.
Looking forward to having Mark on here
What are we waiting for guys? Get your beads and let's head outside!
Oh, I think that would actually be quite easy to implement. I have full control over how the windows look because they're decorated on the client-side with a custom Gtk widget library.
Thanks! Yeah it's just a normal GTK app that runs under Gnome.
Edit: not entirely normal. There's custom widgets for the orbs and titlebars.
I've been experimenting with re-creating the Windows 7 look and feel in Gtk using CSS. It looks super realistic now that Blur My Shell exists!
Please feel free to download the demo off my github and give it a spin! Also, if anyone would like to help with porting some widgets I'd be very greatful! There is quite a lot that I haven't yet managed to style.