If ur 30+ you can have romantic moments with women, which is nice.
102Well, if anon thinks he is too late at 30+ years, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
91I don't know if this helps, but I didn't meet my wife until I was in my forties. You have time.
58But I'm guessing she wasn't your first relationship?
8Correct, but the other ones sucked
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What d about fifties? Asking for a friend ..
5As @Num10ck@lemmy.world said: it's never too late to start being lovely.
As long as you're alive and capable of communicating, it's possible.
4It's never, never too late. I've seen men aged 60-75 get GFs and wives. One of them even had children with his new wife. Talk of the town is that one of these men never had a partner before.
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its never too late to start being lovely
48If you aren’t already and read this, then it is too late now!
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At 30+ my romantic relationships are far more personal and romantic then any relationship I had in my 20's...
40Well you had relationships in your 20s though?
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No-one expects their dick to just drop off on their 30th birthday until it happens.
36Nothing triggers my depression more than seeing happy couples
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50depression, not aggression
...but thanks for the meme, I chuckled
11I will always upvote scrubs! Man it's been too long...
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It takes a lot of work and compromise. You are getting one glance at a lifetime.
I got married sorta recently. My biggest hold-up was the fact that the most optimal outcome of marriage was this: I was going to spend the remainder if my life making them happy, always being there, and being an essential part of their existence, and when they need me most, in their golden days, near the end, they're gonna have to hold my hand and watch me fucking die.
I told them this before I proposed, and the crazy thing was, they were still all for it.
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30 is too old to date a girl, yes. Not too old to date a woman though.
27Yup, my brother married a wonderful woman when he was in his late 30s. They've been married >5 years and they still seem happy.
I've known people who found love much later as well. It's never too late OP.
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If you insist on it being a girl, then yeah, it's too late. Adult relationships have their own brand of sweet and romantic.
21I spent most of my 20s alone, and met the woman I married at age 33. It's never too late.
9Meh, it can be easy to feel like that. But take a moment to look at all the songs, movies, poems, and books about people who felt this way since the begining of time and know you're not alone :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovoBi3pXD_A
6He needs to switch from romance animes to hallmark romance Christmas movies
5decide to write a manga
3Lol relatable haha
Time to buy a rope
3Everyone complaining about the gross vibes of the post, which like yeah, true. But also even within the framing of the post itself it's just bad. The second and third lines are basically "realise X". The third line adds nothing of value to the original OP's intent.
-2What gross vibes?
Don't lump the guy in with incels. He's not blaming other people for his problems, or complaining. He's just lamenting. I don't see anything in his post that's gross. Leave a lonely dude alone. God forbid he let himself feel sad for 5 seconds.
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It's a bitter pill to swallow, but the truth is that some people just aren't meant to be loved. I think accepting that is, for some people, a bit part of growing up and becoming a more mature person. You gotta stop being envious of others who possess something you never will and just kinda...get on with your life. Find a cause you care about. Put your energy elsewhere. Maybe stop watching romcom anime.
-4A big part of the problem is that society as a whole took upon itself to ridicule these people are just aren't meant to be loved.
13I don't know if that's a part of the problem or just a separate problem altogether. We expect people to partner up, when we should normalize people being alone. When people don't or can't, we might be hardwired in our monkey brains to see them as outcasts from the group.
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That's pretty much where I'm at. I'm 38 and supremely pathetic in the eyes of society. I've just accepted that I'm entirely undesirable and live how I want to, or at least live in the way I'm allowed to. In a way I've turned into my parents where I find myself saying "life isn't a fairy tale" to people kinda often lol there is no "someone for everyone."
Love is for other people.
Homeownership is for other people.
Career enjoyment is for other people.
Retirement is for other people.
It is what it is.
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