I've heard it clears up again after the first wave of divorces

The problem is, everyone THINKS that they're the woman in this meme.

I know you’re not from the South because down there the first wave of divorces is at about 21 years old with three kids

Four suitors? What is she, a billionaire?!

I worked for one of the major dating sites about a decade ago. Let me assure you, that people act like debased hyperhormonal chimps in heat when they think nobody is watching. Oh, and by the way - someone is ALWAYS watching.

If you're a male who has some combination of a steady job, are remotely reliable, not drug or booze addled, have most of your teeth and hair and can tell a joke and hold a conversation - you're golden. It is UTTERLY unfair to ladies, but just being able to hold that low bar will get you much farther than you might think.

It's a strange dilemma - for a dating site to suceed, you have to protect the women. From the guys' perspective, it's shouting into the void, on the off chance you might EVER stand out enough to get a reply a week. From a woman's perspective, it's like the ozone layer protecting a constant bombardment of radiation and lethal rocks from space. A cornucopia of typically BAD CHOICES that manage to slip through the various cracks that the sites/apps put up to protect them.

But - the women ARE the site. If you have the WOMEN, then the men would follow you buck naked through the flaming tar pits of hell to get to them. But - the average male is a monosyllabic goblin with skeletons in his closet and bad intentions much more often than you'd think. It's why Bumble tried female-only communication initiation. The women on dating sites have an invisible shield tbey don't even realize exists around them to prevent bots, unsolicited dick pics, one word messages, repeat-offense harassers, and wide-net-casting quagmires who have more deeply held mysoginstic beliefs than they do good pick up lines.

No. No it does not.

After 35 is the first wave of divorces?

What's the movie? I really identify with corpse #3

The bigger problem is everyone has kids already. But by 45 or so you can start looking for people with adult kids.

I feel this in my core. Dating in your 30s is like dating at max difficulty

As a 35+ would you rather be with someone who’s had bad experiences in relationships, or no experience in relationships?

This is where I have massive respect for gay guys who just use Sniffies for outright hookups and sometimes don't even bother to learn the other guy's name. Listening to drag queen podcasts has taught me a lot, and that a sex life can be pretty straightforward for gay guys.

Solution: don't live in the US, live in Europe

I do not recognise the bodies in the water!!

No, wait, I do actually, that's Steve, he died last week, I wonder how he got a movie part after that. Lucky.
Oh, and there is Shelly, looking sexy as ever.

... oh shit.

I'm just waiting til I get to the retirement home in about 35 years, they're like huge orgies.

I wish I didn’t know this first hand

is this poltergeist lolll

The solution is to just stop bothering trying and accept that you'll always be alone, or that at some point you'll stumble upon a person who you like and likes you back.

Im lesbian and know 2 lesbians, so like, I doubt that's going to happen, so I just do the former.

Im not that ugly am I?

I'm at least a little bit more self-secure that at least I have eyes and hair!?

Am I the only one having a stroke trying to understand:

"clears up again after the first wave of divorces (after 35?)"

The real secret to dating after 35 - don't.

Folks are not looking to "date": they're after long term commitment OR quick hook ups. The middle ground really vanishes when you get older!

I don't quite get it. Is the problem that you miss being pursued by younger people?

This is so sadly accurate lol